Is a vibrator/didlo appropriate?

[Fantasy_Partner]

Rather new to the Lifesyle and have a question that was brought up when hubby and I were talking.

Would it be appropriate for me to use a vibrator and or dildo at any time during a swap.

Mr Fantasy Partner encourages me to do what ever I need to do to fulfill my needs. Of course he has no problem watching me either (cool) so I have used outside stimulation even after wild sex just because sometimes I need that little extra.

Really don't want to offend anyone, so what is appropriate?

[good times]

I think it depends on the couple you are with, some might not like it and others would have no problem with it. So your best bet is to just ask your prospective playmates before playing.

I wouldn't have a problem with it at all, in fact, I love watching girls play with their toys.

[Spoomonkey]

Definitely depends on the couple. I might mention it in a playful way and see how they respond. But, if you aren;t going to enjoy yourself because they are uncomfortable with your toys, don't play with them...

Mr Fantasy Partner is right - you need to do what you enjoy and hold out for playmates who are compatible with that.

Spoomonkey

[Thrax]

I agree with the above posts. Personally, I would have no reservations about any toys that are not harmful but bring great pleasure, but on the "first date" you should be careful.

There are some folks who view toys with disdain for a variety of reasons. Some males are intimidated by "large" (larger than them) dildos, and from my experience, some women do not like to play with toys in front of strangers. They just don't feel comfortable using -- or having used on them -- a toy that would really get them off.

There are also people that feel that toys are for those who can't cum "naturally". I, however, am firmly in the camp of whatever makes a woman happy...

So, use discretion. You might want to make sure you have your "tools" available, but make sure everyone is comfortable (with some comments here and there) with them before you brandish them.

Good luck and enjoy!
Thrax

[xxoticangel]

I have used toys while playing but not on the first date. After we have played with someone a couple of times I might slip something into my bag to kick things up a notch but only if things feel right. If he/she/they bring their toys we have no problem using them though.

[Fantasy_Partner]

Hi everyone:

Just wanted to thank all of you for your input. It did help me feel much better and gave a good approach

[playncouple]

I think playing is playing and anything that spices up the moment, bring it right on in.

[NakedInSeattle]

Mrs Naked sometimes brings out the magic wand and, if the other gal has never seen or used one, it really adds to everybodies fun. 'Specially if the guys are slow on the retake.