What do male swingers wear???

Thrax · 09-05-2006, 08:03 PM

Since Ms. Amanda appears to have copied prinicipal sections of one of her posts to Mr. TrueLove's thread and re-posted here, I thought I'd do the same. (Sorry Amanda if I'm mistaken about this.)

So, I said this afore an' I'll say it agin:

I almost always wear a button-down shirt to a club or house-party. I've found that women often like to play with the buttons, and it's turned out that it's much sexier to have a shirt gradually unbuttoned and pulled off of me than my trying -- or her trying -- to pull a polo shirt or over my head.

In the vanilla world I almost always wear an undershirt under a button-down shirt, but I rarely do for a swing event. It would just get in the way.

As for undies, I tend to go with boxers (usually silk or silk-like) for club or house parties. I'm not crazy about all the extra fabric, but they can be flattering if that's all I'm wearing and they let me dangle (important for those of us who are growers rather than showers). Besides, boxers tend to be flattering to about any male physique.

I don't like the extra fabric in boxer-briefs; I can't dangle and to me the extra cloth is superfluous as well as being uncomfortable. And I hate when they roll up when I pull my jeans on. (Yes, even the good brands do that.) So, to supply you with too much information, I usually wear Hanes mid-rise briefs (navy or black). They're not a bikini, but they're not the often-baggy tighty-whities either.

In the past five years I have worn more adventuresome undies occasionally, but that has been for playdates where I knew she wanted to see me in something much briefer than boxers. For first dates with anybody else, though, I'd stick to boxers unless something else was specified.

Amanda69 mentioned cologne. An ex-girlfriend taught me to spray the cologne lightly and then walk into it. Consequently, not only do I avoid an overpowering scent of perfume, but my bachelor bathroom smells a little bit better.

Finally...yes, finally...I too would also appreciate more "theme" nights that are more guy-oriented. I can whip up a toga and a luau costume immediately, but I wouldn't mind having a reason to look for a kilt or pirate outfit.

Questions? Comments?

Thrax

Annaiis · 09-05-2006, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Amanda69

I still think clubs should come up with theme nights for men...ie: pirates, togas, scots men...etc....

Amanda, you are a GENIUS!!! .... what a great idea!!! I'm going to suggest it to our local clubs .. I'm SOOOO tired of the women spending time and money getting all "costumed up" and the men just hanging around in their kahkis and black polo shirts!!!!!

Annaiis · 09-05-2006, 08:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Thrax

They're not a bikini, but they're not the often-baggy tighty-whities either.

Ah!!! Nice tight fresh (new) tightie-whities ...... yum!!!! (seriously, ladies, have you driven a nice new tightie-whitie clad man lately??)

Mr. Truelove · 09-05-2006, 09:41 PM

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Recently, at our club, not one, but TWO unicorns decided to drop by.
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So - when they suggested getting a room - we had no problem with that...
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Spoomonkey · 09-05-2006, 09:45 PM

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Amanda69 · 09-06-2006, 07:55 AM

Thrax no problem I did it because this thread is essentially the same as the other and I wanted to add that info here as well.

Spoo I think the types of cologne etc are a personal choice. I prefer any scent that makes a man smell like he has just come out of a shower ie: clean, soapy smells. Off the top of my head - polo works as does pacora ban but there are so many on the market these days. I am not sure that Axe would be sufficient even if it did work outside of those crazy commercials of theirs....

Spoomonkey · 09-06-2006, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Amanda69

I am not sure that Axe would be sufficient even if it did work outside of those crazy commercials of theirs....

Any chance I could get a sniff test?

Spoomonkey

Amanda69 · 09-06-2006, 09:17 AM

hmmmm sounds good

Bad Sandy · 09-07-2006, 01:58 PM

I always have "danny" wear his weathered, low slung jeans and no shirt (to show off his hot bod). Under the jeans I love him to wear his red string thong. The thong peeks out the top in back. He even had a woman "adjust" it for him when it got crooked. Oh, I also love rubbing body glitter on his chest so that the dance lights make him glisten... mmmmm facelick

I think it looks silly for all the guys to be dressed in dockers and button down shirts when the ladies are in Slut Wear.

I always joke that the guys look ready for a church social! Just my opinoin, but in general, dress the way YOUR WOMAN thinks you look hot!

Sandy

Chicup · 09-07-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Bad Sandy

I love him to wear his red string thong. The thong peeks out the top in back. He even had a woman "adjust" it for him when it got crooked. Oh, I also love rubbing body glitter on his chest so that the dance lights make him glisten... mmmmm

A Thong on a man is just wrong, and I won't even get into body glitter. I'd rather wear a codpeace..........

Hmmmmmm....

Now theres an idea!

Menage_a_Trois · 09-07-2006, 04:04 PM

I like to wear a button down Tommy Bahama shirt, usually black or a dark color. With dress slacks or dockers, matching belt and leather shoes. I always wear black boxer briefs. I have several differnt colognes that I wear, depending what I am in the mood to wear on a given night. Here are some that I wear from time to time......Pi by Givenchy, Tommy Bahama Fragrance, Hugo, Acqua Di Gio by Giorgio Armani, Be by Clavin Kline, and 360 by Perry Ellis. The key to wearing good cologne is to use it LIGHTLY, just as other posters have said. I get compliments all the time about my cologne. I feel comfortable in what I wear, and it looks decent. But like most other guys here I am always willing to try to dress better, so any suggestions would be welcome.

Mr. Menage

2jersey · 09-08-2006, 12:05 PM

90% of men dress in a cheap and unsophisticated manner - too much concern for comfort and cost, not enough knowledge about fit and finish. Quick/random thoughts:

1. Pleated pants should be avoided at all costs - also trousers with pegged legs (tapered from wide in the thigh region to narrow at the break). Flat front, straight legged pants are a timeless, classic, and look best on most men (except fat men - who can stick with pleats).

2. Baggy and boxy button down shirts aren't flattering on ANYONE (this is the way most US designers make their dress shirts). Make sure your dress shirts (or any shirt with buttons) taper down at the waist so that when you tuck them in, there isn't that strange bulge of extra fabric hanging around your belly like a phantom spare tire. Tommy Bahama is a great brand, but the shirts are oversized, so be careful.

3. Never buy any article of clothing that has a "Dockers" tag attached to it - yuck. It is amazing what Levi has been able to accomplish with this brand - inexpensive, covers a multitude of sins, but but not a flattering fit on well built men.

4. Unless you really know what you are doing, stick to basic solid colors.

5. Don't dress like a Golf Pro. Polo shirts are sporty and casual, but not for impressing the ladies.

6. UnderArmour underwear in black - every day, for every occasion.

7. You can get current fashions at semi-reasonable prices (in my experience) at Nordstroms, Bloomingdales, and Neiman Marcus. Don't pay full price. Wait for the stuff to go on sale, and then stock up. If you are an accomplished shopper, you can't beat Marshalls - but the store has enormous fashion-disaster traps that you have to learn to avoid.

Chicup · 09-08-2006, 12:18 PM

1. Pleated pants should be avoided at all costs

2. Baggy and boxy button down shirts aren't flattering on ANYONE (this is the way most US designers make their dress shirts)

3. Never buy any article of clothing that has a "Dockers" tag attached to it - yuck.

5. Don't dress like a Golf Pro. Polo shirts are sporty and casual, but not for impressing the ladies.

6. UnderArmour underwear in black - every day, for every occasion.

= my sins of fashion

She_n_Jaybee · 09-08-2006, 07:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chicup

A Thong on a man is just wrong, and I won't even get into body glitter. I'd rather wear a codpeace..........

Hmmmmmm....

Now theres an idea!

Dito

I don't suppose you can subsitute a mackerel piece for a codpiece?

Thrax · 09-08-2006, 07:28 PM

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09-05-2006, 08:03 PM	#16 (permalink)
Thrax Celebrate perversity Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 1,396 Location: Pittsburgh Status: Single Male SLS Name:Thrax	Re: What do male swingers wear??? Since Ms. Amanda appears to have copied prinicipal sections of one of her posts to Mr. TrueLove's thread and re-posted here, I thought I'd do the same. (Sorry Amanda if I'm mistaken about this.) So, I said this afore an' I'll say it agin: I almost always wear a button-down shirt to a club or house-party. I've found that women often like to play with the buttons, and it's turned out that it's much sexier to have a shirt gradually unbuttoned and pulled off of me than my trying -- or her trying -- to pull a polo shirt or over my head. In the vanilla world I almost always wear an undershirt under a button-down shirt, but I rarely do for a swing event. It would just get in the way. As for undies, I tend to go with boxers (usually silk or silk-like) for club or house parties. I'm not crazy about all the extra fabric, but they can be flattering if that's all I'm wearing and they let me dangle (important for those of us who are growers rather than showers). Besides, boxers tend to be flattering to about any male physique. I don't like the extra fabric in boxer-briefs; I can't dangle and to me the extra cloth is superfluous as well as being uncomfortable. And I hate when they roll up when I pull my jeans on. (Yes, even the good brands do that.) So, to supply you with too much information, I usually wear Hanes mid-rise briefs (navy or black). They're not a bikini, but they're not the often-baggy tighty-whities either. In the past five years I have worn more adventuresome undies occasionally, but that has been for playdates where I knew she wanted to see me in something much briefer than boxers. For first dates with anybody else, though, I'd stick to boxers unless something else was specified. Amanda69 mentioned cologne. An ex-girlfriend taught me to spray the cologne lightly and then walk into it. Consequently, not only do I avoid an overpowering scent of perfume, but my bachelor bathroom smells a little bit better. Finally...yes, finally...I too would also appreciate more "theme" nights that are more guy-oriented. I can whip up a toga and a luau costume immediately, but I wouldn't mind having a reason to look for a kilt or pirate outfit. Questions? Comments? Thrax __________________ You get what you play for.

09-06-2006, 07:55 AM	#21 (permalink)
Amanda69 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 907 Location: Mississauga, ON Canada Status: couple	Re: What do male swingers wear??? Thrax no problem I did it because this thread is essentially the same as the other and I wanted to add that info here as well. Spoo I think the types of cologne etc are a personal choice. I prefer any scent that makes a man smell like he has just come out of a shower ie: clean, soapy smells. Off the top of my head - polo works as does pacora ban but there are so many on the market these days. I am not sure that Axe would be sufficient even if it did work outside of those crazy commercials of theirs.... __________________ Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. "Harvey Fierstein"

09-06-2006, 09:17 AM	#23 (permalink)
Amanda69 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 907 Location: Mississauga, ON Canada Status: couple	Re: What do male swingers wear??? hmmmm sounds good __________________ Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. "Harvey Fierstein"

09-07-2006, 01:58 PM	#24 (permalink)
Bad Sandy Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 65 Location: FL Status: Married Female SLS Name:extrovertintrovert	Re: What do male swingers wear??? I always have "danny" wear his weathered, low slung jeans and no shirt (to show off his hot bod). Under the jeans I love him to wear his red string thong. The thong peeks out the top in back. He even had a woman "adjust" it for him when it got crooked. Oh, I also love rubbing body glitter on his chest so that the dance lights make him glisten... mmmmm facelick I think it looks silly for all the guys to be dressed in dockers and button down shirts when the ladies are in Slut Wear. I always joke that the guys look ready for a church social! Just my opinoin, but in general, dress the way YOUR WOMAN thinks you look hot! Sandy

09-07-2006, 04:04 PM	#26 (permalink)
Menage_a_Trois Sex is emotion in motion! Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 559 Location: Reno, NV Status: Couple SLS Name:Menage_a_Trois	Re: What do male swingers wear??? I like to wear a button down Tommy Bahama shirt, usually black or a dark color. With dress slacks or dockers, matching belt and leather shoes. I always wear black boxer briefs. I have several differnt colognes that I wear, depending what I am in the mood to wear on a given night. Here are some that I wear from time to time......Pi by Givenchy, Tommy Bahama Fragrance, Hugo, Acqua Di Gio by Giorgio Armani, Be by Clavin Kline, and 360 by Perry Ellis. The key to wearing good cologne is to use it LIGHTLY, just as other posters have said. I get compliments all the time about my cologne. I feel comfortable in what I wear, and it looks decent. But like most other guys here I am always willing to try to dress better, so any suggestions would be welcome. Mr. Menage

09-08-2006, 12:05 PM	#27 (permalink)
2jersey Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 489 Location: ~~~ Status: Couple	Re: What do male swingers wear??? 90% of men dress in a cheap and unsophisticated manner - too much concern for comfort and cost, not enough knowledge about fit and finish. Quick/random thoughts: 1. Pleated pants should be avoided at all costs - also trousers with pegged legs (tapered from wide in the thigh region to narrow at the break). Flat front, straight legged pants are a timeless, classic, and look best on most men (except fat men - who can stick with pleats). 2. Baggy and boxy button down shirts aren't flattering on ANYONE (this is the way most US designers make their dress shirts). Make sure your dress shirts (or any shirt with buttons) taper down at the waist so that when you tuck them in, there isn't that strange bulge of extra fabric hanging around your belly like a phantom spare tire. Tommy Bahama is a great brand, but the shirts are oversized, so be careful. 3. Never buy any article of clothing that has a "Dockers" tag attached to it - yuck. It is amazing what Levi has been able to accomplish with this brand - inexpensive, covers a multitude of sins, but but not a flattering fit on well built men. 4. Unless you really know what you are doing, stick to basic solid colors. 5. Don't dress like a Golf Pro. Polo shirts are sporty and casual, but not for impressing the ladies. 6. UnderArmour underwear in black - every day, for every occasion. 7. You can get current fashions at semi-reasonable prices (in my experience) at Nordstroms, Bloomingdales, and Neiman Marcus. Don't pay full price. Wait for the stuff to go on sale, and then stock up. If you are an accomplished shopper, you can't beat Marshalls - but the store has enormous fashion-disaster traps that you have to learn to avoid.

09-08-2006, 12:18 PM	#28 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,347 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: What do male swingers wear??? 1. Pleated pants should be avoided at all costs 2. Baggy and boxy button down shirts aren't flattering on ANYONE (this is the way most US designers make their dress shirts) 3. Never buy any article of clothing that has a "Dockers" tag attached to it - yuck. 5. Don't dress like a Golf Pro. Polo shirts are sporty and casual, but not for impressing the ladies. 6. UnderArmour underwear in black - every day, for every occasion. = my sins of fashion

09-08-2006, 07:28 PM	#30 (permalink)
Thrax Celebrate perversity Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 1,396 Location: Pittsburgh Status: Single Male SLS Name:Thrax	Re: What do male swingers wear??? Tilapia is very popular now... __________________ You get what you play for.

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