Mfm

[JoeCentralNY]

I've been fantasizing about mfm for quite some time now. My wife is 5 months pregnant, had some concerns about pregnancy early on but everything is going well. Between being worried (she had two miscarriages after we had our son) and has been feeling nautious, she hasn't been feeling sexual.

She's always been conservative and a few years ago wouldnt have even considered watching porn. But lately she asks that we sometimes watch it during foreplay. She is picky and fast forwards thru lez, anal, and believe it or not hates to watch pussy eating.....

However, she always watches mfm. She does talk about it but it gets her really wet. One time a mfm scene was on video and we started having sex, she came extremely fast and it was intense.

I told her how cool it is that she is ok with watching group sex. She went on to say she hates two women. So I said what about two guys where one has regular sex and other receives oral. She said, "I guess thats the best scenario."

How do I get her to be open to this in real life? She usually is set in her ways, but last week for the first time she actually let me cum on her face. Although she said being preg she isnt feeling sexual I told her how much I wanted to do it and a few days later she asked me if I was ready. It was awesome.

But I really want to try MFM. Seeing her get so much pleasure would be awesome.
Please help!
Joe

[ShellyM]

Hello,
Well, everyone is different so I don't think she is odd at all. I'm the same way, I'm not very bi-curious so it is usually the mf or mfm scenes that I prefer.....I just HATE the ones where the man cums all over her face! Anyways, as far as her being pregnant. That is a decision you to have to make, I know as responsible adults you would not put your child in any danger. So, have fun!

[MoonLightKiss]

For us, doing anything while pregnant would be out of the question. What we choose to do with our bodies affects our children. Especially if we are pregnant.

As for discussing this openly...My advice would be to take the conversation out of the bedroom. Even though we are in the lifestyle, we agree that anything said in the bedroom is not to be taken seriously but discussed later. Why? Because in the heat of the moment, right in the middle of making love, people can voice fantasies, get all turned on by them, and have wonderful bouts of sex. BUT, afterwards, in the cold light of day, we realize its just a fantasy. Sit down with her one day and approach her openly. Explain how you would love to see her pleasured, and that you have noticed her expression when talking about the fantasy or watching it in a porn. She will either say yes or no. If she says no, drop it. If she says yes, then a more lengthy discussion can happen, in which you both can figure out what the best way to go about it is.

[justforfun 4744]

The wife and I recently had our first MFM threesome. When I first mention it montha ago, she brushed me off. I later brought it up while in conversation, sitting on the couch visiting. We agreed to find a good playmate and try it. It went very well, I really enjoyed watching my wife give and receive pleasure. I would also say to bring it up in converastion, outside the bedroom. You both will have to talk at length about it. The possible problem areas, and how they would be dealt with, setting your boundaries. With us it has been a great experience. Good luck to you both.

[HAPPYHELEN]

I Had My First Mfm Relation At A Party Of A Freind We Started Palyong Strip Poker And Whe We Were Naked My Boyufriend Daredme To Have Sex With Two Of The Guys Ther, It Was Fantastic, Since Then We Have Picke Up Guys And Some Of Our Friend Have Joingdde Us For Some Great Mfm

[JoeCentralNY]

Thanks for the advice...I know you're right. Here's the deal. Even though from how she acts she finds MFM really to be a turn on, I know she'd feel SO guilty about doing it since she is religious, believes in monogamy, etc.
However, she was never into facials, still says they're not her "favorite thing" but is cool with giving me a handjob and letting it shoot on her cheek...but she is in control and after the first shot pointed it down to her chest for the rest!

How do I help her not feel guilty about bringing fantasies to reality?

Joe

[BradAndJanet]

Well, Joe, you could show her this board...

She'll find plenty of other women here who share her fantasy.

Take it slowly. Right now isn't a real great time and after the baby's born things will be hectic. Believe me, having two kids is ten times worse than having just one!

You may have to back-burner any action on this one for a bit, but it wouldn't hurt to talk about it for a while while you wait.

-B

[MoonLightKiss]

Originally Posted by JoeCentralNY

Thanks for the advice...I know you're right. Here's the deal. Even though from how she acts she finds MFM really to be a turn on, I know she'd feel SO guilty about doing it since she is religious, believes in monogamy, etc.
However, she was never into facials, still says they're not her "favorite thing" but is cool with giving me a handjob and letting it shoot on her cheek...but she is in control and after the first shot pointed it down to her chest for the rest!

How do I help her not feel guilty about bringing fantasies to reality?

Joe

The part in bold is what concerns me. Until SHE overcomes this, perhaps now is not the best time. Alot of us here, as you will see are either currently religious or were raised in a religious environment. Alot of us had to find ways to overcome that and reason it out in our heads. You can find alot of threads on this subject by typing religion into the search engine here.

Brad&Janet are right. Have her come here and look around. Your wife will find out very quickly she is not alone in her fantasy. In fact she may find she is in a group that is quickly gaining momentum and popularity. Its not uncommon for women to have these fantasies, but its difficult to be open about them sometimes.

As for how do you help her not feel guilty. Be patient and understanding as only you can be. Remind her that you love her no matter what. Encourage communication first and foremost. Not only about the MFM but over general matters as well. Only by discussing it openly will she even admit to feeling guilty and then she can with your help work through it. If my husband and I left the lifestyle today, we would still take with us the lessons on communication we learned. Just being so open with him has taken our marraige to a new level. Don't press or put pressure on her. Allow her to evolve into this naturally. Lastly, Be ready to have to take a lot of time to get there, because it won't happen overnight.

[itbus69]

I am the male my wife and talk about mfm all the time we even pick out guys but have not got the nerve to ask i love to have a guy make love to my wife with me i am not looking for female this is for her no cum in the face just good lovemaking to you make sure she wants to you have to take care of her needs and resect

[JoeCentralNY]

I appreciate everone's input. I have what may be some good news. My wife just mentioned that one of her friends uses "toys." She thought it was weird since I had asked her only about a week ago if her friend uses toys (I thought it could help bring up the idea of mfm). This friend of hers seems to talk about sex a lot.

Anyone I'm really surprised. My wife actually seems open to the idea of toys. She used to be TOTALLY against it. From what I gather it would be for vaginal stimulation. So I told her about me envisioning her lying on her back with her head turned to the side and giving me a bj like she usually does during foreplay and using the toy instead of me using her finger. She seemed interested!! I'm thinking this could help the whole MFM thing. If I get her a toy and we do this I'll tell her to imagine it's a REAL dick inside of her as she's blowing me.

Think toys will help?

Joe

[Mr. Truelove]

Watching porn and fantasizing are one thing, and swinging is a whole other thing.

If she wants to use toys, great. It helps fullfill a fantasy for her, but it might just remain that, a fantasy. I'm just telling you that to prepare you that she simply might not be comfortable with the idea of swinging.

Now, I do think that her playing with toys and fantasizing is certainly an opening up, and some real sexual exploration is going on. If this matures into swinging so be it, but let her take her time. Enjoy the relationship you have now and the new excitement she is bringing into the bedroom. And communicate!

Mr. Truelove

[turnuptheheat]

Originally Posted by JoeCentralNY

If I get her a toy and we do this I'll tell her to imagine it's a REAL dick inside of her as she's blowing me.

Think toys will help?

Joe

Yes and no.
It is likley that she will enjoy herself and maybe get off better than ever with the toy and the BJ stimulation.
Will that get her to try swinging? Nope.
It may broaden her sexual horizons some and will be great fun for both of you, but if you are trying to manipulate her into MFM this way, it is a bad track.
Talk, read together and let her decide if she is ever ready.
IMO, I think you are about to open up new levels of fun, but not necessarily MFM any time soon.

[Tybee Swing]

Joe, this may seem a bit off-topic, but it just might be good advice, anyway.

Your wife is very pregnant now, and she's had two miscarraiges in the past. She's got a lot on her plate, a lot on her mind, with a lot more to come when the baby gets here. If she's being sexual with you and even exploring things like sex toys for the first time (yay), that's great. Count that as a good place to be with her! In fact, consider yourself lucky that your sex life together is so good while she's pregnant.

Getting around to using sex toys in marriage is a baby step, compared to swinging. I think you're reading way too much into interest in toys as a step to swinging. That's a really big leap. Many people who would play with a toy with their spouse wouldn't dream of swinging. Including other real people in your sex life isn't like just playing with a toy together. I'm not trying to discourage you, just giving a reality check.

If your wife catches on that you're trying to steer her that way with some master plan (i.e. manipulate her), it will turn her off. It will hurt her. If she's ever going to get to the point of swinging, it will be at her own pace. It's not something you can push her to. Does that make sense? Getting pushed only leads to resentment.

There's a huge change coming into your lives real soon, and that's a new baby in the house. Her focus won't be anywhere near swinging, I'd bet my last nickel on that. You might want to put that whole swinging plan on the back burner, and focus on where she's at right now. Best wishes, and congrats!

[JoeCentralNY]

Okay....I'm gonna have another beer and suppress my urges for a while

[Gladiola4u]

One thing that has been said here over and over which is good, TALK AND COMMUNICATE. When my hubby had brought this up to me I told him absolutely not, he then started buying Penthouse letters and read me the stories of swapping couples, he got movies that he knows I like to watch while foreplay and he easily and very slowly got my mind into wanting more.
He gave me time, and lots of it. Do the same with your wife, give her time, especially since she is pregnant. You don't want to rush her into anything that she might regret or say that she didn't want to do it anyways. Let her WANT it as much as you do and then take it from there.