Crazy questions, I know...but I had to ask

[Coffeeblack]

If you lost the partner you're with for whatever reason, and could no longer swing Would you miss the life and why?

[Alura]

I lost my wife of twenty-seven years a bit over three years ago to breast cancer. (Ladies, please never miss a mammogram!) I miss her with a terrible ache but the lifestyle, itself, was not important enough to me to try to continue as a single. In my opinion, swinging without a partner is not swinging at all.

About a year and a half ago, I reconnected with a woman I met in India in 1971 with whom I enjoyed a three-year love affair, only to lose each other because we were both traveling, a situation which made our mail go awry. It's been wonderful rekindling our relationship. Our communication is all we could ask for. We've talked and talked about swinging but at this point it's not likely we'll make any attempt to enter the lifestyle together.

Alura

[km34]

Why couldn't I swing without my current partner?

As for missing swinging, we aren't terribly active about it now, and I rarely miss it. It's fun when it happens, but I don't really worry about it when it doesn't.

[angelkin]

Heaven forbid anything would happen to my partner - but if it did, I am sure I'd take a personal break. However, I would continue in the lifestyle as a single and eventually seek to end up in a relationship with a swinging single male. I would miss it, I don't think I could ever go back to monogamy.

[Coffeeblack]

I posted this question, because I know of someone who had many experiences in the life with a fantastic partner. For reasons I will not disclose...they have broken up and are now with a new partner. The current partner doesn't swing. I'm not saying that (vanilla sex) or sex with one person is boring or bad at all. I was just wondering how difficult is it to go from the LS to a vanilla relationship.

I personally, think I would miss the fun of the life initially. Not that I could have fun or ever swing with a new partner. I remember reading somewhere, the average married couple is together 5 to 7 years before talking about swinging. Of course, there are always exceptions to the normal. Just thinking out loud.

[LFM2]

It's a good question, and God forbid anything happen to Dave. We're really not all that active anyway. I don't think I'd miss it. I might though... I guess I'd have to be put in that situation to really know. :/

[two4youinswva]

I wouldn't pursue swinging as a single. If I was presented with an opportunity to play with a couple, I would entertain the idea, but I wouldn't put myself out there as a swinger.

If I started another relationship, the ability to discuss swinging as an option would have to be on the table.

[WesternSwing]

Having split-up with my wife a year-and-a-half ago I have some first hand experience here. Yes I would miss it, but I also know that I don't have to. I am not a monogamous person. Never have been, never will be. I've tried for period of time in my first and second marriages and it just leaves a huge hole in my soul. Therefore, I only seek partners that are like-minded in ideology regarding non-monogamy and kink. I don't waste time trying to be someone I'm not or trying to convince someone to be something they aren't. There are plenty of people just like us if you just look in the right places.