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The most recent responses on this subject have been very thoughtful, thought provoking and seem to come from the heart. The care put forth shows it is more than physical attraction that makes any encounter pleasant for all involved, eliminating the dime a dozen stigma.

In response to the thread of this topic... Those in the lifestyle, like those not in the lifestyle will see and hear only a little of what is said and make an assumption... then you will have those that see and ask to understand and then make their predetermined response... then you'll have a very few that will see, ask to understand, and listen to what is said before making an evaluated thoughtout response... guess which one is the hardest to do...

I've read with interest most of the responses and will read them again, because I want to learn about the perceptions formed of single guys of varying classifications defined by lifestyle couples. Are they really any different than the classifications defined by nonlifestyle couples? I am a single guy in a LTR with a partner who does not want to participate in the lifestyle. We have different values and viewpoints on how one should conduct their life... from being of different backgrounds (she - white Midwestern middle class, me- black urban East Coast middle class) to how we will handle our disabilities as we grow old. So, I'm here to learn about the perceptions and to make sure that I conduct my self in a manner that allows couples to look at me as an individual that will lend credit to the lifestyle as a single person. Thanks for letting me have a say.