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IvorieManiac

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  • Birthday 11/18/1976

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    Niagara Falls, N.Y.

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  1. He doesnt understand that im not turned on sometimes because I dont feel like I excite him enough anymore. Im too over weight and not wild enough to keep him happy but it wouldnt matter if I were 50lbs lighter, im still not going to be as sexually uninhibited as he is. Im afraid I bit off more than I can chew for the wrong reasons and ultimately I have to set him free. Im not what he wants or needs and nothing I do will change that.
  2. Yes I have and he thinks I suggested swinging because he doesnt turn me on anymore. Ive told him hes wrong, I thought it would help my self esteem and keep him from cheating on me. He has always talked about wanting a threesome with another woman from the beginning of our relationship, ive done it with my ex so why not with him. And hes continually tryed to get me to sext or talk dirty during sex, about multiple partners of course. He assumes the only reason I resist is self doubt and thinks I should overcome it and be a freak with him. So I thought if we try swinging it was a good compromise, it satisfys his needs without being unfaithful and I win brownie points and a deeper love from him. All its done so far is cause a fight.
  3. I think your right, but the plot thickens. My fiance is aggrivated that im pulling out! He is excited by this woman and playing with her and has stated that if I found the male half of a couple hot but he wasnt attracted to the female half, he would take one for the team and I should be willing to do the same! He feels we wont ever find a couple we both agree on and this couple are really cool so its selfish of me to say no. Im now threatened by his eagerness to be with the woman and feeling very jealous. Concidering I am having issues with insecurity and hate my body, by him reacting this way im hurt! This has turned me off to the idea of swinging all together now. I know he will be angry for teasing him since it was my idea to do this, but now im upset because he was the one who contacted this couple and I know it was because of her. He says he thinks the guy is better than anyone ive been with in the past as well so I have no room to be picky or complain. They do play with single men and we all exchanged numbers so now im scared if I dont give him what he wants, he will see them behind my back. Ive gotten myself in a mess I cant see a way out of! Either way, im just screwed and not in the fun way I had intended. Am I just over reacting? Has anyone else ever been through this? I dont want to disappoint my fiance but I dont want to feel forced into doing something I dont want to do! My ex did that to me and I hated him and myself for it! I wanted this time to be different. I hoped this would help me work through my issues but now I feel like I make a grave mistake!
  4. Wow! You have the patience of a saint! I wouldve pulled my man aside and told him its time to leave. But of course I know he never wouldve made it to their table to begin with. Neither of us tolerate anyone disrespecting the other. Im sure your husband hadnt realized right away what the woman had done or he would have made a point of involving you more. Needless to say that woman blew her chances, correct?
  5. I can understand how you feel. But I also know where your husband is comming from. I was cheated on by someone I was deeply in love with. When your trust is betrayed like that, not only does your heart break, your own self-worth and self-esteem are damaged as well. The pain you feel is indescribable and the fierce desire for revenge is unrelenting. But what he doesn't realize is no amount of revenge will erase the pain. That is why it is never enough for him, it isn't making the pain subside. It may never go away and most definately if he doesn't seek professional help. A good marriage counselor who specializes in sexual dysfunction is my advise to you both. Good luck.
  6. I think your right, I dont want to lead them on. But I also dont want to offend them. Hopefully we can figure out the most tactful way of addressing the issue. Thanks.
  7. why are you signed up on a swingers site if your disgusted by us and the lifestyle?! I smell a hypocrate in denial.
  8. We had our first 'date' with a nice couple last night. Just met for drinks, no play. They texted us when they got home, they want us to come to their house for dinner tonight. But I have a dilema, we both are attracted to the wife but not the husband. Hes a great guy with a good personality and we could see him as a friend, but I dont see myself doing much with him. The wife I could have alot of fun with. How do we handle this? We dont want to push this couple away and lose what could be a great friendship. Do I grin and bare it with hubby to save the friendship and fun with the wife? Or do we let them go solely over hubby by no fault of his own not meeting criteria?
  9. Oh, plunger, trophy from my softball days, perfume bottles, broom, HAHA! Im a masturbating freak!
  10. I have alot of control in there! I can pop anything in, wet it down and squeagy it dry on the way back out. As for things ive put in there, brushes, pens, toothbrush, beer bottles (i have pics of that), wine bottles, hammer, lava lamp style night light, knives, toes, yea the list goes on and on. Im sure more will be added as well
  11. Our name on sls is the same here. Theres a link on our profile here, not sure how to create one. So check it out and lets us know if we should do something different or not. Thanks. -Jen
  12. Where is the 'like' button?! Trust me when I say you dont want your kid finding out what you do from anyone other than you! After my parents divorced, I found out my mom and her new love interest were curious about the lifestyle through my best friend. She wanted to barrow a shirt from me and went in my bedroom that I shared with my mom. Accidentally, she was thumbing through my mom's dresser thinking it was mine ...and found swingers mags. I felt betrayed by my mom! The whole time shes preaching to me not to be permiscuous and stick with one partner, shes swinging! Let this couple know that if your child is going to find out at all, you want to be the one to say so, not them!
  13. Deffinately moved way too fast and didnt communicate enough beforehand. I dont even count my one and only full swap because it was more of a full rape orchastrated by my ex. (just one of the many reasons we arent together anymore). I agree that a sex therapist can be a great help, and your wife could get advice on helping you cope as well. Im sure she may have feelings of guilt and become frustrated not knowing what she can do for you. But look at the bright side, you are both still together and in love. An experience like this can easily destroy a marriage if not addressed with proper care and understanding. I have all the faith in the world the two of you are going to work through this, concidering that fact and the fact that you are here asking for advise in the first place. Blessings to you.
  14. Well, Mike and I have only been together almost 4 years now. We have both had threesomes in the past in other relationships, but never swapped. And to this day, we as a couple have not done anything. Our sex life has remained just between us. I actually brought up the idea of swinging as an option to give us something that could enhance our love and diminish jealousy or insecurities in the relationship. I understand that the lifestyle could makes these worse as well but, it triggers deeper communication and helps us open up about our feeling. If that is as far as we go in this, I still count it as a success. If more comes out of the experience, I chalk it up to a bonus! We love each other deeply, have a child and know we are together for life. If we can bring more enjoyment in, why not?
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