stretch marks

[webbguy]

My lady is very shy about her stretch marks on her stomach. She has very nice breasts....40 DD , and loves to be nude....but is shy about the marks, any lady has the same problem?

[BiCoupleNJ]

Originally posted by webbguy
My lady is very shy about her stretch marks on her stomach. She has very nice breasts....40 DD , and loves to be nude....but is shy about the marks, any lady has the same problem?

Definitely. I think that most of us have some issue with our body. I am not a small woman, so I am always wondering what someone thinks about my physical appearance. My boobs are small and my butt is big... that's not really much of a turn on to too many people. Thank god Jerry loves me as much as he does!

But it isn't just those of us, like your wife, that are self-critical about our bodies that cause the problems. If you go to a club in the NJ/NY/PA area, chances are that you'll find most of the women are a size 4-7... 100 pounds... gorgeous blonde hair... and D cup boobs. Unfortunately, they tend to be less than pleasant with those of us that aren't built just like them a lot of times. And seeing the stares & hearing the whispers doesn't do anything for my self-confidence or self-esteem.

Your wife is not unusual... this is a lifestyle of many different people from many walks of life and that are all different in many, many ways. We just need to get the more 'beautiful' people to realize that we can be as hot as... or hotter yet... than anyone they have encountered in the past

Liz

[sepacouple]

I see that you are from central Jersey area. Have you ever been to Club Kama Sutra in Philadelphia, PA?

We have been there 3 times and while there are a fair number of women and men that are in the above mentioned category, There are also quite a few, ourselves and people we have played with included, that do not fit in that category.

You should give the place a try if you are looking for a great non-judgemental club.

[yawanna]

My boobs are small and my butt is big...

JLo!!!!

I asked male staff once.. 'just what IS it about J Lo???' and they said 'duh...her BUTT!!'

Men like that bouncy jiggly thang

I have stretch marks, I had a kid. I also had a huge growth spurt at age 16 that produced OY hips!!!

I'm heavier than I normally am, and it's temporary (shut UP EBF lol) and I struggle, not too successfully, to walk into clubs or house parties with all my confidence and chutzpah. It ain't easy.

But, in my heart of hearts, I know that the people we know who swing really truly don't look at the package so much as the person....really. One man told my husband he wanted to bang me more because of my brain and intellect...turned him on like you can't imagine!

I think we just have to be ourselves and accept who we are at any given time. And I wonder about those women with fake boobies and them reading all the deragatory comments..they aren't real....anyone can tell..and some boob jobs are worse than others, but still...they paid thousands of dollars for fake boobies to be more sexually alluring and I have YET to read anywhere that fake boobies are desired.

However, I DO read more often that men like curves and older women and experience and demeanour and sexually evocative women - those without benefit of Dupont.

We have gone to house parties and on premise events and just watched... consider doing this because it's a real learning experience about reality versus mainstream porn and the Pamela Anderson's. I can elaborate about our experiences if you like or it would help? Bottom line it's like many here say... it's who you ARE and your pesonality and sexuality, no matter what your body size or condition, that matters in this community.

[hfire269]

webbguy My lady is very shy about her stretch marks on her stomach. She has very nice breasts....40 DD , and loves to be nude....but is shy about the marks, any lady has the same problem?

Webbguy

like your wife i have stretch marks on my stomach (not from having kids jsut a part of life) and last year i had my appendix removed and now have a 5 in scar on my side that i cant stand. I think its ugly. But i have come to the conclusion that if i dont think about it and or care about what other people think Im alot happier and i can go with the flow and no one says anything about. No one can be perfect and if some one wants that then they are just self centered jerks and we dont need people like that :-)good luck
Hfire269(female half)

[BiCoupleNJ]

Originally posted by yawanna
I asked male staff once.. 'just what IS it about J Lo???' and they said 'duh...her BUTT!!'
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I think we just have to be ourselves and accept who we are at any given time.
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However, I DO read more often that men like curves and older women and experience and demeanour and sexually evocative women - those without benefit of Dupont.

Yawanna,

You are absolutely correct in your comments. But I want to make a couple observations:
Regarding JLo, even if she was 300 pounds, men would fall all over her for her looks, especially her smile and those eyes. And her butt really isn't as big as the media suggests.
We DO accept ourselves for who we are. And we are comfortable in the knowledge that, although we would certainly like to drop some weight, it just ain't happenin' right now, due to some stressful issues we're dealing with right now. But no matter how much we accept ourselves, it is still a bit painful to hear someone say that they don't want to even so much as talk to us because we could 'stand to lose a 100 pounds'... we've actually been told that to our faces. Shallow people can hurt you with their senseless words. That's all I meant with the comments about clubs & what not.
Finally, Jerry has told me many times... and he shows it almost every day, that he loves my curves and wouldn't care if I were a size 24 or a size 4 (I am a size 16)... and he makes sure that I know he loves my boobs... all 36B of them... and that he would argue until his death to keep me from getting implants if I ever thought about that. He actually would prefer a girl with no breasts at all when compared to a girl with monster boobs from Dupont!

It just seems there are more rude and arrogant folks in this area as compared to others when it comes to swinging. We are, afterall, in the heart of the shore, where bikinis are the dress of the night in the summer... and NYC is a scant 35 miles away... with all the 'beautiful' people in NNJ & NY.

Liz

[naughtygirl27]

This is a short & sweet post....stretch marks?!?!...Hell I earned those suckers and are damn proud of them !!! I say ...I'd like to see a guy push a bowling ball through the tip of his dick and not be proud of the results

naughtygirl27

[biblonde]

We all have something about our bods we dont like. That is what makes us human! lol...As for stretch marks...got um and like Naughtygirl says ....something to be proud of!! My hubby loves mine because as he puts it "he made those" and on other women he doesnt mind at all...says they are something to be proud of no matter how ya got um.

We have meet a woman who was drop dead gorgeous with the perfect bod..my hubby was all hot and bothered till we meet them for dinner. The whole night was all about her! We left with him say "hell no, not in this lifetime!!"

We place more in the personality of someone. Face it no one is perfect without a doctor and well who wants fake. All of us are built in different shapes and sizes and that is what makes this fun. Variety is the spice of life...

If you are real and have personality, fun and outgoing who really cares about marks on your body. I dont know anyone without stretch marks, scars, or some flaw....If they bug her...that is okay, nothing like candle light to hide all them flaws we all hate! lol

that is my 2 cents for the day s

[HornyCouple]

Whatever, you size as long as YOU are happy that is all that matters. We all like different things and are attracted to different people for ALL different reasons. One person may want somebody thin while others want or prefer a larger person. The most important thing is to treat each other with respect.
I recently got divorced because my ex spouse gained a very significant amount of weight in a few years time. Where as the weight was the most "obvious" thing to point to, the underlying issues that caused her to gain this much was the bigger issue and ended the marriage. She became a different person not only physically but emotionally and mentally.

I agree that just to be thin and beautiful on the outside does not make one beautiful on the inside.

[BiCoupleNJ]

Originally posted by naughtygirl27
I'd like to see a guy push a bowling ball through the tip of his dick and not be proud of the results
naughtygirl27

naughtygirl... this is jerry. i just thought i would pop in and comment on your message... as much as i agree with you regarding stretch marks from babies being a proud accomplishment, um... can we have something other than just a tiny little urethra to push that baby out of? i mean, pushing a bowling ball out of a vagina is one thing... but out of a guy's pee hole?

[good times]

Originally posted by naughtygirl27
This is a short & sweet post....stretch marks?!?!...Hell I earned those suckers and are damn proud of them !!! I say ...I'd like to see a guy push a bowling ball through the tip of his dick and not be proud of the results

naughtygirl27

I like this attitude. My wife had to have an operation that left a scar and she was self concious at first but soon noticed that if she didn't let it bother her it didn't seem to bother anyone else.

As for the bowling ball thing........OUCH! that hurts just to think about.

R

[Miss_Piggy]

Originally posted by hfire269
like your wife i have stretch marks on my stomach (not from having kids jsut a part of life)

I also have stretch marks on my stomach and no kids. I'm not too bothered by them though. I figure I got myself fat at one point and then I lost the weight. The stretch marks are like my battle scars. They are a simple reminder of what I've been through and how far I've come. If anyone has a problem it's their problem - not mine.

[BiCoupleNJ]

Originally posted by Miss_Piggy
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The stretch marks are like my battle scars. They are a simple reminder of what I've been through and how far I've come.
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Very well put. Jerry actually goes around showing people all his scars... he's just SO proud of them! LOL
Now if I could only lose the friggin weight, I would feel a LOT better about that!!!
Nah... if they don't like us plump ones, then 'em
Liz

[JustAskJulie]

Here's an older thread along these same lines:

Women with "Kid Marks"......

[J & K]

Oh---I hear about this on a daily basis from the wife. Go look at our ad we have the link to down below and tell me that such a sexy lady as my wife should ever worry about what the kids have done to her tummy area. Real men should accept these body marks as a sign of giving birth or rapid weight loss. It is something that nature has done to most ladies and some men. "K" calls them the road map from hell but the roads all lead down south---hehehehe. Ladies---if you have them---accept them and Men---if you see them---accept her for giving birth or weight loss. Even your most sexy ladies have them and those who have had several kids and never got them----well then---your lucky!!!