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findtime

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About findtime

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    couple
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    Canada

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    Prive / CFG
  1. One of my biggest turn-ons in the lifestyle is watching my husband with another woman. Nothing makes me hotter and he feels the same way. That's why we always play same room.
  2. Kissing members of the opposite sex is something we don't do. I kiss my female playmates, though. We play quite a bit and haven't had it be a problem. At all. We are secure, in love, very sexual and open, but kissing is more of an emotional connection for us than the sex is. Our partners don't seem to mind. We are not jealous, have not had issues with jealousy, have become friends with playmates and have gotten together on vanilla outings etc... Not choosing to kiss really isn't indicative of "problems" in the relationship or insecurity about swinging, it's just a preference we have. Hasn't slowed us down a bit.
  3. There's also the FAM (Fertility awareness method). It's quite involved and consists of charting, temping and recording of physical symptoms such as cervical position, cervical fluid etc...etc...but it is extremely reliable. You can determine with great accuracy when you are fertile. You can always choose to have sex after you ovulate which guarantees that pregnancy will not take place. What you can't determine is if your partner has an STD. Use a condom anyway.
  4. Thanks, Pepper. You brought up a lot of good points. I have made some changes for clarity. I appreciate you taking the time to look it over.
  5. How is the post-swing sex with hubby? Does the talking about it after get you worked up all over again? :lol Sure does for us.
  6. We have encountered all shapes, sizes, colours and ages in the lifestyle. We regularly play with a particular group and, let me assure you, the size sixes are few and far between. Have fun, be outgoing and friendly and you'll be just fine.
  7. I can't for the life of me get a proper link to our profile. All I get is the link to the SLS main page, regardless of what page I'm actually on. Our profile is findtime01 What do you think?
  8. This is me, too. I don't want a man, initially, to take liberties and just assume. I'm not a prostitute and I don't like being put in the position that I'm forced to be blunt or rude to stop someone's advances (I will, but I don't like it). Now, once we've gotten to the sex stage, then I like a man to act hungry.
  9. We went to Mexico and ran into lifestyle couples who lived 10 minutes away from us. It's a small world and it might not matter if you party out of town. We've run into co-workers before, too. Just gives you a reason to smirk at each other while heading to the coffee machine. That said, the chances of having to interview someone you've played with are remote and the situation must have been horrible for your wife. It's no small wonder she's gun shy. The likelihood of that repeating itself is slim. Get professionals if you must but I think the experience will lose a lot of the allure if you know the couple you're with is being paid (I'm assuming that's the case) to spend time with you. If not, I don't understand how it would end up being any different than plain swinging.
  10. It's a hobby to us as it's something we do for fun. We've had to incorporate it into our lifestyle as some changes must be made to allow it to happen. Places we go, things we talk about, friendships we make etc.. There wouldn't be a huge void if we never did it again, really, and I believe if something is part of your lifestyle, there's effort involved when purging it from your habits. Based on my limited knowledge of the subject,and for the sake of comparison, I believe Doms and subs live a lifestyle. I don't necessarily think that's the way of it for most swingers. At least not for us.
  11. Pictures are a must for us, too, although recent picture should be specified. If you graduated 26 years ago but decided to use your college party pictures on your profile....people will notice when you meet. If you decide to post the pictures taken before you gained the 70lbs, people will notice when you meet. Be honest, folks. Why would anyone want to set themselves up for that kind of rejection. If your picture is really you, and really looks like you, then you know that the people who contact you are really interested in you. We also request face pics before meeting. Only made that mistake once. We have face shots in our profile because we realize the importance of it, too.
  12. Same room. (Our rush from this is watching each other give and receive pleasure which is why, even if I can't participate because of mother nature, I still enjoy attending functions to watch my husband). Condom use, always, for intercourse (we'll take our chances with oral). No male-female kissing (we find kissing really intimate and personal. Not so for sex. Any type of sex is ok.) We actually revisited the no kissing rule to see if it was still necessary. We discussed it, pictured it and decided to keep it.
  13. I think Dr. Phil was bang on (with this couple specifically). I watched this episode fully prepared to be pissed off but I couldn't fault his position. I can't imagine ever telling my husband that I didn't find him sexually attractive so would he mind if we go fuck other people. There's a good solid ego booster to prime him up. Good grief! And they're having problems??? I wonder why. Also, I agree with the idea that you're playing with fire swinging with your little ones in the house. Not necessarily for the potential pedophile aspect (I think that's quite rare and you could unknowingly be in the same boat with a friend or family member, too) but for the child walking in on you aspect. Get a room or send the little one's to grandma's house.
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