Scarring

[BluEyedGirl4u]

I had a breast reduction 7 months ago so I have scars under my breasts and around the nipples. Not bad..in fact you can't even see the ones under unless my arms are raised high in the air..but I am so self conscious about it. I'm worried once other couples see them, it will be a huge turn off. Am I making too much of a deal out of it?? From what I've seen from people in this lifestyle...they are the most open minded and considerate and understanding people and we are still newbies so guess I shouldn't be that worried about it. Everyone has their flaws, huh
BluEyedGirl

[NightGoddess]

Hi BluEyedGirl4u,
Try using some cosmetic concealer on the scars until they fade. The same stuff you'd use for lightening shadows under the eyes....then set with powder The scars will fade with time.

[Elusive BiFem]

I don't think you have anything to worry about. We've had several other threads on scars, but as you would expect, most of those questions have centered around abdominal/c-section scars. You'll find that most people have scars of some sort, although there may be a bit more curiosity about yours. Breast reductions aren't something often seen.

Have you tried using Vitamin E oil on the scars? Gentle massaging of the scars with the oil will keep the scars soft and help decrease the appearance.

I'm not certain of the cosmetic concealer as mentioned by NightGoddess. Seems that would come off during playtime, but I do agree with her that they will fade in time.

- EBF

[LikeMinds321]

BluEyedGirl4u

Don't give it any concern. Really.

It wouldn't bother me one bit to be playing with a woman who had scars. I asked Mr LM and he said the same thing.

If it would make you feel better, maybe mention the fact that you had breast reduction surgery to people you are considering for play, then when the clothes come off, they won't be surprised and you'll be more comfortable knowing they were told.

LM

[Island guy]

A little scarring never bothered me.

[lcjtsd]

My wife was in a car accident when she was 14 and now has a scar right down the middle of her stomach as she had to have her spleen repaired. It hasn't posed any problems and she doesn't even think about it. She is also thinking about breast reduction as she has the usual problems with large breasts. I think we look at ourselves and have more problems with our "flaws" than others do.

[mrs good times]

I have a scar that runs vertically from 1" above my belly button clear down to the hair line, about 9" in all. I also just had a lump removed from my breast. I have never had anyone even ask about the scar or comment on it. I've worn teddys, bikini's and even totally nude in our club without any embarrasement.

As for reducing the appearance. I am currently using a product by Curad called Scar Reducer for the incision on my breast. It's like a bandaid that has a product on it to reduce scar appearance. You wear it 24 hours a day for 8 weeks. Since I just started using it I don't know how well it works but my surgeon gave me the OK. I went topless last night with the patch on and only had one person ask if they could see. Sure no, problem.

So, don't worry we all have imprefections of one sort or another.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by NightGoddess

Hi BluEyedGirl4u,
Try using some cosmetic concealer on the scars until they fade. The same stuff you'd use for lightening shadows under the eyes....then set with powder The scars will fade with time.

News Flash! Mr. Alura has disagreed with NightGoddess! More at Ten!

Don't use cosmetic concealer, BluEyedGirl4u. That stuff tastes awful! I've been experienting on a scar on Mrs. Alura's left breast (where a lumpectomy was done) to see if I can lick the scar off. It seems to be working!

There aren't many perfect bodies involved in Intermarital Sex. Most of the participants have been married for years and have children. Children make scars. You won't have a bit of a problem. Relax and enjoy!

Mr. Alura

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by mrs good times

I I also just had a lump removed from my breast. I have never had anyone even ask about the scar or comment on it. I've worn teddys, bikini's and even totally nude in our club without any embarrasement.
So, don't worry we all have imprefections of one sort or another.

I had a lump removed as well, and at first I was self conscious and nervous about the appearance. That went away VERY quickly at the club. No one even seems to notice. Heck, They aren't even the same size anymore, and no one seems to notice or care. We're sure you'll be pleasantly surprized with peoples reactions to your scars.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

I had a lump removed as well, and at first I was self conscious and nervous about the appearance. That went away VERY quickly at the club. No one even seems to notice. Heck, They aren't even the same size anymore, and no one seems to notice or care. We're sure you'll be pleasantly surprized with peoples reactions to your scars.

Mrs. Alura's scarred left breast also underwent radiation treatments, which made it much firmer than the other. Interesting effect, not at all unpleasant but it definitely made the two different. We joked about having the other one done so they'd match.

Actually, one would have to kiss them to notice the difference.

Mr. Alura

[NightGoddess]

Originally Posted by Alura

News Flash! Mr. Alura has disagreed with NightGoddess! More at Ten!

Don't use cosmetic concealer, BluEyedGirl4u. That stuff tastes awful! I've been experienting on a scar on Mrs. Alura's left breast (where a lumpectomy was done) to see if I can lick the scar off. It seems to be working!

There aren't many perfect bodies involved in Intermarital Sex. Most of the participants have been married for years and have children. Children make scars. You won't have a bit of a problem. Relax and enjoy!

Mr. Alura

News Flash!!
...and NightGoddess agrees with Mr. Alura!
I didn't think about the taste!
....But I agree that the licking therapy is the best way to 'treat' these scars! ...we just won't see that treatment modality mentioned in the New England Journal of Medicine
.....More to follow at ten!



(psst...whisper.......'what happens at ten?')

[HotCoupleGnS]

I think evryone has some kind of scar or imperfection. But I understand your feelings. I am 22 years old. I once had a nice hard body, but well, with 2 kids that has changed. I now have stretch marks. I also am a little heavier then I used to be. Hubby says I am not heavier that I have just lost a lot of muscle. (I used to be a tom boy & was very musclar. Needless to say, things don't hang the way they used too. I used to feel very self concious. Although we haven't had very many encounters, I was made to feel at ease. And pretty much anyone that sees our pics, tells me I am hot.

But still sometimes it is hard to deal with. Especially since most girls my age that I know haven't had kids & still have there nice little tight bodies. This is the way I look at it. At least I had my kids when I was young & it was a whole lot easier to get my body back. All those of girls will have to try a lot harder when they are older. I have also learned to look at it this way, i f someone has a problem with my stretch marks, SCREW THEM! They were very well earned!

So, see? There are many people wiht this problem, or one like it!

[Alura]

...we just won't see that treatment modality mentioned in the New England Journal of Medicine

Well, ...see, NightGoddess????? Those guys don't know how to do research.... No wonder they haven't found a cure for the common cold!



I have also learned to look at it this way, i f someone has a problem with my stretch marks, SCREW THEM!

My late business partner, a wonderful self-assured woman who made her sales calls on her BMW motorcycle, used to say, "DON'T SCREW 'EM!"

You go girl!


Mr. Alura

[HotCoupleGnS]

Originally Posted by Alura

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I have also learned to look at it this way, i f someone has a problem with my stretch marks, SCREW THEM!

My late business partner, a wonderful self-assured woman who made her sales calls on her BMW motorcycle, used to say, "DON'T SCREW 'EM!"

You go girl!


Mr. Alura

That is even better! DON'T SCREW 'EM!

[ALilOEverything]

The female half of the couple we were with last weekend had a breast reduction done back in Sept or Oct and I didn't even notice to look at her. I could feel them a little but I didn't think anything of them. She was so sexy (inside and out) that no little silly scar was going to take that away from her. I've had major abdominal surgery from a botched appendectomy that runs from my belly button all the way down and there is one area that is a little dimpled where I had a huge infection once. It's noticable but not a thing I can do about it so I don't let it get me down. I've always worn bikinis and am sometimes asked about my second belly button but it's never made me feel less sexy. But I've had it since I was 10 so I don't know anything else. If someone is so particular that it would bother them then they aren't anyone we should want to be with.