Wife wants me to swing

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As several have already pointed out, you're looking at "open marriage" rather than swinging... and it can be cool.

To define the situation:

1. As of this moment, she's okay with you fucking other women.
2. She wants you to learn more technique to pleasure her.
3. It's very possible she wants to (or maybe already is) fucking other guys (or gals).
4. You sound surpised by her proposal.

While this is surprising/shocking? it's not necessarily uncool. Believe it or not, a hell of a lot of couples do exactly what she's describing, relive their adventures on the phone to each other, totally are in love with each other, and just have a sex life to beat the band.

Recommend that you have a get-down-to-the-rubber-meets-the-road honesty session. See what she's thinking, doing, wanting, planning.

Get on the same page. Decide if that's what you want in the marriage--

determine whether or not you're willing to give it a try

or

it's just not what you signed up for. Either way is okay, but you've gotta talk it out--maybe with online video chat (if you can't fly home).

Remember that she is who she is, you are who you are; the question is are you on, or, can you get on the same page.

Luck and peace....