Are you Poly?

[BigNikki]

Big Nikki here.

Although I cleave fiercely to my John, I could see myself in an FMF poly marriage. (MFM, no; FMF, yes.)

-- Big Nikki

[Big Rock]

My marriage is absolutely wonderful!!!!!!!!!!! I love both of my wives so much, and they have moved mountains and made huge sacrifices to make our love a reality, that I am way more certain of their love and devotion than I ever was during my vanilla marriage..

[two4youinswva]

Bumping this thread to see if there are any currently active members that are in a poly situation, or have been in a poly situation in the recent past.

[km34]

We were in an N formation before we moved... That just kind of fizzled since she wasn't willing to have a LDR.

[JustAskJulie]

What is an N formation (for those of us uninitiated)?

[km34]

Oops.. I meant to explain and then got distracted! An "N" is when there are two couples who are linked by one person from each dating. So it was my husband and me and my girlfriend and her husband. She and I were the link between the two couples.

Although in my case it was more confusing since we also swung together so all of us were sexually involved and really good friends.... Yeah. It was fun.

[DavidPenn]

I will say that our marriage is coming around to it, specifically creating a triad. Me, my wife, and my best friend are discussing it as they have strong feelings for each other. But we're still actively swinging for now.

[lokisgirl]

Wow - feel like I have just landed on my home planet here. Amazing. To find my own situation discussed so openly and interestingly. I read several opinions that this lifestyle seems to take a lot more work on an emotional level and at the beginning of my own experience I agree. It was an adjustment (mostly dealing with stereotypical, male ego issues instead of any problems involving ownership) but we got through it pretty quickly and have been incredibly happy ever since. The two men in my life have grown very close - closer than family and have even discussed approaching a lawyer as to whether or not there is some form of legal contract they could have drawn up that would give them a sort of family rights in cases of emergency in regards to each other and myself.

Anyway - wonderful thread.