vibrator - truth or myth?

[bbwinpa]

I'm not sure where I heard it or read it - or even when! But it was several years ago any way, and I have been worrying about it since then!

What I had heard was that if you use vibrators directly applied to the clit that this can not only make your clit less sensitive, but could also damage some of the nerves in that area.

Is this total bs or is it true -- anyone know????

All I know is that for me, I need direct application! Of course then I worry - well eventually I worry anyway! lol

[Vespertine]

I've heard that same Urban Legend before, and I don't buy into it.

I found the following on a quick google of the subject:

As expected, a long-term use of Vibrators produce a thick layer of scar tissues and kill the function of the surface nervous endings. When the scar tissues layer becomes thicker and thicker, she needs a higher power vibrating stimulation to penetrate into damaged sensory nerves. As a result, she can not achieve orgasm without a powerful vibrator.

But like I said, I don't believe it.

I've been using vibrators since I was 15 years old, always directly applied to my clit. I can honestly say that my ability to orgasm remains unchanged. I am not desensitized yet.

[SussexCouple]

i would definitely say that there's a sensitivity issue but probably not permanent. There's also a tendency to rely on vibrators to get you there. This dependancy can become mental too I'd guess.

look at it this way; if you can with your fingers you will never be without. and when you do use a vibrator - oh wow

[JustAskJulie]

Not a dr or a scientist but I will give you my own personal experience.

Shortly after I got married I started using a vibrator and not too long after that I found I had gotten myself addicted to it and could not come without the vibrator. So I would say yes, it can desensitize that area. However, as far as permanent damage goes, once I realized the problem I basically stopped using the vibrators cold turkey and eventually that sensitivity did come back and I no longer need it. It took a bit tho.

That said, I too require direct clit stimulation to orgasm, however I have found that there are sexual positions where I can get that without having to have my fingers or a vibrator involved - cowgirl primarily. Other position (like doggie or missionary) are almost impossible for me to orgasm in without having my fingers in. Doggie is pretty much impossible for me to get an orgasm, my arms just aren't long enough to reach my clit comfortable from that position and still hold myself up.

I have talked to a few friends that have said they cant get off with thier fingers anymore since owning a vibe. I only use mine when I am pressed for time, I still enjoy touching myself and prefer my fingers.

[bbwinpa]

OK ... So I'm not the only one that has heard this! Thanks guys. Thanks also for the input.

[traceywitney]

I must say I prefer my fingers for clit stimulation, but because my fingers are not long enough or strong enough, I prefer the vibrator inside. However I have also read it on the web that you can get addicted to the vibrator So being a bit of a worry myself I stopped using it as much just in case.
However if you are looking for a direct clit stimulation I’d highly recommend a pen. I used to use it before I got my vibrator and found it good for both inside and the clit stimulation. Of course I took out the ink thingy out of the pen before using it. I still use it sometimes. I once told my friend about my adventures with a pen and she said that she read that they are indeed good stimulants especially for clits because some of them are thin. Don’t know how true that is in general, but it’s true for me.
I do realise however that whatever works for me mightn’t do so for everyone.
My 2-cent’s worth.
Maria.

[Plumeria]

I had a similar experience that Julie did, and after laying off the vibrator for a while, I could come from only finger stimulation alone. I thought too, it had to do with "desensitizing" and then I read an explanation by a sexual therapist (Dr. Louanne-Cole Weston) to a poster with the same dilemma.

She essentially said you can "train" your body to respond a certain way to certain stimulations quite easily. So the vibrator doesn't cause any type of nerve damage or desensitize the area, but you can train your body to orgasm by using a certain type of stimulation on a regular basis.

Most women orgasm a lot quicker with a vibrator and so start using them almost exclusively, especially when they are without a regular partner. By they way, she said men can "train" themselve to orgasm by a certain stimulation as well. A lot of the time, it's when a man is partnerless for an extended period of time and uses one type of stimulation to orgasm, e.g. gripping tightly, same rhythm. As a result, she would get women posting on the board, complaining they couldn't get their partner to orgasm while performing oral on them. Since oral is a different type of stimulation than the guy was used to from masturbation, he had a difficult time getting off.

So the main point is, to vary your stimulation. Don't just orgasm the same way, using the same method each time. That way, you will avoid training your body to respond to only one type of stimulation.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Doggie is pretty much impossible for me to get an orgasm, my arms just aren't long enough to reach my clit comfortable from that position and still hold myself up.

And THAT is the best argument we have to justify adding someone to our bedroom fun! An extra "hand" for doggie style orgasms!

[NWARcouple]

Originally Posted by bbwinpa

What I had heard was that if you use vibrators directly applied to the clit that this can not only make your clit less sensitive, but could also damage some of the nerves in that area.

Is this total bs or is it true -- anyone know????

We're in the process of conducting long term research on this one...


So far, we haven't noticed any less sensitivity!