How do men feel about stretch marks on women?

tulippe44 · 10-28-2005, 01:44 PM

Okay so I do think that I am an attractive woman and of course my husband reassures me of this quite often, but how do men in this lifestyle feel about stretch marks? My hubby says he doesn't even notice them, but let's face the facts after two kids they are definately there. So do men really not notice them on a new partner?

Chicup · 10-28-2005, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by tulippe44

Okay so I do think that I am an attractive woman and of course my husband reassures me of this quite often, but how do men in this lifestyle feel about stretch marks? My hubby says he doesn't even notice them, but let's face the facts after two kids they are definately there. So do men really not notice them on a new partner?

Once you hit the mid 30's crowd almost everyone has kids in the LS just like everyone else out there. I wouldn't worry about them.

**mrs good times** · 10-28-2005, 02:44 PM

I am not a man of course but I can speak from experience. I have a scar that starts 2" above my belly button and runs clear down to the pubic area. I have never had anyone turn down play because of it. I have been asked what it is from but strictly out of curiousity. We all have flaws so don't worry and have fun.

Greg & Sheryl · 10-28-2005, 03:26 PM

Stretch marks are a fact of life. Virtually every mother has them. In fact, they are so common that most men (at least the older ones who are also parents) don't even notice them.

Everlearning · 10-28-2005, 03:42 PM

I have had my gall bladder removed, didn't leave much of a scar but some. If you know me and like what you see and want to play, are you going to look for it or be turned off by it? I would guess you wouldn't even notice and if you did, you wouldn't give a hoot. We have only been with a couple partners at this time, but no one seems to care once you have got to know someone enough to want to play.

DarkandPatent · 10-28-2005, 03:49 PM

I second Greg&Sheryl, stretch marks are a fact of life. They are so common that even some men have stretch marks.
I do not find stretch marks to be unattractive at all. I guess it comes from my affinity for scars. It shows me that people are real and live lives.

tulippe44 · 10-28-2005, 04:01 PM

Thanks everyone, I have noticed that since my hubby and I have started exploring the potential for this lifestyle I have started to contemplate my body much more than I used to. I also have a scar from gallbladder surgery that is quite large(long story and I truly dislike that DR.) But I guess it is just one of those things that women are self concious about and men don't really notice. Again,
Thanks

HotMoCpl · 10-28-2005, 04:33 PM

Don't make such funny jokes....I almost fell off my chair!

Figuring the level of intelligence (sp?) I wouldn't worry too much.

I don't remember noticing them on my ex and my 2nd wife doesn't have any, even though she had on baby. Her secret? Vitamin E. Just poke a hole in the jell caplet with a pin and squeez it out. She did hers right after her daughter was born. Oh yea, you question. To answer, I don't believe it makes much difference to most guys. But hey, my wife and I are 50+, so there are a few wrinkles.

sepacouple · 10-28-2005, 04:40 PM

It's all part of life. Being in the Lifestyle does not mean you are in a beauty contest. Your personality and attitude is a lot more important than what you look like.

ItTakes3 · 10-28-2005, 04:51 PM

No problem...we all have body parts that beg for acceptance.

Spoomonkey · 10-28-2005, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Greg & Sheryl

Stretch marks are a fact of life.

That is the long and the short of it.

Spoomonkey

EvilMJ · 10-28-2005, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by HotMoCpl

. Her secret? Vitamin E. Just poke a hole in the jell caplet with a pin and squeez it out. She did hers right after her daughter was born. Oh yea, you question.

Sadly as my doctor explained that some people are more prone to streach marks than others and Vitamine E doesn't always help. I only gained 15 lbs during my pregnancy (i was really sick the whole time lol) but I had a lot of strech marks and nothing helped. It is just genetics.

But I have never had a complaint from anyone I had played with and hubby says he doesn't even notice. I have a feeling that isn't where there eyes are anyway

DBL D · 10-28-2005, 06:27 PM

Hi tulippe44,

What you'll find, as you have already on this board, is that there are a number of us (enough for your satisfaction I believe) that say it's not an issue. It probably is for others though. Some don't like shaved heads...some do. Some don't like facial hair...some do. Yada Yada...Someone who would turn someone down because of it is pretty shallow. There are so many other reasons for not playing again with someone that are much higher on the list.

Male D

HappyPeople · 10-28-2005, 06:45 PM

As a woman who likes women and as a woman with a surgery scar...

Scars and stretch marks are no big deal.

fifty4x2 · 10-28-2005, 08:25 PM

They are a fact of life, we all have them. As we get older they get more prominent, a sign of maturity. Look at the person as a whole, we all have our faults.

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10-28-2005, 01:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
tulippe44 Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 19 Location: Atlanta	How do men feel about stretch marks on women? Okay so I do think that I am an attractive woman and of course my husband reassures me of this quite often, but how do men in this lifestyle feel about stretch marks? My hubby says he doesn't even notice them, but let's face the facts after two kids they are definately there. So do men really not notice them on a new partner?

10-28-2005, 02:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
mrs good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,207 Location: Reno, NV Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Question for the men? I am not a man of course but I can speak from experience. I have a scar that starts 2" above my belly button and runs clear down to the pubic area. I have never had anyone turn down play because of it. I have been asked what it is from but strictly out of curiousity. We all have flaws so don't worry and have fun. __________________ One's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains it original dimensions.

10-28-2005, 03:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
Greg & Sheryl Blogging Swingers Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 744 Location: Denver, CO Status: Couple	Re: Question for the men? Stretch marks are a fact of life. Virtually every mother has them. In fact, they are so common that most men (at least the older ones who are also parents) don't even notice them. __________________ Greg & Sheryl

10-28-2005, 03:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Everlearning Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Tulsa OK Status: couple	Re: Question for the men? I have had my gall bladder removed, didn't leave much of a scar but some. If you know me and like what you see and want to play, are you going to look for it or be turned off by it? I would guess you wouldn't even notice and if you did, you wouldn't give a hoot. We have only been with a couple partners at this time, but no one seems to care once you have got to know someone enough to want to play.

10-28-2005, 03:49 PM	#6 (permalink)
DarkandPatent Registered Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Georgia Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:DarkandPatent	Re: Question for the men? I second Greg&Sheryl, stretch marks are a fact of life. They are so common that even some men have stretch marks. I do not find stretch marks to be unattractive at all. I guess it comes from my affinity for scars. It shows me that people are real and live lives.

10-28-2005, 04:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
tulippe44 Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 19 Location: Atlanta	Re: Question for the men? Thanks everyone, I have noticed that since my hubby and I have started exploring the potential for this lifestyle I have started to contemplate my body much more than I used to. I also have a scar from gallbladder surgery that is quite large(long story and I truly dislike that DR.) But I guess it is just one of those things that women are self concious about and men don't really notice. Again, Thanks

10-28-2005, 04:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
HotMoCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 402 Location: Missouri Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:HotMo	Re: Question for the men? Don't make such funny jokes....I almost fell off my chair! Figuring the level of intelligence (sp?) I wouldn't worry too much. I don't remember noticing them on my ex and my 2nd wife doesn't have any, even though she had on baby. Her secret? Vitamin E. Just poke a hole in the jell caplet with a pin and squeez it out. She did hers right after her daughter was born. Oh yea, you question. To answer, I don't believe it makes much difference to most guys. But hey, my wife and I are 50+, so there are a few wrinkles. __________________ "Heros go to heaven, survivors go home."- Some damn ol' gunt.

10-28-2005, 04:40 PM	#9 (permalink)
sepacouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 108 Location: southeastern PA Status: couple	Re: Question for the men? It's all part of life. Being in the Lifestyle does not mean you are in a beauty contest. Your personality and attitude is a lot more important than what you look like.

10-28-2005, 04:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
ItTakes3 Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 98 Location: NTex	Re: Question for the men? No problem...we all have body parts that beg for acceptance.

10-28-2005, 06:27 PM	#13 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,312 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Question for the men? Hi tulippe44, What you'll find, as you have already on this board, is that there are a number of us (enough for your satisfaction I believe) that say it's not an issue. It probably is for others though. Some don't like shaved heads...some do. Some don't like facial hair...some do. Yada Yada...Someone who would turn someone down because of it is pretty shallow. There are so many other reasons for not playing again with someone that are much higher on the list. Male D __________________ "Just nod if you can hear me..." David Gilmour

10-28-2005, 06:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
HappyPeople Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 390 Location: Tampa	Re: Question for the men? As a woman who likes women and as a woman with a surgery scar... Scars and stretch marks are no big deal.

10-28-2005, 08:25 PM	#15 (permalink)
fifty4x2 Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 25 Location: Montezuma, NM Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:fifty4x2	Re: Question for the men? They are a fact of life, we all have them. As we get older they get more prominent, a sign of maturity. Look at the person as a whole, we all have our faults.

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