louie_st

I come to think the effects are pretty radical. Its like stealing to me first you start out small then get bigger and bigger then you can't remember why you started as you are sitting in Jail. You start out playing then more and more and before you know it you are boinking everyone that says hi. Not saying anything bad but look at some of the older couples that have been swinging for a while they will boink anything. In some other threads they talked about intimacy. Intimacy breaks down after a while of being in the lifestyle. Once you seen your spouce boinked in every postion by countless people that came and gone what is left? Like in the news about those amish people. Amish been around since the start of america and they are still going strong in there belifs. look at soceity today with our new words for breaking our vows to get what we want(Swinging, Lifestyle, Swapping, etc..). Since we claim to be happy in our own marraiges and would not trade our spouces for anything. What the hell do you think you are doing? You are trading in your loved one for a one night stand and then act like nothing happened. I think the long time effect really really hurts the marraige emotionally. A scar that you can hide but never will go away.

Sounds like a good thing but a slow and steady pressure is still pressure. Did he buy the book or you? What I mean is after talking did he go looking for couples or buy the books? Or was it your books that you were reading and accidentally left them laying around. I have seen a lot times were you see the man out hunting for sex then trying to convince the wife lets just try it. Well looks like the tables are turned in your favor. If you gave him the choice tomorrow and said lets stop swinging do you think he would argue or say some thing like what ever you want to do.

Intimacy is a unspoken bond between two people that care for each other. Can you tell me that you are going to care for each partner you boink? Well then I should state you might care but they may not. I think you have issues with swinging and Intimacy. Sex is sex but sharing a love or bond(intimacy) with some one else is totaly different. You should look into poly. instead on swinging. From your posts sounds like your looking for MR Right(Tony S.), you always refer to him. So when you find him and he boinks you then leaves and dosen't call or come back. What then? Swinging is exploring sex with others live out dreams and wishes. Not being tied down to one set couple. just thoughts..

For starts great post, a poster marraige for the new term French Vanilla. I also adore this comment about elderly couple holding hands. I have seen two many Lifestyle(swingers) couples look for something new in this lifestyle and forget about what got them there. Too many times a couple who says there ready are just not that. Taken for all that is worth they rush into playing and forget about who they are. If more couples would be so honest and say we could give it up tommorrow and never look back. I have read too many too many posts out here where that is not the case. I like to think that if you think your spouse has doubts then don't do it. If you do not think your husband or wife is in to something 100% then stop and talk about it. Rather then push for something that may wreck the reason you are doing this. Like that stupid movie What About BOB, baby steps, everything should be baby steps. No sense in jumping in the water to find out the current is too fast! Go slow and make sure everything is 100% before moving onto the next phase.

Agreed for the most part but what happens when half of the marriage is in 1 and the other half leans towards 4 or 5? lets say that the women is very content in the marraige and can go the 50 years. Then the husband just wants more maybe had the 2 and is looking 4 or 5. 1+2=3, 4-1=3, 5-2=3, this justifies that in a marraige such as this 3 is the answer for the whole thing. Also lets point out that maybe the husband was a freak and boinked everything that moved before the marraige. The wife was a virgin or maybe one other lover and now is lookin for more experience. The 5 choices are good but leave out alot for mixed marraiges in the choice fields.

Maybe I am wrong though but swinging to us is a couples thing. Lucy and I have had many contacts through out the sites but Lucy always asks me if I was single would I go to a swingers site. For the honest answer is yes not for swinging but for the threesomes and lonely wives. I have always found the bars to pick up hot single women, but I think I could always get more sex at a swingers site. Unless the single male brings a girlfriend for sex so we all can have fun I see no point in it. T The words swingers (wife swap) is what it is so how does a single male have anything to offer then a hard cock to me? You would not be swinging but just swung because there is only one of you. I really don't consider a threesome swinging. That is just free sex for the single male and in my honest thought one step below being a prostitute. A man whore comes to mind. From what I have seen and talked with from sls 90% of what I seen says no single males. I could be wrong but check it out. But like I stated in my thoughts single males and single women are just plain unpaid whores that really do not belong from the name swinging or swingers standpoint. From all that I read swingers or the Lifestyle is a couples based action. Singles are basically unpaid tools for enjoyment as a use and lose item. From all that I heard singles should not be included in swinging.

I am straight as a arrow and when the ideal from the wife about bringing in another man comes from her it upsets me. We did a MFM once before he boinked her as I kissed an caressed her. Then it was my turn to do her, wow what a turn off for me. Sloppy seconds what a treat, at least with FMF she gotten oral from both of us. Its not like when we did a MFM he was Bi and did me orally. Just think a straight threesome, I see no point usless. How do you tell somebody wait while he boinks me then you can have your turn. OR you hurry up and finish then sit and wait while he does me. Then also you see the man that has the out of town trip and the wife says go ahead and find a couple. Where is she? is he being truth full? or is she also sending him out so she can get some ass? Me I would not suck any mans penis in a threesome, so why the hell would I even be in one. Thats why I like a couples thing or a Bi threesome.... I can see a Bi man at least I would get some action too instead of just watching... Then I could see her saying no for a Bi man because I would be getting some action also.. What do you so, I wouldn't suck, but wouldn't mind being sucked. So I can look at her face after she kisses the cum out of his mouth and I can smile....

Herpes if not posted on your ads in SLS is just wrong. Don't get me wrong oranything, but I would want to know up front. Not a few weeks later then I find out with some growth or something. I would not want to swing, soft swap, or get physical with a in fected person. This would kill me if I or the wife would come home with this!!! I could see alot of people getting hurt over this. This is not your own life, but others you might infect. Then there is the chance you infect somebody else and then here we go on the cycle again. This is how AIDS was so rapidly spread throught the USA. Nobody saying anything and hopes it goes away. God what happens if they pass it along to their children by mistake and now you just corrupted some inocent child becasue you did not want to say anything. I don't know I just think people who are infected need to be very up front about it......

How can come a long way if you are not doing it?