Worried about the repricussions of involving a third

[Spoomonkey]

Spoo: I know you were joking. For the record, I'm the Mr. of us. 2 small gold hoops in the left and 1 in the right. And to answer the next question, they don't symbolize anything or any lifestyle. Just something I did that I thought looked good, and still do.

I could never wear earrings... Unfortunately, I have a bit of an earring handicap. I did have an ear tag back before I was brought over for my short circus stint. Mrs Spoomonkey thought that looked pretty hot...

Spoomonkey

[WesternSwing]

Sharing a couple is not the first step to your husband going to hedo alone with some drunken floozy - actually, I think the first step in that direction is getting an earring when you're over the age of forty...

Hey... I'm 39 and had two earings up until a year ago... I guess I'm... gulp... growing-up?

Mr. WS (the man formerly known as Peter Pan?)

[Greg & Sheryl]

I want to swing- but have a hard time picturing my husband with any other woman. His suggestion was to just add another man- but I am not sure that is fair to him.

I don't know if my wife thinks that by me bringing up another playmate for her that it means I'll ultimately expect her to reciprocate or not.

If your husband is cool with the idea of just including another man, then you should be cool with it. As for SexhoundDog’s point, just keep communicating with your husband to see if he has any expectations in that regard. If he doesn’t, then everyone should be happy. If you decide later to include another female, that’s also cool, but don’t be afraid to pull back if that doesn’t work. Good luck!

[Summerwind]

My husband and i had another man in the bed with us. Let me say this, he had no regrets about it. not only was it fair but he got a huge kick out of it. Seeing me with anther man and then doing me. I tell you its the most erotic experience we've had. He even talks about it to this day and it was 5+ yrs ago. BTW... the men did not touch each other all the attention was on me!!!!!!!

[duwannaball]

Spoomonkey -

I believe the movie was "Goodfellows" ("Goodfellas"?) and it was Joe Pesci.

~DD

[Spoomonkey]

Thanks! I've never seen it - but I bet I've heard a ton of bad impersonations of it.

Spoomonkey