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Sadie6969

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  1. Interesting, I thought I had already replied to this poll.....but I guess not. Since the subject has come up again, I thought I would add my two cents. Hubby & I went to our 1st house party. There was lots of wild and rough sex - without condoms. I wasn't worried since no one actually "did the deed" inside me. However 2 days later I had my first "recognizable" outbreak of genital herpes. Now I say it like this because after having been diagnosed a week later, talking to my doctor and doing LOTS of research on the disease, I discovered that I had never been tested for HSV. And during my research I discovered that herpes can have the same symptoms as ingrown hairs, yeast and/or bladder infections, and jock itch (I'm sure there are more). HSV is often mis-diagnosed as such. Also, you can have the virus for years before having a "recognizable" outbreak. I did the responsible thing and notified the hostess who in turn advised everyone to get tested. To date no one from the party has acknowledged having HSV. I had a blood test done a couple weeks after I was diagnosed and came out positive with the HSV-1 & HSV-2 anti-body. My husband was negative. So this has left my head spinning on where I could have contracted it. Because of what happened to me and what I learned about HSV, I started the poll in may "Herpes Testing" to see if I was the only ignorant one. To date, 20 people have replied - 16 of which have never been tested. Well at least they know that, cuz I sure as hell didn't. No one but Julie actually replied to the post. So I'm glad to see the subject has been brought up again. Oh - and one more thing. My sis-in-law did get herpes while having PROTECTED sex. (Although it was not in the lifestyle, just an FYI on the same subject)
  2. This is a very complicated issue. In the begining, my husband & I only told one friend. That soon turned into two friends when she started dating someone. Then one night I was really, REALLY drunk and told two additional friends (by the way - all of these friends know each other AND we all work together). One of them I am not worried about, but I do regret telling the other. My husband (also works with us) later explained to me why it was not such a good idea to tell him. Now I wonder who else he has told in the office. Although the conversation has never come up again, I have no idea who knows what. I'm not worried about loosing my job because of it (although it would be a big shocker to my boss), I just feel that someone who is not trust worthy knows something about me that should be handled discretely. My lesson here, don't tell anyone that when your drunk! You're judgement is clouded I told 2 of my sisters. And to be honest, they probably don't even think about it when I talk to them. I haven't told my brother or other sister, not because I'm ashamed, just because I haven't really had the chance (I talk to my other 2 sisters a LOT more than the others). I would NEVER tell my dad. I was raised morman, and he is still a big time morman. Well, maybe one day when he pisses me off enough and I feel like dropping a bomb on him........
  3. I voted I have it and I'm honest. Bill and Shannon have inspired me to be completely open honest in the swinging world. I too have to wonder about the statistics of those who voted we don't have anything and expect the same. Two weeks ago I would have voted that way. I have been in a monogamous with my husband for 7 years. I had ONE sexual partner before him. And my regular physicals have never detected anything unusual. Two weeks ago we went to our 1st lifestyle house party. Two days later I broke out with genital herpes. I contacted the hostess of the party immediately to inform her, and she was shocked and surprised. So either someone at the party had it and didn't know it or didn't tell. Or I already had it, and now I've exposed everyone I came in contact with. I guess I learned the hard way, when it comes to HSV, ignorance is NOT bliss.
  4. WOW - Thanks for this thread. Hubby kept telling me that it was him that didn't like BJ's (enough to cum) and I thought I just didn't give them well. head bang But now I know better. I've promised him that I am going to find him a woman that will blow his mind, and then I'll make her teach me.......
  5. I've been wondering this myself...... However I have a question for all those who are looking to get fixed (or have been)....are y'all practicing safe sex as well and just looking for extra insurance? Just curious.
  6. As with most of the ladies response....I am the one that started it. My husband knew I was bi-sexual before we got married. But when we got married any chances of me being with another woman was over. He thought that if I was with another woman, it was cheating (at least that's what he told me!) Then, not too long ago I met a couple through another friend. As a side note she told me they were swingers. I never thought anything of it after that. Then we were wondering a porn shop and I saw an instructional video on swinging. I pointed it out to hubby and he snickered. Nothing more was really mentioned. Then a few days later he pulled up an article on swinging, what it's all about, and who's it for and why. We thought that swinging was perfect for us. As Miss Piggy says, it allows me to have my cake and eat it too! I can have sexual experiences with other women....which have led into other men too, and still be with my husband, in a loving, committed relationship. It also REALLY helps our own sex life. After any party, we have the best sex for weeks afterwards. Sadie
  7. I have no concept of age. That might be because I'm on the younger side of the scale (27 here) and just clueless. Most of my friends are older (15+) so it seems only natural that I would find the older couples to swing with. Of course, it's not that I seek out older couples. It usually works out that we meet a couple, we hit it off.....they happen to be older, which of course I don't figure/find out till after we've been talking a while. And if it doesn't bother them, it does not bother me! Julie - I would say that 20-40 is a big difference between 30-50. That's only because of the 20 side of things. When you're 20, you've only been out of high school a couple years and probably still in college. You more than likely have never been married, nor do you have kids. All of these things I think "mature" a person. Take me for example, I'm only 27...but I got married when I was 21 and have been for 5 1/2 years. Most people think I am 30-35 when they talk to me, and I attribute this to my years of marriage and commitment. Having to think of someone other than myself for a few years...... I have a friend, same age as me-never been married, and all of our "older" friends will complain to me about how immature she is. Funny, huh? I just do not see how a 20 year old would have enough life experience to be able to handle a relationship with a 40 year old who has. Of course there are exceptions to every rule...
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