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    Sex, Swinging, Clubbing
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  1. Oh yes. My wife say "no way its disgusting!" But after a couple of MFM 3somes she now want to try two or more extra males at the same time.......... But you have to know your wife well. Mine loved porn and kinky talk and is turned on by being filmed and having sex where we can be discovered. I knew she would like it as I know her well. And we had an active sex life for you..... Prob best you lay off the swinging ideas and build up communication with your wife what makes her sexy. I think your approach souds very "male and ego centric". You say "I did some research on the web and it appeared that she may have a sexual dysfunction" sounds like you are being home doctor!!!! Do think of seeking help but do realise its never just one persons fault. You may have already upset your wife deeply without realing it by blaming her for a lack of sex. So she basically say "you go and fuck others" I hear a divorce coming if you do. Work on the relationship You may notice things like - kids - work - getting old - getting fat - humdrum life all make us "unsexy". How romantic are you? treat her to facials? hairdresser? a make over? do you talk to her as 'mother and cook' or as your wife? think about it
  2. there alwasy sems to be many reasons why people cheat but mostly seems to be Single men with GF: cheat as they want lots of ONS partners - one safe always there girl and plenty of others. its not the sex its the "hey i am a stud" machoness. To me this is insecurity Married men and women: seems to me mostly happens out of "boredom" people want romance and the thrill of a "secret" relationship. Also for men at mid-life or so the "I am still a stud" and for women "I am still attractive" thing Swinging doesnt fill these requirements fully - well a man can prove his "stud like capabilities" but that infers a selfish attitude no good with 3+some - well not for long! I think mostly happy swingers are happy a they have strong relationships and wouldnt cheat on their partners but can have the extra fun and possibilities 3+ can provide. This implies that if stop swinging then no cheating. Thats different to saying swingers are happy as they can "legit cheat". Ok for some maybe thats needed but for most? It does imply that if a couple stop swinging then one or both will eventually cheat for the "variety" so you have to keep on swinging. This by the way is how most non-swingers seem to me see swingers. horny cheaters that say "lets do it in front of wach other". somehow I find that an unromantic thought You can have a lot of sexual variety and excitemnet with one person anyway with some imagination, a camcorder, pvc outfits......... I suppose the wife and I are still old fashioned in that fidelity, committment and trust are still foundations of marriage. If we stop swinging (and will have to when living in her home town) then we know we wont cheat - and I will face 100's of cute yound sexy things after me so I have to be trust worthy. Old fashioned romantics! What do others think?
  3. well done marriage first! But main reason why wife and I have a rule "once only" for 3somes (maybe twice if exceptional) and highly committed married couple only. Always together as well. Otherwise is risk third party develops feelings - and wife had enough of male (non-swinging) friends going all gooey eyed over her!
  4. I wouldn't even notice if there was porn on, too busy doing and watching my wife and others Only exception if the camcorder was filming us all live and it was being played live. Like to show my best side to the camera
  5. Hi, I am a little confused do you mean swinging as in both of you together meet singles/couples/groups for 3/4somes and group sex and never apart or you had an open relationship where you both met people individually? or a bit of both? It makes a big difference to any answers IMHO From the "I love you statement" I suspect you mean "open relationship"
  6. Well dont think I am a prude but drugs to me in general and for swinging are not what I want or want to see as; - I was brought up to associate drug takers = loosers with no personality - never found anyone to disprove that! (I am too young for the 60's) and where the wife comes from I see druggies and they are like "ghosts" - drugs screw your brain up. I have one brain prefer to keep it in good condition! - I get high as a kite from sex and having fun - why I need an artificial stimulant? - they are illegal - who wants to be caught in a drugs raid (random drug testing happens where I lived for a long time - in clubs!) and go to jail - someone high might do something risky like forget the condoms....spread an STD say - if someone screws with their brain and body with drugs - do they take risks with HIV/STD's? If I see drugs. I walk away. Bye Bye druggies!
  7. Well I had many and wife 1 + few BJ's (but that's Asia for you) But either of us are only comfortable swinging as we know we wouldnt cheat on each other if we didnt swing. If one says stop thats it no argument. Many things a couple can do for sexy fun. Outdoors/risky places, making home porn and watching others porn. As well as keeping romance alive with weekends away and dressing up etc. Thats a lot of fun! We just like the extra things 3+ can do 2 cant - like cocks for mouth+pussy+anal, hands and mouths for breasts, ears and anywhere all at once! Extra possibilities NOT "legitamate" cheating surely is the core to swinging? or do most do it to get extra experiences with others more 1on1 ? Most seem to want same bed full swap at least in Asia As you may guess we dont do "wife swapping" just full on 3some/group One thing I noticed in Asia before meeting the wife was that female married friends 35+ who normally married as virgins were going off to gang bangs to make up for "lost time". There husbands were off cheating so they wanted to "get some" as well. Often divorce isnt an option as man will not support the wife or kids. They wanted me as a partner as being western I know to keep my mouth shut. I said no thanks "not my thing". Hate to run into them now though "you said..." So being a virgin at marriage may result in swinging later to even the score up in USA as well??????
  8. well I think its common sense. As a couple if we see two ads like 1. 40 year old male single (divorced 3 years ago) dating but nothing serious as I have not found anyone special enough. I have 2 children so I am i no rush to marry as I dont really want more children as I love them very much and I do get to see them and may never again but who nows. I........ 2. 40 year old male single with a bick cock great in bed will satify you for 4 hours....... We go for 1 as a) sounds like normal guy who knows how to get dates ie can be nice to a lady b) isnt all "me me me" and "my cock big" c) have a personality Ok to go on about sexual performance etc but some basic humanity first! sex later after we know you. Maybe too personal for some maybe but just for illuustration. Anyway would stand out from "my cock big" types Often looking at 100's of ads/emails of cocks and "my cock big" emails I wonder if these guys have EVER got laid. Do they go to women in bars and say "Hi I have a big cock and I will fuck you 2 hours babe". Any women going for that are prob too drunk to care! Really dont they realise its like meeting a person? I always mentally treats all women met online at AFF or online or in person as if I was at a "church social". Ok I might be thinking of them sitting on my face but I dont let on! And once hooked its not a social anymore And in USA being unmarried at 40 is ok. In Asia its like WEIRDO ALERT!
  9. Surely a divorced/separated etc single male swinger is far more attractive as a single male to couples than a guy new or just been the single male? He will be more sensitive, understanding and relaxed swinging with a couple(s). We wouldn't go for "normal single guys" who had no or little experience. surely clubs should differentiate between those that have long time experience and new inexperienced single swingers! and for single female swingers surely a guy that has done it before is more suitable than a newbie??? it's a harsh old world
  10. I as a man always suspected that women were the natural sexual predators and true lovers of sex. Women can cum until they collapse and if fit that's after several hours. Most of us men are ok twice or three times but a woman can take a lot more than one man can give. Religion - dominated by men - and mens jealousy of looking after other mens off spring led to "monogamy" in religion. Or polygamy with 1 man many woman so offspring rights ensured But sexually surely most women can easily take 2,3,or more guys! So firstly it's just plain old sexual satisfaction. Men are mostly aroused by the end of their dicks (not 100% of course) but woman can cum from almost any part of their bodies. Some cum very quickly from being touched. So having two sets of hands and two mouths is very erotic for a woman. Also DP is great for most woman - either vagina/mouth or vagina/ass. So it makes "physical" sense for a MFM threesome. As a man though with a sexy wife I suppose I also love to see her "go wild". I like "bad gals" who love sex. Nice to see her go wild and shag loads of guys! ok I get my turn - and I know how to make her cum more as I know her well but it's a lovely thing to her truly shagged and covered in cum. Me kinky? Yep! Also it's nice to see another man enter her doggy while she blows me. the look on her face is well worth it. And I suppose it's "naughty" not "normal" which makes it a kinky secret for us. Anything bad is fun.
  11. Surely the main reason for a "soft" MFM (MMF implies guy on guy action as well ) swing is because a couple maybe having their first swing and are nervous I think most experienced guy real swingers would be cool with that. Anyway most women once they get going would prob want more but limiting expectations would sooth the womans nerves and allow her to get into it slowly. It also shows the single guy is considerate and into watching as well as doing. A swinger extra male isnt a guy just wanting to shag anothers man wife but also enjoys watching the husbands cock slide in the wifes pussy as well etc. Well not to us anyway. If desperate for a shag a single guy should go to a bar not us just our 2 sens worth
  12. Surely real problem is that a single guy gives off the following "feeling" (same for non-swingers but multiplied for swingers) especially if over say 25; - Why is he still single? surely the best guys are already taken and being single too long makes a mans ego grow and become selfish - is he cheating married/attached man? Its hard on single guys. We tried first MFM with a guy new in town who had to split up with gf as she was working in another country. Having been in difficult international relationships I know sometimes that it happens and hard to keep it going. She had got him into swinging. So he was "normal" not desperate and experienced. he was good and really got us into the lifestyle and said keep i touch as when he is attached he will invite as over, sure will! If young - say We think most single guys - at least on AFF which we are beginning to dislike more and more (but in Asia where we normally are its hard to find swingers) seem to be just looking for easy sex rather than swinging exerience. So looks like couples only from now on. Pity the wife likes extra men.
  13. The wife thought we were going through a rough patch when we went down to once a day. better show her this poll! But we are still I thought it was because I was getting older. But was because we had more serious issues than sex Sex is like a barometer. If something else is wrong then sex goes downhill. I had the problem before that many have when a lack of stella stud like performance results in "you having an affair?" "I am too fat" etc etc. But it was just not relaxing to argue like that. Now if tired some touching and caressing usually leads to oral then a quickie even if stressed and tired. Just start off with some touching and no expectations of a porno style 2 hour session. Nothing like performance worries (like with my ex) to kill sex. Keep those for a romantic weekend. Then not stressed anymore! And again it helps that the wife gets horny by just touching her once..... some people are more naturally sexed up than others. Fingers are great if you are too tired to rise to the occasion. But usually a moaning woman gets me going anyway. But for anyone some touching and mutual masturbation even when tired is surely a way to relax each other before sleep! Beats watching TV or having an arument Sex is the best free anti-depressant/happy pill we have. Use it or loose it! No need for therapists, drugs, alcohol......or Oprah!
  14. The previous poster mentioned something important. IMHO its far better with an out of town stranger you meet for a MFM than a friend. What if he freaks out? what if your partner has a crush on him or him her? If you get jealous the guy will be around you! If out of towner then less jealous feelings An experienced swinger would be best as well. Ideally one who has swung as a couple before and is single for normal relationship breakdown reasons.
  15. The wife and I seem to hug a lot more after trying swinging. Sort of feel more romantic. maybe as we are not so focused on sex as before? But it feels good and we prob less "hard fucking" each other and more love making since we fucked others. i think that feels right And after years of marriage sex is bound to dwindle a bit but be replaced with other things more valuable. Swinging allows that raw "first sex" feeling. Surely thats one of the main reasons why people do it? And the other reasion being extra possbilities of course. My wife pussy is the best but I cant lick and fuck at same time but can with another woman present - and same for her to get fucked and suck her favourite cock with another man to provide the extra cock. Both are good reasons to swing But if you are distancing from your partner then time for a break from swinging and some communication
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