WOW! I may agree with you, but wouldn't advice to take this road unless it's the last resort. If my wife comes to me with this approach, I'd be the one filing the divorce at first hour in the morning. Whatever I told her in our bedroom wasn't meant to be taped, nor she have the right to disclose it. Reching the point were I am being treatened and blackmailed using what I said because I (giving this approach) was MISLEAD to trust in my wife, there's no way back to rebuild the lost trust: I wouldn't be able to openly express my feelings and thoughts with my wife, afraid of being recorded with the purpose of using my words as a weapon against me!Originally Posted by SouthBond
Sorry, but, this advice doesn't differ from advicing her to file a divorce right now.
This people have a communication problem, she have issues with her self steem, he seems to have issues with the awareness required to swing, and IMO, with the awareness required to take care of a relationship (and I say, "he seems to", because all we have are the wife's perception from his behavior). They need to find ways to increase the trust in each other and in the relationship, while you're advicing the opposite: to destroy whatever trace of trust they already have.
I believe we should be more responsible on the consequences for whatever advice we may provide. What you said would be an acceptable provokation if you were talking face to face, because you'd be there to "catch up" the reaction, but in a forum, you risk someone to take your words literaly as a nice choice to deal with this (or a similar) problem, just to end up facing an even worst scenario.