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Question for one and all. What sort of foreplay (If any) do you usually indulge in with your swing partners and how is that foreplay different from what you would perform on with your regular spouse/SO.

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Well my wife doesn't know what foreplay is... she gets right to it... kinda bugs me at times, cause she'll be like... " you're not even hard "... I am kinda like duh, no wonder. I personally love giving back massages and foot rubs. getting just close enough to "private" areas without actually touching them -or- just barely touching them. I have also found that women enjoy it when you barely make contact with their mouth... just a slight touch - no kiss... before you know it they will be attacking you. It works for me, give it a hook.

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Question for one and all. What sort of foreplay (If any) do you usually indulge in with your swing partners and how is that foreplay different from what you would perform on with your regular spouse/SO.

 

To us, foreplay is sex as much as intercourse. We can't imagine just "f-ing" without also kissing, touching, oral, and everything that makes sex great. We do it all. We don't even think of it as "foreplay", because all of these things occur throughout a sexual experience with somebody else, are interchangable with intercourse, and we could even finish with "fore"play. Our preference is for longer, more sensual experiences. We also like group sex with another couple, all kinds of interactions going on (not just M/F M/F). People who just want to get in a room and bang for an orgasm, as little foreplay as possible, aren't our type. :)

 

The only thing I can think of that differs with swing partners, is that we use condoms with them for intercourse. Also, we don't want other men to cum in my mouth. This is for safety concerns.

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Every swing situation is as different as the swing partners are. There are times when foreplay is desired and times when it isn't. For instance, at a swing club, the dancing is foreplay a lot of times so when you get to the action, it might be all action. At home with another couple, foreplay can be for a long time in the hot tub of watching porno. And then in bed with a swing partner, sometimes oral and lots of touching seems the right thing to do and sometimes it's "give it to me hard and fast" from the start.

 

So for us it depends on the situation, the timing, and the people.

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Unless the play partner has specific likes or dislikes foreplay isn't any different than I would do with my SO. We don't have any "rules" about what either of us can do so we just enjoy whatever works with the other person. I personally enjoy lots of foreplay and spending time with my swing partner afterwords. Intercourse is only a small part of sex as far as I am concerned.

 

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Question for one and all. What sort of foreplay (If any) do you usually indulge in with your swing partners and how is that foreplay different from what you would perform on with your regular spouse/SO.

 

For us we don't do anything with our play partners that we don't do with our SO and vice versa...........foreplay is just as important if not more important for us since all three of us are extremely oral by nature.

 

Mrs. Menage

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Yeah, there has to be foreplay. In fact that is actually my favorite part of the whole experience. I love watching my wife performing oral on another person, and I think I would very disapointed if a group session was just ram it in, pull it out.

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For us, foreplay is foreplay. Mrs. WS is more direct and more of a "lets get down to it" kind of girl. For me, getting there is the funnest part. I love the foreplay part the most. Swinging this lets me indulge this a little more since many of my swing partners think like I do. Like Menage a Trois says though, we don't do anything with others we haven't done with each other. That's just respect.

 

Mr. WS

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foreplay is mandatory. There are times when I'm horny enough to start that we can skip it but typically it's a necessary thing. Even in swinging situations, we enjoy touching and kissing and licking and sucking (oral sex).

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As a male, every woman that I am with is different. Our first time together is an exploration of what she likes and dislikes. So even though we do everything with our play partners that we would together, it is slightly different depending on the desires of our partner at the time.

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Every swing situation is as different as the swing partners are. There are times when foreplay is desired and times when it isn't. For instance, at a swing club, the dancing is foreplay a lot of times so when you get to the action, it might be all action. At home with another couple, foreplay can be for a long time in the hot tub of watching porno. And then in bed with a swing partner, sometimes oral and lots of touching seems the right thing to do and sometimes it's "give it to me hard and fast" from the start.

 

So for us it depends on the situation, the timing, and the people.

 

What they said! :blush:

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Generally, I like a lot of foreplay. :facelick: But if the mood strikes, I can "get right down to it."

 

As for what "sort" of foreplay I enjoy? I love undressing (and being undressed by) my partners, massages, kissing, touching, oral, teasing . . . the whole nine yards, really.

 

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We are both hooked on foreplay. Our current male playmate luckily also feels the same way. Over the years it seems that if you go staight from Hello to lets F-ck the evening usually ends too soon and no where near as much fun.

 

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Every swing situation is as different as the swing partners are. There are times when foreplay is desired and times when it isn't. For instance, at a swing club, the dancing is foreplay a lot of times so when you get to the action, it might be all action. At home with another couple, foreplay can be for a long time in the hot tub of watching porno. And then in bed with a swing partner, sometimes oral and lots of touching seems the right thing to do and sometimes it's "give it to me hard and fast" from the start.

 

So for us it depends on the situation, the timing, and the people.

 

Ditto! We concur 100%, it so depends on the situation, timing and the people! :D

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Hell Foreplay for me is my chance to discover some of the things the lady likes touched, carressed, played with, and how ruffly/gently. I like the discovery, the soft sensual slow moving hands manuevering all along her frame, so lightly that the heat from the hands are more felt than the skin, slowly over the nipples, and down toward the stomach.....

 

 

sorry got slightly carried away :D

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We like it all. Foreplay is a must. It's a build up to the big delivery. The more we are turned-on, the better we will perform.

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I love seeing the wife kissing and fondling and she insist on it.

now that being said I know that when we do it it has more feeling to it or at least thats what she tells me

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Foreplay... :thumbsup:

 

I almost can't imagine sex without it anymore. :D

 

I find that what drives my wife nuts (and me) is for me to do nothing more than slowly undress her and then caress her body... AVOIDING the super sensitive areas (nipples and crotch)... I love the light touch of my hand just gliding around all of her scrumptious curves. Kissing all those places too is very nice. Full body massage... yep, like that too. Oh, and don't get me started on how cute those dimples are in a woman's lower back just above her buttocks. :facelick:

 

For any woman that I am with, I think it will be nearly mandatory... even if it's just some really close rubbing on a dance floor. I find that very hot when I can do that with a woman.

 

Geez... now I need a cold shower... :surrend:

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As for myself, I don't see much of a difference between fore-play and play. Penetration? May be, but it's part of the game. I mean, I may withdraw at any moment to "go back" to foreplaying... which would make it middle-playing... I guess. I don't even feel the urge for cumming, and I may not cum at all and still have a great time.

 

As for my wife... she aknowledges the difference. It reaches a point where she needs to have it and to have it now! LOL.

 

But, the way I play deppends as much on my mood as on my partner's mood and tastes (and this includes my wife). I think what really turns me on is to feel how turned on my partner is, and when that matches my mood, it's great. So, some times I am a teaser, some others I may play rough (if consented, of course), others I can play loving and sweet.... so, yep, it is different bu because every partner is different.

 

We have regular partners and I get to know my partner tastes. And of course, the most regular partner is my wife, whose tastes I already know like my own hand :)

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we don't do anything with others we haven't done with each other

 

Mrs. here and I think I'm gonna have to respectfully disagree with this point. Many times the things we haven't done with each other are very nice and part of what makes sex with other people so danged good. Plus if I see Mr. enjoying something we haven't done (list is pretty short) it gives me inspiration for our time later and vice versa.

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My wife and I have two kinds of foreplay depending on the situation: !) extended massage, cuddling, kissing and manual or oral orgasm for her before intercourse; 2) none, if we just want a quickie, as in the morning when I wake up with a hard-on, or the last fuck after we come home from the club and just before we go to sleep exhausted.

 

With swing partners, I always try to do the same extended foreplay that I am so comfortable with, i.e. long, slow massage, lots of touching and hugging and a pre-intercourse orgasm for her. Sometimes that does not work because the woman just doesn't want to spend that much time. Usually, that kind of encounter is not a good one.

 

The only exception that I can think of is the woman who does gang bangs regularly. Then I just get it up and pound away till I cum. Then she looks up at me and says ever so sweetly, "Thank you, sweet pea." She is a beautiful Kentucky girl whom I will never forget.

 

I don't really know what kind of foreplay my wife gets when she is off without me. Most of the time she seems reasonably satisfied. When I have been in the same room with her, the foreplay varies from terrific, if the guy is really good and thoughtful, to awful if he only wants to satisfy himself and gives no real thought to what the woman wants or needs. We have had to stop some guys that were like that and tell them to go away. One thing my wife is not is just a piece of meat for some guy to fuck.

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When I'm with a playmate, I tend to focus on foreplay, at least for a while. I enjoy making my playmate have an orgasm (or ten...) before we actually get to penetration. It's pleasurable for both of us and I like the slow build-up.

 

With Amelia... sometimes there is foreplay, other times we're just looking for a quickie. Nothing wrong with a quickie when the mood strikes...

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Foreplay is one of the best parts of swinging for us! We love to flirt, touch, kiss, and all other sorts of fun getting-to-know you types of activity. I have found that most of our encounters begin with lots of oral, and usually several pre-intercourse orgasms for the girls. Some of these the guys give us, some of them we give each other. ;)

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For me, I prefer a steady progression of mutual undressing (love it!), touching, kissing, oral sex, intercourse. rinse. repeat.

 

The Mrs. likes brief intercourse, touching, rubbing, then more intercourse. She has a really hard time getting started until you stick it in her. (doesn't have to be for long)

 

Mr. FC4L

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Lots and for hours!

 

We both love touching and giving sensual massage, moving onto oral all over the body.

 

Depending on the couple, we may participate in light spanking and flogging (soft items like elk leather, feathers and velvet).

 

I admit to being a giver more than a receiver, and am more patient about receiving after the first orgasm.

 

The tease and flirting is so important!

 

Whew, this is a hot topic! :sex:

 

Mrs. D

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When swapping, foreplay depends on the lady for us. I have been with ladies that foreplay varied from no foreplay to as much foreplay as I want. Being older, foreplay is important and I think that most experienced women realize it. Kissing is usually the one thing that I have encountered that is not allowed by some ladies.

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For Daniela and me, it depends on the situation.  If one or both of us are getting together with play partners when time is tight we will get right to a quickie.  The only requirement is mutual release.

 

When time permits, there is plenty of foreplay of all types.  In those situations, foreplay may start for everyone with one partner, switch partners several times, then end up fucking with a person we haven't previously touched that session.

 

For me, the hottest foreplay isn't me doing anything with another partner, and it isn't seeing my wife giving oral, getting oral, or even fucking.  It is watching another guy baring and playing with my wife's breasts.  The only thing that comes close is Daniela DPing with two other men.

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For us, what is considered "foreplay" can be done at anytime during sex, afterwards, even as a break during the middle of intercourse.  

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Swinging foreplay varies widely for us depending on the circumstances.  If at a club, then sometimes almost none at all, right done to business.  In a more relaxed setting, like an evening spent in the comfort of home with a favorite swing couple, then lots of foreplay, then sex, the rest and recovery, then more foreplay, then sex, then rest and recovery until everyone is worn out :)

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Context matters.

 

In marriage, foreplay is 24 x 7. Period.  It might be a hug, or unloading the dishwasher. It might be giving the other person time and space to reflect or recharge. But it's always about communicating to the other person how special they are, how desirable they are...and especially when they don't feel as special or as desirable as they surely are.

 

In the LS, it's also about communicating to the other person that you find them special and desirable ... and ... exploring our/their individual boundaries and sensual frontiers. We would add that it's also about *your* comfort zone.  We put a premium on flirting and seduction, all of which falls into the general category of "foreplay". 

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13 hours ago, Fundamental Law said:

foreplay is 24 x 7. Period.  It might be a hug, or unloading the dishwasher. It might be giving the other person time and space to reflect or recharge.

You're right!  And that explains why the Lesbian relationships among Clair, Lora, and me is deeper and as physically satisfying as it is with the guys.

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