Dealing with situations that affect your self-esteem

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by good times

I know it doesn't seem likely, even hard to imagine I dare say, but could it be she isn't into the whole pooh throwing thing or something.

Well - she could have said something the first time I whipped it at her...

She just kind of smiled...

But I fling pretty hard, actually, so maybe it took her a minute to collect her wits...

Spoomonkey (disbelieving that he is chasing the flung-poo rabbit with GT)

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by good times

I think that the problem here has more to do with what she is used to and lack of communication on my part. We have played successfully with this couple and I am just not as fast as her husband, in fact, the last time we played successfully I was just really getting into it when I noticed Mrs. GT and the male of the couple sitting there looking at us. They were finished already in about 1/4 the time it took us to get finished.

Mr Spoo is never in a hurry, we're not in this for the "quickie". We had a similar experience with a new couple and the male 1/2 didn't give me a lot of attention before he was finished and we found ourselves sitting and watching Mr.Spoo and his wife.

So Mr. GT . . . I wouldn't mind at all if you were a little slower getting started. I believe in savoring the moment

Mrs Spoomonkey

[good times]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

So Mr. GT . . . I wouldn't mind at all if you were a little slower getting started. I believe in savoring the moment

Ah, my kind of girl, thanks for the kind words. Mr. spoo and I are pretty darned lucky.

I think in this regard Mrs. GT and myself are pretty evenly matched, we both like to start slow and enjoy the longer ride.

[good times]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

(disbelieving that he is chasing the flung-poo rabbit with GT)

Yea, wassup with that, For my part its Stevie Nicks at high volume that made me do it.

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

But - once she had her fun - and Mrs Spoo and her husband were going to another level - I naturally assumed that we could head that direction, too. I got the "that's okay" and was rather stunned...
Spoomonkey

At the risk of not sounding as polite as Spoomonkey, I take it she orgasmed during foreplay and then decided that was enough of playing?

If that was the case, I think selfish is ONE word you could describe her with. But, then again, maybe after orgasm she doesn't produce much wetness and she was too embarressed to suggest lube, I don't know. This just wouldn't be right though.

[SexhoundDog]

I think CuriousAgain has it, Mr. Spoo! You were such a Magical Tonguemaster that she was just rude, got her jollies, and sent you packin'!

I know I'm glad Mrs. HoundDog doesn't do that to me, and I bet you're glad Mrs. Spoo doesn't do that to you!

Or maybe you were wagging that tongue around like you were ready to chow down on a banana and the tongue power of a monkey scared her.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Of course, Vespertine makes a good point too

Would you be willing to take a look and let me know? I mean - for the sake of not scaring anyone in the future... I can mail it to you - but it will likely have a simian attached...

You know, I've been eagerly checking my mailbox since 12/3, Spoo.

No massive purple monkey penis in there yet.

[DBL D]

Vespertine that's not fair!

M.D.

[yesplease]

Found thise quote for you're amusement...


I remember being handed a score composed by Mozart at the age of eleven. What could I say I felt like de Kooning, who was asked to comment on a certain abstract painting, and answered in the negative. He was then told it was the work of a celebrated monkey. 'That's different. For a monkey, it's terrific.' -- Igor Stravinsky

It's all at how you look at things.

[HotMoCpl]

Hey Spoo, chalk it up to experience and lessons learned. Just remember that life is real and sh_t can and will happen. Its all a matter of handling rejection.


Cheers.

After the first time, which was bad all the way around... the next two times hubby and I were swinging, the guy just couldnt get it up with me. I tried several things, for more than a few minutes. And was so hurt as a result, I felt there must have been something wrong with me. So later I chatted with both couples and told them how I felt (I actually cried after the second time). I guess the guys were more comfortable chatting about it on the computer instead of face to face. They both told me I was WAY more aggressive than what they were used to, it was intimidating. So the next time I was with one of the guys, I was a little more reserved at first, until we were in the middle of it, then I felt he was more comfortable for me to be me. turns out that when we got done (it was at a house party) Everyone downstairs started cheering "10". We both laughed and it turned out great. The other guy, well we have not been with them since.... You win some you lose some.