Are there straight/straight couples?

[Tia Vampire]

Like others have stated, there are straight couples out there and it does take time to find them. We've been in the life-style for almost a year now and every couple that we have been with, the female half was bi or bi curious. Communication is the key. The women will not touch you if you do not want them to.

When we first started into this, it was difficult to find a straight couple. It seemed that if you were not interested in the bi woman than the women did'nt even want you to talk to the male half. We almost gave up on the whole thing, but like I said, talk over what you and SO wants and you will find either a straight couple or bi women that are willing to be with you and hubby and not touch you.

Don't give up and good luck in your search.

[iapr]

Don't fret too much over how people list themselves on their profile and pay more attention to what they state their interests are. Most importantly get out and meet people face to face whether it be meet and greets or clubs or whatever.

My own personal thoughts are that there are probably not that many true bisexuals out there and of the ones that are truly bisexual they have no interest in trying to "convert" anyone or having someone do something they are not interested in. I think a lot of people list themselves as bi, bi curious or bi comfy because they are afraid no one will notice them if they don't list themselves that way.

If you were to ask mrs iapr what her sexual orientation is she would say laser beam straight but she is listed as bi-cur because there are some forms of female contact she does like and is willing to do with the right people in the right circumstance.

I also think that society as a whole is in a bit of a "Girls Gone Wild" phase right now and it is considered cool for women to flash their tits and kiss in front of their boyfriends and nipple lick for a thrill but they are not truly bisexual.

Also there are a lot of men that fantasize about FMF scenarios and F/F play but are not comfortable with the idea of another man touching their partner. And there are women that are ok with getting a little extra attention and stimulation from women but are also not comfortable with being approached by another man. While they may not necessarily be 'on the market' to you so to speak it does not mean that they are truly bisexual.

There are definately full swap couples out there and even couples that do have bi females but a couple with a straight female is not a deal breaker. Do not let the fact that it seems the whole world is bi stop you from getting out there and having fun.

[MRnMSbhaven]

Originally Posted by iapr

and of the ones that are truly bisexual they have no interest in trying to "convert" anyone or having someone do something they are not interested in.

There really is a reason they call it BI sexual. I like it both ways. If all I wanted was girl on girl action then I would be listed as Lesbian. Would I like some girl action you bet! They turn me on. Is it a deal breaker that some don't? Not at all.

If we meet a couple that is straight then I'm/we're fine with that. As long as we share the same interests and are compatible then play time will be fabulous.
I have no interest in converting anyone or asking anyone to do something they are uncomfortable with. What would be the point in that?

MSbhaven

[The Fuse]

sigh35, it sounds like you are like many women who list themselves as "bi-curious", that is, you are pretty much straight but don't mind some contact with another woman.

I've struggled some with the whole bi-sexual woman issue...because many couples will rule you out if you say you don't want any contact. My level of interest in other women varies wildly, even as I appreciate the beauty and sex appeal in Mr. Fuse's play partners. Some I'm really not interested in at all, I have a mild interest in a few, and then there have been two women I want to have full-on sex with. Those were a surprise.

Personally, I solved the problem by listing myself as bi-curious and then being very specific in our profile, which says that most of the time I don't go below the waist on other women. When we meet people in person I am very straightforward (pun intended) with them.

[Hotwife Sharona]

Here is my take on this.

I am 100% straight.

However.

I have 'to be polite' or 'when the mood strikes' made out with/fingered/made squeal(when the men couldn't)/ or groped on women.

I am all about men. Single straight hot guys that do what I want. I don't mean that in a degrading way, I just want to be a princess until I tell them to treat me like a slut.

I have had to politely turn down MANY a couple who wanted to girl/girl up with us, and my Honey has had to let them down as well.

If you are straight-own it. Wear it like a badge and don't think you have to compromise WHO YOU ARE to be a swinger.

[Menage_a_Trois]

First off, welcome to the lifestyle!!! You are right most of the site you will find the bi, bi-curious female. As for feeling like an outcast, well personally you can only feel like an outcast if YOU allow yourself to think that way. We have been doing the lifestyle for quiet awhile now and have met a great many people, singles and couples, and while the bi…female does by far out way the straight female there are a lot of straight/straight couples out there.

As for you “having” to go that way to get action, HELL NO, unless you are interested in it. I have said for along time with regards to the whole “BI” thing and women putting down Bi-Curious, if you have a curiosity about what it would be like but haven’t actually done anything bi, then you are bi-curious. If however you have done the bi thing even once, well then sugar you are no longer bi-curious. You just took curiosity out of the equitation, so once that factor is removed you then have the decision of deciding if being a bi-sexual woman is for you. Now does that mean you will play with ANY woman, no – just like men we have our preferences. The whole using being bi-curious, bi-playful, bi-situational is just a crutch to say if I’m in the mood to do what I think will turn the guys on, blah blah blah blah………….

Mrs. Ménage & I both are full on bi, HOWEVER, do we play with women all the time, nope, we both want dick too…………..more often than not the play just ends up full swap with the other couple and girl play rarely happens. Because to be perfectly honest unless it’s a woman who just really presses a button with me I’m not going to go out of my way for girl-girl play, but that’s just me. Neither Mrs. Ménage nor I are into the converting of women. We pretty much figure if they are interested then they will let it be known. I don’t understand why women feel the need to convenience other women to become something they aren’t……….

If you are patient and just continue to meet couples and look around you will find out there a lot more people willing to play with the straight/straight couple than you might currently feel. It will happen. I would strongly suggest working on your profile and your wording as to what you are looking for as to appear more open to couple who have a bi-female and then you don’t have a problem with couples where the female is bi – you just aren’t into girl-girl action. Most of them will not have a problem hooking up with a straight/straight couple.

The Other Mrs. Ménage