My hubby and I have been swinging for 5 years. In the beginning swinging was in addition to our personal sex life. Now, it seems, that unless there is a 3rd or 4th or more-some, or, at the very least - non-stop talk of a 3 or more-some - our personal intimate sex life does not take place. Do other couples experience this same situation?? Does swinging become the "determinator" for any kind of intimate contact/alone/romantic love making session with your spouse?? Does one-on-one with the one you love happen less and less?? Just wondering how/if swinging has affected other relationships the same?