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  1. Your right! I reread it and that is probably what she meant. LOL New rule to add to my list of rules... 1a. Try and remember that what I read is not exactly what people meant to say. Too bad we can't see facial expression when people type stuff. That would take care of a lot of problems with interpreting the posts.
  2. Gee Quin, you are busting me out as a dope fiend or something. haven't smoked pot in years and I don't even drink. Of course back in the day I was known to have my vices. Now my only vices are pretty ladies in varying degrees of nakedness.
  3. I would like to hear what your personal rules are for swinging. Everyone has their own set of values and they range from very strict to very liberal. It would be great to have your input so we could perhaps think of some things that we are overlooking that we should be more concerned about. Personally for me and my partner, here are our top rules not neccessarily in any order: 1. Both of us need to be ok with each of the other people. We have a 'secret' way of letting each other know. 2. Swinging takes place in open setting unless we have swung before and we are VERY comfortable with the other couple. 3. No condoms, No intercourse. 4. A couple of drinks or a doobie is ok. More than that is not.
  4. I find the original question offensive as well.
  5. At best it is a crap shoot. I feel most women are fairly content in a secure relationship knowing that their husband/boyfriend loves them and that is enough. Women for the most part (In my humble opinion) are happy just thinking about fantasies while men are more prone to act on their fantasies. Men also have the 'urge to procreate' gene (which is like a little Devil sitting on our shoulder) and if they love and respect their partner would never in a million years cheat on her. So, it seems to me that Swinging is an honest way for men to get laid and not have to feel guilty. Is it all about men getting laid? I think most of it is. A certain percentage of swinging couples are in the lifestyle because of the woman taking the intiative, but not that much. 10% or less? So here comes the crap shoot. Husband/Boyfriend needs some different nookie. He suggests swinging to his partner. She say's "Nah" and then he bugs her until she gives in. Now he is ready to get his 'freak on' as Julie would say. LOL She is going along to make him happy, but she knows she has a 'get out of jail free card' since she originally said "Nah." She is off the hook if anything goes wrong. Now, at this point many things can happen. However I would say generally 2 things happen. 1. They swing once, feel guilty as hell, have a lousy experience and never do it again. For the rest of thier lives she has ammunition to gun down the husband/boyfriend. You and I both know women never forget nuttin'. Men have to think for a second just to remember if we put underwear on this morning. Hell, we can't even remember our wives birthdays. 2. They swing once and have a great time. Now they have a new hobby. Whole new avenues of hedonistic pleasure are available and the relationship goes to a new level. So, to answer the posters original question, everybody is different and if you go into swinging knowing the consequences then more power to you.
  6. If I was given a free ticket to do the "Wild Thing" with either Roseanne Barr or Brittany Spears guess who I would take? I may be overweight but I am not stupid. So therein lies the cruncher. Sure, great looking people who take care of themselves and work at it deserve to be picky. But, I will gravitate towards a woman that is too hot for me every day of the week. I could go on a diet, workout every other day, and in 6 months be hot property for a guy my age. However, I am basically lazy when it comes to being structured and having order to my life. The only "plus" I have going for me is that I love DATY and really get off on taking a woman up to that plateau just prior to orgasm and then slipping them in an out of the big "O" as long as they can take it. Maybe next month I will go on a diet and work out. Don't know if I could handle all of the pressure of being desired though. I am used to groveling and have it down to a science.
  7. I also have heard of couples that think they are too good for anyone else and treat this whole lifestlye choice as some type of CIA covert mission. The couple that overheard the other couple saying that they liked to "Stalk" other couples first is a something that I think is all too common. Why the hell can't people just meet like honest indivuals and if they don't get sexually excited just say "Thanks for your interest in us, but we don't feel we are a good match?" People are not going to go out and shoot themselves just because they all didn't get along. Think about the dynamics of swinging (couples dating) for a second if you will. To begin with, you are asking a lot for just 2 people to be attracted to each other. Now when you throw 4 into the mix the mathmatical odds of everyone getting along goes up, way up. My experience has been that in most cases at least 1 of the 4 winds up being dragged into a sexual situation that they really don't want just to keep everyone happy. That person usually seems to be a woman. When men get the "urge" it really doesn't matter as we tend to be able to ignore a lot of faults to fill our need to procreate that was programmed into our DNA. Women on the other hand, in my humble opinon, just don't get all jacked up in 5 minutes and tend to like to really get to know people. Most guys are ready to rock and roll on the first meeting everytime no matter what. Sometimes I wish I had a switch to turn on and off my male hormones for the good of the situation. These are some great stories everyone can learn by and I am loving them. Well, I feel bad for you, but I like to read them. Hey Julie, why not start a poll for the worst couples date from hell?
  8. I know that is a tough one to try and define. So in a nutshell you would say that Mind Games is basically "Lying your ass off?" There are a few people that are truly evil though. I have heard of people who have agreed to meet at certain times and places on email and then nobody shows up. I have also heard of men, posting as women, to attract bi females and then bait them along with the hopes of somehow meeting them. They only good way I know of to cut through the crap is to INSIST on talking on the phone after a couple of emails rather than get all involved in some type of charade. Anyone have any horror stories to share to educate people?
  9. I have been editing profiles for a swinger's website for about 3 years now. It seems that the one of the most common statements that people make when posting an ad is "Please, no mind games!" In your opinion, what would you say that the definition of "Mind Games" is? I would love to come up with a decent way to explain it, and I have struggled with how to phrase it so people know what that term means in general. Thanks for your time.
  10. I think the only thing that really offends me is when someone say's "No Fatties" in their ad. To me that is just downright mean.
  11. Boy, I feel like a wet blanket here, but if you give head without a condom you are asking for any variety of diseases. They make highly sensitive condoms in flavors like banana, stawberry and others. The only thing is that you need to suck a bit harder to increase the feeling for the man. Let me ask a simple question to the women who will give head in a group scene or to women who give head to people who they are new to: Do you know how to visually inspect a penis for any number of sexually transmitted diseases? "Bumps and warts": Even an itty bitty teeny weenie wart is very bad sign. genital warts are highly contagious. Bumps may indicate any number of bad things. The head and shaft of the penis should be smooth and scar-free. "Scar tissue and open sores": If you see scar tissue around the head and shaft (can be small or large) it is very possible that the man has contracted herpes and is in a stage of remission, but is still contagious. Do I need to tell you that a red spot or an open sore is like a skull and cross bones staring at you? One common excuse a guy will say to hide the fact he has herpes is to tell a woman that he caught his penis in his zipper after peeing and that is why there is a scar or an open wound. One thing you definitely need to do is "milk" the penis before it touches your mouth and look at the fluid at the tip of the penis. If the fluid is crystal clear it is fine. If that fist milking of fluid is not clear and is cloudy or even yellow (pus) then there is some problem going on.
  12. Hey, I am 6'2" and weight 295#. I have been "big" all my life. It was a blessing in sports when I was active and could have my way with most others in competition, but now at 52 it isn't fun anymore. I have yet to meet an overweight person like myself who doesn't want to lose weight. You can be happy, but it doesn't mean that you wouldn't like to lose weight. It seems whenever I meet someone else who is carrying a few extra pounds we inevitably wind up talking about dropping some weight. The truth is people with normal body weight have more options in the swinger's world. Fat people have just as much sexual pleasure, but the pool to pick from is generally limited. No matter how we curse people for being narrow-minded about the way others look it won't change a damn thing.
  13. Here's a good question that should spark some comments and thought: What is your preference, On Premise Clubs (clubs that allow sex within the club) or Off Premise Clubs (clubs that are meet and greet social dances)? My own belief is that On Premise Clubs are a great way to catch any number of diseases. Even with protection people are just asking for a train wreck. What if a person had some type of disease that could be transmitted sexually? In a group sex situation, even with men wearing condoms, as a man changed from a woman who was carrying a disease (virus or bacteria) it would still be on the outside of his condom. If he swapped to a new partner that would infect her as well as his condom would have fresh bodily fluids on it. The only way to prevent that would be to use a new condom with each new partner. I have never seen a person change a condom in a group sex experience unless that person climaxed. Even in oral sex, one of the safer activities, as a person changed to another partner the body fluids of the previous person would be around the edge of the mouth. Can anyone really be safe at on On-Premise Club? I don’t think so. In my mind, lifestyle people should participate more in "couples dating." By that I mean that you should date anther couple like back in high school. If you find that couple is for you, then make commitments to each other to be 100% monogamous. Everyone should get tested for sexual diseases before going past the point of no return. If you all get along fantastic and you want to bring another couple or single into your clan, make sure they can be trusted to be monogamous and get tested as well.
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