Burning Question

[Elusive BiFem]

I asked this question in chat last night, but never got an answer. Granted, it was at the end, and GirlieZ tried to answer, but I didn't understand.

So here it is. I don't understand why two women would want to use a strap-on device when playing with each other and most especially in a swinging situation where there are men available. Sorry, guys...no gentle way to ask this. But really, why would you want some cold, hard, plastic thing when you could have the real thing? And even two bi-sexual women playing alone? What's the point? If you want penetration to that degree, why are you playing with each other and not men?

Now I'll admit...I've never seen a strap-on and might not recognize one if it walked up to me, but from what I envision, I just don't get the point of using one.

OK...so after months of reading and hoping someone else would ask, I've finally done it.

- EBF

[GirlieZ]

Originally Posted by Elusive BiFem

I asked this question in chat last night, but never got an answer. Granted, it was at the end, and GirlieZ tried to answer, but I didn't understand.

So here it is. I don't understand why two women would want to use a strap-on device when playing with each other and most especially in a swinging situation where there are men available. Sorry, guys...no gentle way to ask this. But really, why would you want some cold, hard, plastic thing when you could have the real thing? And even two bi-sexual women playing alone? What's the point? If you want penetration to that degree, why are you playing with each other and not men?

Now I'll admit...I've never seen a strap-on and might not recognize one if it walked up to me, but from what I envision, I just don't get the point of using one.

OK...so after months of reading and hoping someone else would ask, I've finally done it.

- EBF

To be quite honest, I haven't experienced a strap on. The thought intrigues me, so it seems. The thought of having penetrating sex with another woman does send tingles down my spine. Its not the fact that it is a penis, it is the fact that a beautiful, soft, smooth, sweet-fragranced woman is driving it. Men are sweaty and hairy...Don't get me wrong, I love my man's body and everything that he does for me. Its just different to have that kind of sex with a woman.

I have had sex with another woman using a double dildoe--that was awesome!

Zgirl

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by Elusive BiFem

why would you want some cold, hard, plastic thing when you could have the real thing? And even two bi-sexual women playing alone? What's the point? If you want penetration to that degree, why are you playing with each other and not men?

Mrs. Pairbond has thought the same thing! Possibly it's because that cold plastic thing is hard ALL THE TIME EVERY TIME, but still, GETTING a man hard is half the fun for her. Mrs. Pairbond even wonders why at a party women would rather play with women when there are men available. So when women start getting together at a party, she just says "Oh Goody! More men for me!" And she has a HUGE smile on her face when she says it!

pairbond

[TNT]

Ok, having been on both sides of a strap-on lets see how well I can explain this.

From the receiving end...it's pretty much like GirlieZ said...you have a beautiful woman over you, soft body, smooth skin, and tits that are pressing against your own. It's a much more sensual, soft feeling. When your kissing, the lips are softer and the face baby smooth. It's a totally different feeling than when a man is over you. It's not so much the actual penetration, although that is good, is more the overall package that makes it great.

From the giving end...for me it's a power trip...I'm the one doing the thrusting and in control. With a good strap-on there is also clitoral stimulation with the thrusting and it's quite possible to bring yourself to orgasm. You also have the soft, beautiful body to touch and feel. Being on the giving end is the closest you can get to actually feeling what a man feels when he is the one doing the penetrating.

Teresa

[JustAskJulie]

What Teresa said Dito

[DandS]

Good question EBF, one I've often wondered about myself but would never have thought to ask.

I'm still exploring female/female experiences and after reading Zgirl and Teresa's answers now I get it. Thanks guys, well expresed responses.

D

[Elusive BiFem]

DandS...I've wanted to know the answer to that question ever since joining the board, and kept looking - hoping someone else would ask it, but unfortunately not. Finally got up the nerve to ask myself - with a red face. Oh, well...if you don't ask, you may never get an answer.

- EBF

[ionsawmill]

Originally Posted by Elusive BiFem

...some cold, hard, plastic thing

My first thought, when I read this, was that you haven't ever felt Cyberskin.

We use dildoes with harnesses for double penetration, and Wifey sometimes can't tell which one is me and which one is the dildo.

I understand that mainly, for women, it's a control thing. There's a certain amount of built-in dominance to penetrative sex. That's just my uninformed opinion.

[des1re06]

My first strap-on is on it's way, and I can't wait to try it. The purpose of it is my girlfriend likes it, and I can be hands free (versus a regular vibrator).

My question is about the clit stimulation you speak of while humping. Is there a special model for that? I bought a harness with my pussy open so hubby (or another male) can stimulate me if he wants while I'm taking care of her. From a male perspective, does the harness get in your way?

I went with the silicone models from Vixen Creations and Vibratex; one large and one standard and wide. How many sizes do you recommend?

Thanks,

Mrs. D

[funcpl4life]

Originally Posted by des1re06

From a male perspective, does the harness get in your way?

I went with the silicone models from Vixen Creations and Vibratex; one large and one standard and wide. How many sizes do you recommend?
Thanks,
Mrs. D

Our harness is never a challenge to bypass.

All our attachments are 7-8" because they don't seem to penetrate as far as an actual penis. YMMV

Ziploc baggies are recommended for silicone toys. They can do a weird interior shrinking thing. again YMMV

Mr. FC4L

[des1re06]

Thanks for the tip.

I searched for one with a large head, and settled on the Silky by Vibratex, as it appeared to have what I'm looking for. If anyone has found a better one, please share.

Mrs. D