Delaying Pleasure to Increase Desire and Excitement

[LikeMinds321]

There is something my fuckbuddy--Mr Playmate--hasn't done to me that he's dying to do. I have held him off, partly because of my not feeling ready, and partly because I want my anticipation for it to build.

I think the longer you wait for something, the greater the sexual excitement gets. I know I'm feeling it, and I can tell he is too! facelick

Have you found this true for you?

Do you wait to indulge in some sexual activities because you want the sexual tension and feeling of lust to build?

LM

[Vespertine]

I can't stand it. What is he dying to do to you??

To answer your question: I find that I'll hold off on certain activities until I feel more comfortable with a person, which in turn builds up sexual tension for both of us.

But if I feel comfortable with someone from the getgo, I won't hold back. I'm too impulsive and usually want instant gratification.

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

... Do you wait to indulge in some sexual activities because you want the sexual tension and feeling of lust to build?
...

Heck no, I usually don't have the self-control!

It does sound fun and I sure understand how antici.....pation can be very arousing. Do you worry though, that when it finally happens it will be a disappointment?

Is it kinky?

-B

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Heck no, I usually don't have the self-control!

It does sound fun and I sure understand how antici.....pation can be very arousing. Do you worry though, that when it finally happens it will be a disappointment?

Is it kinky?

-B

I don't worry about it being a disappointment. I know very well that reality will rarely be as good as my fantasies. But I don't mind.

I LOVE the feeling of anticipation swelling inside me!

My swinging experiences thus far have been extremely satisfying.

Ves and Brad - I ain't tellin'

LM

Tell us!!! Tell Us!!!!!

Or are you trying to build our anticipation as well..........

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Tell us!!! Tell Us!!!!!

Or are you trying to build our anticipation as well..........

Well since I like instant gratification and Brad has no self-control and the naughty's seem anxious to learn as well...

I think it's a 3 to 4 win.

You HAVE to tell us, LM!!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Well since I like instant gratification and Brad has no self-control and the naughty's seem anxious to learn as well...

I think it's a 3 to 4 win.

You HAVE to tell us, LM!!

I'm giving myself a manicure right now.

I'll ponder your request.

In the meantime, maybe you could make some guesses, or share some ideas with me. I am, afterall, still a newbie and need more input.

LM

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

You HAVE to tell us, LM!!

Dito

To answer your question...Yes

There are numerous times that either I will whisper something into Ted's ear or he will whisper something into my ear in the mornings before he leaves for work about what we are going to do to each other that night.

It makes the whole day go so much better just thinking about it. However, we're not very good at waiting for bedtime once he gets home in the afternoon and will usually head straight to the bedroom as we both have been on a sexual high all day and we definitely need the release .

Teresa

[TNT]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I'm giving myself a manicure right now.

I'll ponder your request.

In the meantime, maybe you could make some guesses, or share some ideas with me. I am, afterall, still a newbie and need more input.

LM

YOU TEASE...ROMLAO.

Teresa

[EvilMJ]

Okay I am more like you I guess LM... I have been known to throw hints of what I would be planning some time later in the week, just to get the guy's mind working overtime. It's fun...I agree I like the build up too.

And I also agree that you have to tell us !!!!

[BradAndJanet]

Hmmmm....let's see....does it involve that 'other' orifice?

-B

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Hmmmm....let's see....does it involve that 'other' orifice?

-B

That's what I'm thinking....

Or, maybe a little bondage.

[Salacious]

We both work out of our house and are in and out all day. When we're both in I always take every opportunity to fondle her. On my way out the door I always leave with her waving...with hardened nipples. We both look forward to the end of the day!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by TNT

To answer your question...Yes

There are numerous times that either I will whisper something into Ted's ear or he will whisper something into my ear in the mornings before he leaves for work about what we are going to do to each other that night.

Oh yes! It's great to send your hubby off with something to think about.

But waiting a day is a small amount of time.

What I'm talking about is months go by before IT happens. That allows for some high-pressure internal build up waiting to explode! This is the saucy stuff I like. I wonder if it has to do with being a one-man woman for 25+ years and never having been with anyone else before we met?

I have become a pro at patiently waiting for my fantasies with other men (and women) to come to fruition.

LM

[TNT]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

What I'm talking about is months go by before IT happens.

I can understand that .

We had an old Navy friend come visit us last weekend. When we first met (19 years ago) I "knew" he wanted me (confirmed by Ted telling me this ) but at that time Ted and I were not swingers, he was a very, very good friend of Ted's and things never happened or was spoken of. A few months ago he called to inform us that he and his wife were divorcing. Well this got my mind to working and Ted and I started talking about inviting him to join us in some play. Ted knowing I wanted him and that he wanted me. Now I did not know that he knew Ted and I were swingers but Ted had informed him years ago that we were. Anyway, Ted and I talked to him about playing with us and his answer was a definite YES. During the time we first brought it up to him and IT actually happening (about 4 months) there was a lot of going back and forth between the three of us about what we were going to do...the excitement level was over the top and when it finally happened it was wonderful.

ANTIC...I...PATION is the biggest aphrodisiac there is.

Teresa