Would you swing with a disabled couple?

[e&c1960]

Hi, 1st time poster & we're new to the lifestyle.

Here's some background info:

Both are nice, down-to-earth people. They dress nice, take pride in their appearances. They laugh and joke alot. Now, the diability part... Both are permanent wheelchair users. That obviously limits their ability for some "positions", but both can and do greatly enjoy sex.

So, would you swing with that couple?

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by e&c1960

Hi, 1st time poster & we're new to the lifestyle.

Here's some background info:

Both are nice, down-to-earth people. They dress nice, take pride in their appearances. They laugh and joke alot. Now, the diability part... Both are permanent wheelchair users. That obviously limits their ability for some "positions", but both can and do greatly enjoy sex.

So, would you swing with that couple?

What difference does it make what other people would do? Do you like these people? Do you like them enough to overcome whatever obstacles you'll need to overcome, to swing with them? If so, GO for it! It doesn't matter what other people think.

Of course, it could be that you're asking because you're the couple in the chair(s). If so, the same questions apply. Would you swing with somebody like you?

There's room for almost every kind of couple in the lifestyle. I can't say that finding another couple will be easy, but I'm aware of at least a couple of couples where one or the other was in a chair. Hell, there used to be a woman that frequented the vanilla dance clubs around here that we called "Sticks," because she moved about on crutches. She must have had tremendous upper-body strength, because she'd be out on the dance floor wailin' away, while her dangling legs just sort of "followed" the goings-on. They were pretty much useless, other than for keeping track of where she'd left her shoes.

Look at it this way - Even in wheelchairs, you're more likely to connect with somebody than most single guys...

[CuriousInOregon]

I cant say that a Wheel-chair would hold me back, its just a chair. I say that if there is Physical, and sexual chemistery WHY NOT?

[Couple_N_Ark]

I would think as long as the couple was able to "get around" and "make it happen" it would be just fine.

Let me try to explain. I have no problem helping someone in a wheelchair.....open the door, give them a push up a hill, etc.

But when it comes to swinging (and I hope this does not sound mean), I'd certainly not want them to be dependant on me to go get them, lift them out of their chairs, etc.

As long as they could get to where we were meeting, and they could get in and out of their car, and could get out of their wheelchairs into the bed, etc...it would be fine.

Swinging is our enjoyment, so we don't want it to become a burden for us.

[prettylady]

Why not?
From what you said they seem like they could be nice people. Everyone, or most everyone here says it comes down to weather or not there is chemistry. If you have chemistry with this couple give it a go. The wonderful thing about people with disabilities is that they learn ways to cope, so you likely wont have to carry them to bed or any such nonsence. I doubt they would look into this lifestyle if their disabilites caused any discomfort for others.
I hope you find your answers, but I really don't think you will find your answer here.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[intuition897]

Yes. But only if they had no hang-ups about it. If they can see it as just one particular quirk of their body, and not this massive problem that we have to surmount...well then, so can I. Hey, as long they're still able to enjoy sex and everyone's attracted, I don't see the problem.

[LICouple4u]

I think it would depend how limited they really are in their positions. I have to admit, there are certain things I like to do while swinging and it would be a toughie to do without them.

If we found we had a strong connection, we could probably work with it all. As Intuition said though, they need to not be hung up on their disability. I know how tough that is, much easier said than done.

[HappyPeople]

From what I have seen, most people who use a wheelchair are very capable of moving themselves around and knowing how to make things "work" and have long gotten over the wheelchair.

Wheelchairs wouldn't put me off if I liked the people in them.

[JP51]

We have a couple who we play with where she has a degrenatrive brain disorder that effects her ability to control some minor-motor functions. Go with the flow, it works, and we have to laugh so hard at times, that it makes the sex with her even more fun!

[Tantra]

The lifestyle for us is about fantasy fulfillment and playing with disabled people is currently not part of that fantasy. I suppose the degree of disability would certainly be a factor - the greater and more complicated the disability, the less sexual attraction there might be. That said, all this is just speculation since we have not faced this scenario. Personality is one of the most important things for us overall, so who knows what might happen in real life.

[hdcpcpl]

We are both disabled. I am in a wheelchair & he uses leg braces & crutches. We have found that some ppl are ok with it & some aren't. We have profiles on 2 swingers site. On Swing Lifestyle we state that we are handicapped in our profile. On AFF we don't mention it but always tell ppl upfront about it when we are contacted. On both sites we've gotten about equal responses. Being handicapped is a small part of who we are & does not impede our sexual experiences. Since August we have only met with 2 cpls & been intimate with one of them.

[carlos_pchot]

hello there, I think if they're strong enough to get started on the lifestyle, and they don't see any problem with it, I'm sure you'll be ok, certainly it's something that you all have to manage, but there's no real reason for stopping you from having a great time all together.

Take care

Carlos

[spectraschain]

But when it comes to swinging (and I hope this does not sound mean), I'd certainly not want them to be dependant on me to go get them, lift them out of their chairs, etc.

Well, that wouldn't really matter to us...we would hate to think we missed out on a good thing...or perhaps to think they may have...

We would welcome the opportunity...as we do all opportunities with compatible people. They're not all that easy to find...

[clutch]

I'm not going to go into much detail other than we've encountered some of the most insane, rawest sex and orgasms we've ever had with a couple where one was handcapped. You just wouldn't believe how much he came. It should have been illegal!

They live in a different state, and I don't know if they're on the board or not.

[Cpl2share]

As someone who has been informed by many medical professionals that I can expect a wheel chair attached to my ass within 15 years, I have a perspective that may be different than others. Right now: I have a cripple sticker for our vehicles, and during the winter I have serious trouble walking. I would like to think that just because my legs do not work worth a shit people would not simply ignore our abilities. Let's face it: My legs may not be great, but the middle one is just as stiff as the other two, and my tongue is the best in the land. Wheels will just make me get where I am going faster.