First I just wanted to say thank you thank you. I have been lurking on this site for a while now and reading a lot. The information I have found here is incredibly informative for a person trying to decide if this lifestyle is right for them.
Ok here is some background info I'll try to keep it breif:
My husband and I have been married for 16 years and never even discussed the issue until a couple of months ago (I brought up the idea of a threesome with another woman) Since then we have investigated, discussed and played devils advocate on weather this is for us or not. We have decided we have nothing to lose as long as we keep the lines of communication open every step of the way and agree not to pressure the other. If one says at any point I don't think so, we will go back to our preswinging lifestyle.
Recently we met another couple online and after chatting several times we went out just to get to know each other better. It went very well and they seem to be very understanding to the fact that we aren't sure how far we want to take it. We've made a date to get together to play for Saturday and are all very excited about it.
The problem is I don't think we're (us and the other couple) are into it for the same reason. My husband and I are looking to extend our love making to include some things we just can't do alone. It is all about us a couple, and we've told the other couple this. They say they are fine with that, but then turn around and keep saying if things go well it would be really great if we could reach a point where we'd all be comfortable with doing things as just him and me or just her and my hubby. Seems to me they are looking for something I don't think we could ever give them.
So the question is should we go ahead and move forward with this couple or not. Keep in mind we have told them that we would only play together so we haven't misled them in any way. We are so new to this I'm not sure of the what's "proper". Any advice you can throw my way would be very much appreciated. I hope this wasn't too long of a post.