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  1. More than likely the guy freaked a bit because the Mrs. was enjoying things so much and so "willing". I had some issues within myself to deal with after the first time I watched my wife pleasured by another man, but we dealt with it and I believe I grew a bit as a person from it. I am sure it's nothing that you or your hubby did wrong.
  2. Mr SEMNTJ here: I just wanted to throw in another vote that scars and stretch marks is a non issue for us too. It seems to me that sexy comes from within. And it seems in life that the greatest accomplishments and sacrifices often leave their marks behind, bringing a child to the world, overcoming an accident or health or weight problem, cosmetic surgery, whatever it may be. I think it just adds to the total package and makes the person even more sexy!
  3. I think you need to be more honest in your meetings! tell the woman up front. "if I have to check for a pulse, Im taking over my wife, and we will show you how it is done"! Mr.B you sound awsome
  4. what you said was awsome..if you aoready dont have like a million friends, and are in need of new buddies, please keep us in mind. your words were right on and I thank you you are very wise
  5. I wish I could get past my internal feelings and thoughts and help her experience a MMF again, but I don't know how to do it without it hurting inside. Am I just not cut out for this, too insecure perhaps? Or is it just the first time thing and I am over analyzing everything? I have considered doing it again with the same guy several times just to get myself past the issue and let nature run it's course. But I don't know if that will work or if it would make things worse or better.
  6. intuition897 We posted our problem to get advice from all sides, your words made it easier to commumicate how I was misconstrewing her feelings. For her it was about a fun time with me for me and all about us. I wanted her to have fun and experience the "cloud nine" feelings as I know after 13 years that she doesn't get "cloud nine" from me anymore, and I knew that she never really got much of that in her life being overweight before. I guess it was just hard for me to watch someone else give her those feelings for REAL the next day. Even though it was a fun hot time. She says she didn't even have an orgasm with him, only when I was doing her. The actual sex wasn't that great, it was just the naughtyness of the act and the fact that someone else was paying attention to her and hot on her. When we first started we were all standing in the living room, she was standing behind him rubbing up against him. I could tell he felt awkward and didn't want to just turn around and start doing anything so I said, "I am going to go out to the car and get my pop, I will be right back" as I knew that was needed to get things started. As soon as I left the room he started making out with her, She said when she heard me opening the door and coming back in the room was the most exciting part of the whole thing. Please don't ever feel bad about posting your honest opinion and giving good advice, that is what we wanted. Thanks Again.
  7. Well I just had a heart to heart talk with my wife. I realize that I was making a mountain out of a mole hill now, I guess emotions will do that to you sometimes. I am the luckiest man in the world, and again I realize what made me want to do this to begin with, my wife is the most awesome woman in the world. Our communication has grown over this and that is always a good thing in a marriage. We are going to give this a little time and lots of talking and then see where we want to go from there. I see now that although I was trying to be truthful in my posts here, my emotions were clouding the truth and making me see things that weren't really there. I can't beleive I ever doubted her now. Thank you all for the advice, you are all good people for trying to help us out. Hi its the MRS. thank you all for those kind and not so kind words. I told my husband that we have no true friends, because we are different. We love kinky, hot, steamy sex. It is awsome, and we never had that till recently. I have come out of a cacoon. I weighed 288 lbs. SEX wasnt that fun for me. Although i liked it I found it hard to get worked up knowing what he had to work with. I have lost 130 lbs and am in the best shape of my life. I have had some surgery, and now with a lot of work, have a six pack, and the (in my husbands words) the sexiest hips he's ever seen. Trust me when I say the SEX IS FUN now! I love my husband with all my heart. I only wanted this because I thought it would be fun for both of us. And told him on several occasions I woudnt talk to this guy if he didnt want me too. Infact after agreeing not to talk to him, my husband contacted him, and also told me he wouldnt mind doin it with him again. He was confused about what all this ment to me, but now Does understand. I think I sould like friends like swingers because we are finally like them, and no one will judge. Thank you all for your help. Mr & Mrs semntj
  8. Thank you all for the replies. My wife is the most wonderful woman in the world, and I believe in my heart that she would never cheat on me. That's why I can't understand this, why do I have these feelings? When I told her I felt this way about it at first she assured me that she wouldn't let anything happen and that she wasn't looking for another relationship. She said we could just stop talking to this guy and find a couple for the next time. But as soon as the excuse was there to chat with him again, she was all over it. I believe my wife would stop before anything got out of control, but what about the guy? What if he already has or developes feelings? It was his first time with a couple too and he hasn't been with anyone for a while. She wasn't the only one that took something away from this, he has to be on cloud nine as well. I just didn't think of all the emotional aspects and such before we did this. I feel like I have spoiled the whole situation for my wife now and became the bad guy for feeling the way I do. Like giving something and then taking it away, I am just sick about that...
  9. intuition897 TY for the response. So if I was to consider option 1, what are you saying? I should make sure we do this again with him. Kind of overlook the chat and such and just see what happens? To be honest I am not sure I could do that. We have been married for 13 years and have young children. I don't think I can just sit back and watch while someone tries to emotionally seduce my wife, especially if it's working. Last time they chatted they talked about why I had bad feelings, she told him that I am jealous of him because he has a weight lifting body. I have no idea where that came from as I never said that and it's not the case. I wondered why she told him that???
  10. My wife and I had a threesome last weekend with a single man. We met with him and talked for about 3 hours before we got to the action. It was my idea and she thought it sounded fun. It was fun and exciting that night. The next day my wife and I talked about it a lot, she was very excited and I could see that she wanted to talk to the man very badly, she kept waiting for him to come online so they could chat. She also was talking about making plans to do it again the next weekend. This made me very uneasy about the whole situation because it immediatly went beyond the sex that night to more. Keep in mind she is NOT hiding this from me, the chating is about things that happened that night (which I really had no problem with) but quickly moved on to personal beliefs, physical attraction, and well just things that had nothing to do with sex, and he was very good at bringing up little things that she had mentioned in our talking that night and really getting into her head. (although she won't admit it). I started feeling very insecure about the situation and talked with her about it in detail. Two days later I talked to the guy online because he had one of my wifes ear rings that was lost there. I was honest with him too and said I was having bad feelings. I went and got the ear ring that day and later showed my wife our archived chat session. She signed on and immediatly started talking with him again but not telling him I was sitting with her reading along. The chat was more of the same as the first time, that night, sex, how hot each of them are, shooting cum, and lots of personal views. He took every opportunity to get into her head again. 'Yes I had to put your ear ring on before I gave it back to you" type of stuff, She then decided that she wanted to web cam for him and give me a blow job. I said you don't want to give ME a blowjob, you want to do it for him, to impress him, to feed him more of you... theres more but this is getting too long....... to make a long story short, I am uncomfortable with this, am I insecure or is this nothing to be concerned about?....
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