I always considered full swap as meaning that you will have intercourse with the other person. So, if your wife is having sex with the other man, I'd consider that full swap. If she is only going down on him, then I'd consider it soft swap.
I always considered full swap as meaning that you will have intercourse with the other person. So, if your wife is having sex with the other man, I'd consider that full swap. If she is only going down on him, then I'd consider it soft swap.
I agree defining things can be a pain, and I wish everyone could not care about it, but...
having some sort of definition is helpful if, for example you're like me and not interested in only engaging in oral, etc. but rather would like full intercourse. So, at least at some level, things like soft swap vs. full swap are helpful terms