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angeel

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About angeel

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 02/22/1972

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    Donalsonville, Ga
  • Swinging Experience
    New

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  • SLS Name
    angeelica
  1. I always kiss with my eyes closed. Hubby keeps his open. He also said he likes to see my reactions and body movement. He tried to close them, but could not help himself and opened them. He never shuts them any more.
  2. Hi, congratulations on your 20th anniversary. We are new to swinging as well. Our first swing was on our 8th anniversary. Made for wonderful memories thats for sure. We had rules too. Our rules was: to never leave the room. Never engage in any form of sex with out the other present. Those were our only rules. We did discuss anal sex and I we decided that it was up to him and the other person. For me, no, I won't do it. I won't feel comfortable with some else going there. As we have gone on further. Those rules have changed. We met a lady who joined us and our single friend. We got a long all night and for the first 30 min back at the apt. She just was not comfortable. So I told my husband to go to another room. For some reason, when they left, I was no longer interested. Less then 5 min later. My husband walks back in. He was not interested with out me. We ended up with each other and put the 2 singles together. We just can't lose sight of each other. That is part of our enjoyment. So the rule is back in Place! It will work out for you as long as you keep talking about it. When she or even you bring up a rule that you feel is important, accept it. Also discuss why it is important. This is your first time. You know you will be with some one other the S/O. You know there will be possible sex. But you do not know any details such as comfort level. When you meet for the first time and the chemistry heats up and the sexual attraction kicks in, you may find a more relaxing rule coming. You may also end up making a rule for use in certain cpl situations or even places or depending on how many cpls or ppl are involved. Make your rules, relax, let the activity itself soothe you both. After the first swing, re-valuate those rules. Did they work for you? Did they help you to be comfortable? Do you think you can enjoy your self better if you did not have a certain rule? Was a rule needed that was not in place. Ask why or why not a rule worked for you. Happy swinging to you both.
  3. This is my second marriage. My hubbys first. I did not swing with the first. My ex went with out me and i did not like it. Tried to get him to include me. Did not work. The next one was not a marriage, but we were partners for 4 yrs. We did not swing, but he introduced me to some 3somes and my first BI experiences. My husband now, was into group sex before our marriage. We have invested 8yrs into our marriage. We built our friendship, trust, security, and love before we even decided this was right or wrong for us. That does not mean that newly married couple don't enjoy swinging right away. Or that new partners do not. I just don't think we could have handled before now. We had discussed swinging before now, but the opportunity never came. I found AFF and joined a group there that did greet n meets. I showed it to him and said we have the opportunity now. Do you want to explore this further. Thats how we got started and we are loving it!
  4. Hi daddys girl. Seems to be there was many nightmare qualities here that you have running around in your head. You need to find some good here to help you work through it.I know that it is hard to do. But go back over this thread re-read what you have responded to other advice. Seem to me you are really understanding the event of the night a little better. I know it does not make it easier to swallow and accept. Go back to where theis "strange woman" was trying her best to get to you and dominate you. Your husband came to your defense and said in your words" not like that" Maybe rembering some "rescue words" from your husband that night will make you feel some comfort. Sounds like he knows he shit on you , but does not know how to tell you. some men just can not admit when they were wrong. If he had not pushed you away from the woman in the bar, and gave you more of a change to explore this kiss that transpired, maybe it would have lead to some talking. Then , instead of shoving you a car with her. He could have said," I have a surprise for you, Do you want to do this ?" Fantisies are just that , Fantisies. They usaully have no rules cause they are a product of your imagination. But reality has to have rules, communication, and the chance to say whether you are comfortable, or to just say yes or no. Maybe if you can find a small amount of solace in the fact he put her out the room and told her no about dominating you, and then tell your husband this. Maybe it will open up the conversation about the after math. Sounds like he had a little fantasy in the situation he has not shared with you. After communication, and ground rules. It is possible for a new experience to take place that you will both enjoy.
  5. Oh my goodness. PPL have named lots of things they would not do and I don't know their meanings. I, personally would not engage in beastialty, golden showers, or defacating. I do not want to be humiliated and I can handle most name calling , except cunt,who, and cocksucker. for one, i know i can be a bitch. Piss me off and i will prove. I love to be a slut puppy in bed, but do not call me that any where else. No, don't call me a whore either. I agree to my partnes, or couples. I don't hang out in the streets for them. And if you are not my husband, you have no business mistreating or disrespecting me. My husband will call me several names and it can be arousing for me. But that is all it is and coming from him. I know it is not derogatory, or disrepectful.
  6. Oh, I hope I do not run into a no-kissing rule. In my first swing experience the kissing had a calming effect for me. Made me feel at ease and human.
  7. Our first experience was great, not perfect. I joined AFF and read over the site for 1 month before showing it to my husband. After showing it to him, he was excited and suggested we register as couples. This action began the first night of many talks on Swinging. We researched all the words we could thing of to describe sex with other people other then spouse/partner. We spoke to people on AFF and joined a group. We did this from start to beginning for 3 months. Then it was time for a greet n meet. Neither of us knew what was expected of us or if we could follow through. We have been with each other for 8 years. We have excellent communication, honesty and trust between us is awesome. There was no pressure from the people in the group to participate in sexual activities. In fact upwards of 100 people were to meet socially at a bar for dancing, drinking and meeting each other. We got there and met 2 couples right away that we had an instant spark with. Such as same interest in hobbies, music and professions. It was great. We joked, danced, bought each other drinks and laughed together a lot. Then they dropped the bomb, " Do you want to go play back at the motel room?" I ignorantly asked, " Play what?" lol My husband and each of the 2 couples burst out laughing. I felt like an idiot. But yet, that was our big, "Ice Breaker" None of us were drunk either. We had set our boundaries ahead of time and on the way to the motel, we went over them again. My husband reassured me that if I was uncomfortable, we would politely leave. As a teen, and pre-married adult, my husband had participated in group sex. I had participated in 3 separate threesomes which included BI favors. But still this was the first for us as a couple. These 2 couples had previously played together and the 1 couple we had seen post in the group. We walked into the room and it was a spontaneous relaxing environment. The lady from the main couple shed her clothes and announced she was going to shower. I surprised myself by doing a strip-tease and getting in the shower with her. With some coaxing from us we got the other one in the shower. We 3 became familiar with each others bodies. By the time we filed out and headed toward the bed , we were ready for each other. The 3 of us engaged in play and 1 by 1 the guys got involved. This is where my perfect ends and the good comes in. Another man actually touching me? Could I handle this? I did not know. My hubby was having a ball and gave me a look that said, "if you want to bail, let's go" One of the guys did not perform. He just likes to play and it turned out so did my hubby! Go figure. I thought he wanted penetration. He is str8 and so were the other 2 guys. But only 1 was into the penetration and he wanted me. Part of me was ready to run!! I sat down in a chair and smoked a cigarette to calm my nerves. (that did not offend any one either as they also smoke ) He began to rub my feet and legs and talk to me. Eventually he had me melting in his hands. When he pulled me from the chair to the bed, i wanted to run again. He actually laid me next to his wife. She immediately took my hand and held it stroking the back of it with her finger tips. My husband was playing with her. That relaxed me again. 1) I knew he was there if I needed him and would stop anything that would hurt me, or if I said no to something. 2) The wife held my hand so lovingly, 3) The gentleman talked to me the whole way in such a loving and romantic way. It was as if we were all lovers, instead of here playing and having sex. My husband left to play with the other lady and her husband came to play with the one next to me. She continued to hold my hand and stoke me and my "new lover" continued to talk to me and they both held me close when I orgasmed. The whole experience was erotic, romantic, and intensifying! Afterwards everyone held each other for a little snuggling and talking. When it was time to leave by mutual agreement, we each hugged, kissed and exchanged #'s and plans for a future play date.
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