Ladies, how passionate do you get?

[ohhandahh]

Is it normal for you, in the heat of the moment, to get "into" your partner, new or old friend, with passionate emotion? While he is lying on top of you, fucking you with his dick deep inside and feeling sooooo goooood (xxx magazine talk) do you ever wrap your arms around him, pull him to you, swallow his tongue and feel a sexually emotional passion for him, while you are having sex? Do you give him everything, facelick or is it limited to the excitement and thrill of doing it with someone new and the physical pleasure of it?

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-

Of course silly, you get everything, when you give everything

And I always give as good as I get

[FloridaFlirt]

Why do it at all if you don't give it all? I'm not into just the mechanics of sex--passion is a necessity for me...

JMHO

[flirty]

For me it depends on the situation. It can be just physically fun, with the passion coming totally from the situation, the shear act of being wild. Other times it is a passion I have built up with a particular person. I tend to react differently when I am playing in private than when I play in public in a club. facelick

[discreetindcpl]

I must admit this was not the way we started when we went all the way for the first time. I was mildly jealous when the other wife did that to hubby, but after a couple of times, I was telling hubby how much comfortable I felt when we were flirting, passionate and giving it everything and thats how we have been since.

[StacyCat]

It depends on the sex. I need to have emotional type sex with men in order for me to orgasm. If he is trying to keep his distance, I read that as disinterest, and dont orgasm.

With women, though, its more of a playful thing, and I dont need that emotional attachment.

but, I dont fuck people that I wouldnt get along with outside of the bedroom, so its not a random hookup kinda thing.

I agree with everyone above that you give what you receive. I like the passion but however there are no feelings attached to those moments of passion as they are reserved for MrVan only. Yes I will get in the heat of the moment and take all that I get from my play partner as well as give them everything back. I would not be able to play if I did not have the passion to go with it. I LOVE to kiss and have been told that I am very good at that, therefore it would be very hard for me to not put any passion into it as it shows in the way I kiss.

I do not like the thought of a quick fuck cause that is what it would feel like if there was not any type of passion there.

MrsVan

[intuition897]

Did we get passionate with our partners? Sure we did. What's the fun if you don't? But did we fall in love with them or find ourselves full of confusing new feelings? No, absolutely not. We have, however, had to go our separate ways from a couple after we sensed that one or both of them were becoming a little more attached than we liked.

We never held back once we got onto the idea of full swap. It's a full sharing experience, and it calls for enthusaism. That's why the "Pretty Woman No Kissing" rule went out the window pretty fast. We found that it wasn't necessary to keep us from "falling in love" with our partners. After all, if such a simple thing is all it takes to sway us from our emotional bond with our own partner (if we weren't open to polyamory in the first place, which we sort of are), then perhaps we should be questioning whether our heads are in the right place to be swinging or not.

[havefuninsun]

I think there's a difference in getting emotionally involved and getting into the passion of the situation.

We're not newbies, but not veterans either -- guess we're pre-schoolers. The more we experience, the more I let myself "get into" the other parties. However, I know myself enough to know that I will probably always hold a little back ... I want no emotional involvement. I DO want the passionate involvement. And of course, the physical involvement.

Interesting question, and I'm interested in reading all other perceptions about this too.

[ohash01]

I would think that if there wasn't any kind of passion involved, it'd feel like using a vibrator...which has it's time and place...but not when you have another living being with you. Obviously, if you aren't getting what you expected, it might be hard to find passion...but if you have it, run with it!

Passion and emotion aren't the same thing. Emotion is much more psychological while passion tends to be physiological.

Now, occassionally there can be some emotion involved. I can't imagine swinging if there weren't friendly warm-fuzzies among the group. But, at the same time, it isn't love.

[JacobSky]

(from the Merriam-Webster online dictionary)

passion -

1 often capitalized a : the sufferings of Christ between the night of the Last Supper and his death b : an oratorio based on a gospel narrative of the Passion
2 obsolete : SUFFERING
3 : the state or capacity of being acted on by external agents or forces
4 a (1) : EMOTION (2) plural : the emotions as distinguished from reason b : intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction c : an outbreak of anger
5 a : ardent affection : LOVE b : a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept c : sexual desire d : an object of desire or deep interest

I'm not trying to be rediculous, but I couldn't help but wonder what definitions a dictionary gave for passion. I have looked up words from time to time to better understand certain feelings.

[aahours1]

Originally Posted by JacobSky

(from the Merriam-Webster online dictionary)

passion -

1 often capitalized a : the sufferings of Christ between the night of the Last Supper and his death b : an oratorio based on a gospel narrative of the Passion
2 obsolete : SUFFERING
3 : the state or capacity of being acted on by external agents or forces
4 a (1) : EMOTION (2) plural : the emotions as distinguished from reason b : intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction c : an outbreak of anger
5 a : ardent affection : LOVE b : a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept c : sexual desire d : an object of desire or deep interest

I'm not trying to be rediculous, but I couldn't help but wonder what definitions a dictionary gave for passion. I have looked up words from time to time to better understand certain feelings.

Like I have said before. DO NOT bring the BIBLE or CHRIST or anything that GOD ALMIGHTY does or even relate it to swinging. I am not a CHRISTIAN any longer, even though I DO believe in GOD, but feel that this is sacreligious, bringing is Christianity and swinging together. Leave it at that.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by aahours1

Like I have said before. DO NOT bring the BIBLE or CHRIST or anything that GOD ALMIGHTY does or even relate it to swinging. I am not a CHRISTIAN any longer, even though I DO believe in GOD, but feel that this is sacreligious, bringing is Christianity and swinging together. Leave it at that.

He wasn't bringing religion into it. He was directly quoting from the dictionary. What's wrong with that and why do we have to refrain from posting such things? Clearly, I don't get it, which is nothing unusual.

[Mr. Truelove]

I agree with Rpu3 completely.

Nothing wrong with a straight quote out of a dictionary. Should he have edited the quote to suit your views?

And as for not talking about religion and swinging together, that is your belief. You can have yours, I can have mine. But I don't think you should be telling other people what is right or wrong to say on this forum.

Mr. Truelove

[JacobSky]

Maybe I shouldn't have posted that dictionary excerpt.

I really just copied and pasted from the Merriam-Webster page, but maybe a dictionary reference of the word "passion" wasn't needed on this thread anyway. Besides, each woman's personal opinion is all that matters any way.

Personally, I've looked into the true meanings of the words, lust, passion, affection, love, etc...... in hopes of gaining more skill at understanding my own feelings.

I may have gone overboard by dropping my methods of understand things onto others.

Sorry (to the ladies also )

P.S. I have issues concerning religion also, but that is to be discussed on another thread. While posting, I was deep in thought about the meanings of emotion, passion, etc..... I overlooked the problems with posting the "whole definition" of the word passion.