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menher1559

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About menher1559

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  • Birthday 12/25/1965

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    kentucky
  • Interests
    camping, the lake, canoe, horses
  • Occupation
    professional
  • Swinging Experience
    18 years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    menher1559
  1. We've found that age differences in couples usually doesn't come into play until the later years of the older partner. My mother recently lost her husband. He was 19 years older than she. When they married, it wasn't a big deal, but as he aged, the difference really began to show. He was almost 80 when he died, mother is only 59. I guess all that boils down to the committment you're willing to make to the relationship over the long haul
  2. I've been reading on this post for several days now and as usual, when something peaks my interest, I simply cannot keep my mouth shut..... One of the post i read from somebody...(i've been so enthralled in the content, I can't remember who posted it) said something to the effect of the be sure you can love the person starring back at you in the mirror. This above and beyond all is the secret key to this relationship. In order to love others, you must love yourself. In order to care for others, you must care for yourself. If you honestly feel in your heart you can make this relationship work under it's current condition, then by all means put yourself into it. If you honestly believe in your heart that there is no way it can work and you will constantly have these fears, then it's time to change it. You are in control, not your husband. You have the same opportunities as he. You can choose to have sexual relations outside the confines of your marriage; you can choose to end your marriage; you can choose to continue the life you are living. ALL THOSE DECISIONS ARE YOURS, and the folks here on this board have offered thier heartfelt advice. The fortunate thing from all of this is that YOU ARE IN CONTROL AND YOU CAN DECIDE WHAT IS THE BEST AVENUE FOR YOU TO TAKE. Best wishes to you and your husband and family. "All's fair in love, war and kinky sex"
  3. This all boils down to what i've been saying for years.. If it feels good, do it! I'm a married bisexual married man, and my wife understands my feelings and we both enjoy the scenario with other guys. Now don't get me wrong; I enjoy women much more than I do men, however to be honest, when I can have both, it makes it so much more enjoyable for us. It would seem to me that if both partners are comfortable exploring this issue, then by all means explore it..But don't keep secrets from your partner. Exploring same gendered sex is still cheating if you are doing it behind your partner's back...Just the way I look at it. It never ceases to amaze us at the number of guys that will admit to us when they respond to our SLS ad, that they are bi curious...even though they are listed as straight....we've met one or 2..lol...one was genuine. He was a kind and considerate gentleman and we enjoyed his company very much. The other was a complete asshole...and only said he would consider bi, just so he could get at my wife's pussy..didn't take us long to put him out the door.......Now it would have been fine if he hadn't lied to us, but he did and I can't handle a liar. So there you have it.....talk to your partner and decide together if this is something you want to explore...Try it...you might like it...and if you don't, chalk it up to experience..
  4. I can't resist the temptation. One of the things we've learned through many years of swinging is that rules sometimes do change in mid stream. Like it or not....we've all found ourselves in situations that require a quick adaptation. WE always understand that no means no, and if i'm not comfortable with someone doing something to me, i can tell them, and with my wife, she is the same way. If she doesn't want something in her butt, she'll tell ya...lol. With that being said, we are starting a new adventure with a couple. Ironically, they have been friends of ours for years and neither of us knew the others were swingers.. They responded to our sls ad, and wow as we got to talking we figured a few things out. With this relationship however, we are trying to take it slow and learn a few of the more intimate things about each of us. That way (hopefully) we will no exactly what the boundaries are before we all get naked with each other. WE are even going to try couple dating for a while. Damn, what a concept. I guess with all this rambling, swinging is about the ability to share and adapt to situations. If everyone is on the same page, then there shouldn't be any problems....just be sure. we've found to be the best policy
  5. MFM is our preferred area of fun. And in most cases we allow my beautiful bride to set the pace. The fun is for everyone involved of course, however we believe she should set the pace. We have experience in the MFM arena and it typically begins with her touching us both and kinda pointing us guys in the direction she wants us to go..... "All's fair in love and war.....and kinky sex"
  6. I think if we keep everything in perspective here, everyone will realize what satisfies one doesn't satisfy another. We are all different and we must come to that realization. My wife and I enjoy the presence of another male with male to male contact. However we have swinging friends where hubby and the hubby of the other couple have absolutely no contact with each other. It really just depends on how comfortable everyone is with the issue. My husband is bi, and I enjoy sharing him with another man...I'm basically straight, however I do occasionally enjoy another woman. I think the key is here to be sure that all parties are in agreement. If it feels good and no one objects then do it...if there is a problem with it, fun can still be had by all.
  7. I may be stepping out of line here, and if so I do apologize. But after reading these threads, I have come to the conclusion that the 3 of you should sit down in a vanilla situation, ie....dinner and a strong drink and discuss this as mature adults. Let your feelings be known to both of them at the same time and see the response up close and personal. All 3 parties sitting at the same table, everything can and will come out in the open and can be discussed as adults. You wanted a 3some and got one. Wife after 13 years of marriage has determined she is attractive and the desire of other men. The single guy got laid for the first time in a while. Everyone has issues and everyone has a point of view. That being said, all 3 need to be sure that all 3 are on the same page......Once this is done, you can then determine with factual information whether or not you want to continue a relationship with this man, another man, another couple or stop the lifestyle all together. Get the info, then decide
  8. We are in a similar boat. We have some good friends we would like to play with, but we just don't want to risk the friendship. We talk the sexy talk, but have never mentioned swinging with them. Although each time we're together our urge gets a little stronger. We are going to continue to play this by ear and see where it goes. We've decided it's worth waiting for.
  9. I've always said. I like an angel on my arm and a slut in my bed. Wife agrees......there is a time and a place for everything.
  10. Our situation depends on how well we know the single person. If we have some type of an ongoing relationship, we don't mind at all if they call. However, if it's just someone we're in the process of meeting and they call and wanna "fuck" then that's a different story. Probably won't be too long before their number is blocked.
  11. I would certainly have to agree with PA couple on this one. My wife and I have both had bisexual experiences and for the most part found them to be very enjoyable. However, FEM guys and BUTCH ladies really are a turn off for us. We both believe that women should be women and men be men. And regardless of whether or not we have sex with our same gender doesn't change the fact of gender identification. (I think I said that right). Anyway. to keep from getting to carried away, keeping in perspective regarding sex is what we are looking for when we meet bi guys, ladies or bi couples. There are men and there are women. And we all have sex with each other. It doesn't change the dynamic of gender identity.
  12. Guess it just goes to show that it's never safe to let your guard down. It really pisses me sometimes that people are so miserable in their own lives that they must make others miserable to find happiness.
  13. Well here goes. To be or not to be. I am not cut and for years as child I was so concerned about the fact that my penis was different from most of the guys I was hanging with. Especially when I hit my teenage years I was involved with a lot of sports and of course you know the shower scene. I took a lot of extra time to conceal myself in the shower to prevent anyone else from seeing me. Must have worked because I never got any comments. Now here is the interesting part. Even though I'm uncut, my penis has the appearance of one that is cut. My foreskin is completely retractable and for the most part stays that way. My wife describes it as uncut but peeled. It gives her the best of both worlds so to speak. With an erection my penis looks like it has been completely circumcised. When I receive oral it is so wonderful when my wife pulls the foreskin up and runs her tongue around the head inside of the skin, but the minute she lets go, the skin returns back down to the shaft. Okay, the twist. AS a bisexual male, when we entertain single men, I prefer the uncut version. I tend to agree with other posters that some men don't take the time to clean properly and that sometimes the odor is a bit overwhelming. So remember guys if you're not cut, peel that thing back and give it a good bath, and you'll get a lot more consideration from couples.
  14. Your post have a lot of true statements, however there are couples out there where they are both bi or the male is bi or to the very least curious. Our situation is that I am bi, wife is more bi tolerant (meaning if the mood hits her she will have sex with a woman) and when we play we generally look for single men that are at the least willing to experiment with it. We have also found the joy of a few couples where both are bi curious and that has made for some memorable events. We have been meeting with one couple over the past few years where she was bi and he was straight, but recently he admitted that he wanted to experiement with bi sex and had discussed it with his wife, and when the opportunity for us to meet again comes along, we've agreed to play some mm and ff and then one for all and all for one. Bisexual couples are out there, they are just harder to find. A great number of men are willing to experiement. They simply need to be comfortable with their partner the other partners and good dicussion between all parties is necessary for it all to come together. Best wishes on finding the situation out there. Be patient. It can happen
  15. It's kind of ironic. Wife and I were just looking at some pics on SLS yesterday and I couldn't help but comment on all the trash and garbage that people took pictures of. Maybe there would be a long legged lady struting around in a pair of somewhat "unsexy" panties, but what really caught our attention were the mountain dew cans in the floor and the computer sitting on top of a cardboard box. Oh yeah and let's not forget the dirty clothes mixed up with the mountain dew cans. We certainly aren't professional photographers by any means, but I certainly don't want to show the rest of the world our dirty laundry. Just curious, what do you folks think make good photo layouts for sites like SLS and others.
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