Two4funinpa

Not just looking at it from the point of, Is the sexual satisfaction worth it? When I look back at the woman I was before we started swinging to the woman I am today. Hell yes it was worth every bit of time, energy, effort and money. Plus the bonus of a lot of fun walking down this road on a journey of a lifetime together. I have become a better person, a self confident, opinionated, gutsy, sexually liberated, strong vibrant women. Instead of a sexually immature, low self esteem, lacking confidence, and very petty jealous women. I have grown up in a way that I never expected and I really like who I am now. Hubby loves me even more.

What is really funny is that little twinge of jealousy usually pops up when you least expect it. Most people fear it will be on that first encounter sometimes it is sometimes it is not. It can happen to any person at any time. Even after many years of successful swinging sometimes something little and petty can just trigger it. All you can do is talk about it openly and work past it. Don't want to make a seen in front of others. Talk about it calmly when it is just the two of you. It will pass and you work through it. That is the bond that you share and grow together with.

This is a great topic. My husband and I have discussed this many times. Our first thought is we have bumped into people we both know from our work environments at swing party's or clubs. If we bump into someone from work that is where discretion kicks in. We hope that is enough said. Photos online even g rated is where he and I have a struggle. We will share photos if we are thinking we would like to meet. But even our first trade photo has the faces somewhat blurred. It is enough to give them a good view of our real sizes and go from there. Because I still don't know whether the person or people I am trading pics with are real swingers or not. If they are not then why would they have a desire to be discreet and why do they want pics? We enjoy swinging and understand that you need to be attracted to each other but,I am also going to be very careful. There are a lot of crazy people out there, stalkers, photo collectors etc.and we have run into a few posing as swingers. In the past we had been pretty open with pics until we had bad experiences with it. I think the most eye opening moment was when we had gotten our own pics sent to us by another couple we thought we might like to get to know better. We are now much more cautious as to who we share any pics with let alone ones that show our faces.

I think you really can get a good or bad vibe from a profile. My advice would be to follow your intuition. Communicate very clearly what works for the two of you. It is all about learning and growing and even after swinging for many years you still can learn new things or be reminded of things you forgot. Never take a change of minds even in the middle of an encounter to heart, it is better that it ended then got ugly. As far as the other couple changing their profile it is just sparing someone else from your disappointment. Another big red flag is someone too eager or in to big of a hurry to meet. I'd tread that water carefully also. Live and learn and live again. Enjoy!

heheheheh lol oh this brings back memories... on our wedding night we stayed at our house because we were entertaining everyone for opening presents and help eat the leftovers before we went on our honeymoon the next day.... That night just as we were getting into the moment just he and I.. we heard a big creak and crackle..the next thing we knew the mattress was on floor. Needless to say we laughed so hard as we stared at each other in dismay...we left it that way for the night and in the morning before our guests came over he propped it up and reinforced it to handle us... that was about 20 years ago. Since then we have gotten a knew bed and it is one of the select a comfort level for each side type. We have had this for about 3 years, the place where we bought it each time we have sprung a knew leak that is beyond repair, Asks " What do you do to these things we have sold these for 12 years and every once in awhile you have one returned but you two this is 3 now." Hubby is a bigger man but I am a size six so it is not like it has an excessive amount of weight for two people on it. Presently looking for new options cause soon the replacement warranty will be up. Let the good times roll or bounce or whatever it takes ...

I don't like the word rules...rules were meant to be broken...I think far and few between are the couples who have never broken there own rules sometime. It may have not been deliberate or meant to happen it just does. Think more of it as guidlines.....know each others limits of what you are both comfortable with, keep it simple and basic. Talk over on what works for both of you and agree on that ahead of time.Trying to read each others minds is hard and unfair especially if you read it wrong. Don't be afraid to talk to each other openly but respectfully even after an encounter has started, making sure if you question something, a simple are you ok is all it takes and make adjustments in the middle if necessary. If one person in the group is not happy about something everyone can feel the anxiety. If you know what types of people interest's you and your partnerr or what you may be looking for or to try, it can rule out a lot who don't fit the plan right from the get go. Don't be afraid to excuse yourselves and go off privately and talk, chances are the others may need that too. Also be ready and open to change, and adjust those guidlines as you grow into the lifestyle and become more open to new ideas and situations. It is all about changing and growing together, having fun together at your own pace.