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davidnjoy

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About davidnjoy

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Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    pacific NW
  • Interests
    Skiing, Whitewater Kayaking, Burning Man
  • Occupation
    Healthcare Professionals
  • Swinging Experience
    One and Half Years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    davidnjoy
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Redmond Ranch (our first and will always hold a special place for us)
  1. I'm with goodtimes. If you don't want to know the answer to a question, why ask!?! If you are self-conscious about a certain area about your body, why ask specifically about an area! No matter what the guy said you would take it wrong, because you would only see the bad implication of it. Take "I like all skin" as a compliment.... your skin is included!
  2. We find that porn in the beginning can help get things started. Though by the time everything is in full swing it's just background noise and I will usually turn it off and switch to music. No set rules though, but that's what I find happens when we host. I do like the idea of turning the porn on without the sound and also turning on the music. I think I'll give that a try!
  3. No!!! They do not need to know and it will not affect how they treat you in the end. The only difference is that you will become, at the very least, a source of gossip amongst your doctors staff. Joy and I both are health care professionals and are both careful what we tell our doctors. Granted we can better evaluate what the doctor needs and doesn't need to know than the average lay person. My only point is that wether your aware of it or not when you tell your doctor something and he writes it down you have lost at least some privacy on that issue.
  4. This is a mountain out of a mole hill. Alcohol in moderation is the key . Since you are both new I would really advise keeping the alcohol to a minimum until your steady on your feet in this new life style. That's my 2 cents. D PS: we drink, but in moderation and in the beginning of our swinging not at all. It was intense enough without the emotional accerlerant that alcohol is for us.
  5. Holy shit! You got to be be kidding! My experience with JW would suggest an almost violent reaction to such a suggestion. Not trying to be disrespectful just that my past experiences greatly colors my view point in this regard. I was escorted off the premises by gunpoint for dating a daughter of a JW !! She told me she was a JW but being a niave 20 something I did not fully understand what that meant. I went to pick her up for a second date and was met by her father on the front porch with a shotgun/rifle (not sure which) the fact that it was a firearm freaked me out enough! Good luck but I believe your swinging days with this person are at an end. D
  6. D is 42 and J is 29. We tend to attract a wide age range. Recently the trend seems to be the twenty somethings. Where last year we seemed to be attracting older couples. As Dragonblade stated "what is age but a #". This is so true. We have been surprised to find out that play partners were either as young as they were or as old as they were and in either case it obviously didn't matter, it was just an after thought. In the end it was just an intellectual exercise of being surprised at their age because we had made different assumptions. Recently we had those "age assumption" tables turned on us. We ended up going to a BM related party in WA state and getting adjoining rooms with a younger couple we went up there with. On the drive back to Seattle the question of age and experiences came up and this couple was very surprised that D was 42 thinking instead he was in his early 30's. So.....age is just a # and we tend to not worry about age differences. Do we click or not!? That ultimately is the question.
  7. First let me say that I already like you. You will find that the quality people in this lifestyle are actually somewhat more interested in personality than they are in straight out physical appearance. I am not saying that physical attraction is not an important component but, as I've experienced, you gotta stimulate the largest sex organ, my brain. The best experiences I have had have been with people who I have gotten to know first. We tend to get to know people a little before playing (but not always). I, somewhat more than my partner, do best if I can establish a little bit of a connection with my play partners prior to playing. I too have body image concerns from the male perspective. I am athletic but with a large belly. In the beginning I had difficulty with this. Thinking that others would not be attracted to me. What a misconception this turned out to be. What my partner finds sexy and attractive in me others found as well...go figure. Sometimes our fear can make us very shortsighted. You are not relegated to the "ugly corner". You will find that "geeks"(my word) are not only welcome but treasured. D
  8. 89% Poly 100% Tolerant 13% Sex Kind of interesting given how comfortable I am in my current male/female relationship. For the most part, though not always, I do like an emtional connection with play partners. David
  9. We are a couple that is a little out of the norm in our experience. She is only slightly into girls while he is into guys and every so often acts upon it when the right one comes around. We find our tendencies to primarily be heterosexual and live the vast majority of our swing life that way. But we do keep our eyes open for the occasional bi male we are attracted too but do not, for the most part, advertise it. It is our impression that most folks get weirded out with male bi talk...so we just quietly sail through the scene with our radar up. facelick
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