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This is a discussion on Big boob issues within the Self Esteem / Attraction / Fear of Rejection forums, part of the Archives category; We have been talking with a cpl for a few weeks now and were planning to meet them this weekend. ...

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Old 02-28-2005, 09:00 AM   #1 (permalink)
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We have been talking with a cpl for a few weeks now and were planning to meet them this weekend. The great thing about it is they r about 10 min. from us and we have so much in common that when we talk about our children I sometimes thing that we have the exact same kids (lol). And everyone has expressed a mutual attraction.
Here is the problem...I noticed that last night they updated their profile on a swingers website and saw that he had put that having big boobs was a necessity for him. Well, here lies my problem. I have a 34b chest. Definately not big boobs. So what do I do now?
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Old 02-28-2005, 09:26 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I would suggest going ahead with the meeting based on the positive aspects y'all have discovered.

There's nothing wrong with B-boobs, Darlin', and if he's willing to pass up an opportunity like you for bigger breasts, he has a problem you haven't discovered yet.

Still, the only way to find out is to meet and get to know the couple.

I'd also suggest meeting in a restaurant, bar or coffee shop. Have an exit-strategy planned.

By the way, I just asked Mrs. Alura (who has large breasts) and she said a man who wanted her for her boobs would never see them, much less feel them.

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Old 02-28-2005, 09:31 AM   #3 (permalink)
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If he didn't make that clear earlier on, it's no fault of yours that you don't appear to fit their requirements.

Be straightforward, even laugh about it, and say, "Hey, we just noticed your updated profile and it looks like we may not be so compatible after all. I wear a 34B bra. So what do we do now?" I'd include a smiley face laughing after that, then wait and see how they reply. You probably wouldn't want to call them, unless you feel real comfy doing so. An e-mail doesn't put them on the spot like a phone call does. They can think it over before responding.

Don't let this get you down. It's one of those bumps in the swinging road. But this could turn out surprisingly well. He may decide a smaller breasted woman has a lot to offer.

Let us know how things turn out.

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Old 02-28-2005, 12:42 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Okay, being a guy- I'll transpose "big boobs" for "big penis." As I have a small- but average penis, I do not respond to ads where they are looking for a "big penis."

I have no desire to prove to the couple looking for a 9" Johnson that a 5" Johnson can do a more than servicable job. And I would no doubt be selfconscious my whole time with such a couple.

So going back to the boobs thing- if I had 34Bs (very nice size IMHO) and they were looking for Ds- I'd say to them "bugger off."

People have a right to only want size DDs or 9"+. I think that they are kinda shallow- but that's just my opinion....
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Have to kinda agree with Nymph an' Satyr. It's everyones right to be as specific as they want to in finding partners.

That being said, when someone is so specific that placing "having big boobs is a necessity for him" in their ad, it raises a big red flag. Do you really want the selfconsciousness? I'm curious why he didn't put "prefers big boobs, but likes them all".

But as LikeMinds321 suggested, ask him. Sounds like you've got a good relationship started. Would be a shame to loose that based on boob size. Find out from him if it's "mandatory" or if maybe he phrased the ad wrong.
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I'd have to say that LikeMinds is on the right track with this one. Big boobs might just be a preference, too; no one should have to 'take one for the team', but at the same time some flexibility is going to be necessary if anyone wants to actually 'hook up' with anyone. There's no such thing as the perfect couple. Are they experienced? If they're relatively inexperienced, they may find that what they initially thought was a "necessity" really isn't as necessary to having a good time as they thought. There might be something else about you that really trips his trigger, which outweighs having big boobs (no pun intended). BTW, 34Bs are right down the middle average, so I wouldn't worry about it. As LikeMinds suggested a light-hearted email addressing the issue (smily face included ) might be a nice way to get to the bottom of it.
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You know, I make so many typos it's not funny and when I proofread I still can't see them for a couple days, especially grammatical errors. In many cases I make a "isn't" a "is" or a "wasn't" a "was"or a "can't" a "can". It could just be me but to say big boobs are a necessity just doesn't sit right with me. I've seen "We prefer large breasts" but not to the extreme need or necessity associated with it. Just for the heck of it you could just trying asking if he really means "big boobs was a necessity" or if he meant "big boobs wasn't a necessity" (or however he phrased it). I've seen people do it several times on the message boards here too. If you ask if that's what he really meant by it it gives you an opportunity to say how uncomfortable you are that you don't meet his criteria if what he said is true. I wouldn't want to put myself in a position where I felt inadequate because my body didn't meet someone's needs. I don't care to be self conscious and I want swinging to be as fun and carefree as possible. I'm a 34B, they fit my body well and I wouldn't want to be in a position where I felt any less about myself.
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I think he may like big boobs, but believe me, we're men, all boobs are good boobs.

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Old 02-28-2005, 08:58 PM   #9 (permalink)
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They would be foolish to turn you down for that. And...IMHO, it's not the same as Small Cock. I guess his plan is to be with only women who have large boobs?

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Just for the heck of it you could just trying asking if he really means "big boobs was a necessity" or if he meant "big boobs wasn't a necessity" (or however he phrased it).
I think he meant that they were because it also stated how much he loves his wifes 36d breasts.
The hubby said that I am worrying too much for no reason, but I have always been self-concious about my "small" breasts and just worry that now that they added that to their profile, I will be too focused on the fact that I am so small breasted.
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btw, for everyone who is confused about the last post, I didnt realize that I was logged in under arcpl4mfm. That is my current profile...not NJDixieDarlin
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I'm always concerned with a womans looks, but necessarily her boob size. Its an absolute MUST that she have something between her ears. More then a mouthful is a waste!
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If he didn't make that clear earlier on, it's no fault of yours that you don't appear to fit their requirements.

Be straightforward, even laugh about it, and say, "Hey, we just noticed your updated profile and it looks like we may not be so compatible after all. I wear a 34B bra. So what do we do now?" I'd include a smiley face laughing after that, then wait and see how they reply. You probably wouldn't want to call them, unless you feel real comfy doing so. An e-mail doesn't put them on the spot like a phone call does. They can think it over before responding.
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Did you guys exchange pics yet? If so, then I would think he is aware of your chest size. If not, then it goes back to the above. And I would say something like that before you meet them. Hopefully, they will go ahead and meet as planned based on the apparant commonalities. But, if big boobs are really that BIG of an issue for him, at least you gave them a chance to opt out.
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I think he meant that they were because it also stated how much he loves his wifes 36d breasts.
The hubby said that I am worrying too much for no reason, but I have always been self-concious about my "small" breasts and just worry that now that they added that to their profile, I will be too focused on the fact that I am so small breasted.
I agree with your hubby. He may have that as a preference, but probably not as a requirement. I like redheads, but that doesn't mean we only swing with couples where the wife has red hair.

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Ditto all that stuff. Seems like theres also a fair chance that if his wife has big boobs the necessity is filled anyway
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