Ok- so after a plenty of discussing - what can everyone else tell us about the "slippery slope" of envolving a third or fourth person in their bedroom? I have discussed this AT LENGTH with my husband and finally have determined that we need the input of those that have been in the situation. We DO NOT want swinging to morph itself into individual activites. I want to swing- but have a hard time picturing my husband with any other woman. His suggestion was to just add another man- but I am not sure that is fair to him. I think that my main concern goes back to that "slippery slope". HELP!?!