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About mrmrsjiggly

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  • Birthday 07/23/1968

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Clayton, NC
  • Swinging Experience
    5 Years
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    xx/xx/xxxx

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    MrMrsJiggly
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    ECC, YKW, Platinum

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  1. My wife and I are a very similar situation and are waiting to see what happens.
  2. If I'm reading your post right its not that you have problems with your husband playing as long as you have something to do to keep you from watching him. Are you bi? If so are you willing to play with a woman you both are into?. Is he bi? Is he willing to play with a single male your into? Who looks for people to play with? It sound like you have had the discussion but you don't know how to get past watching him. Has he had a good one on one experience yet? If he is not having fun because he knows your not happy that may be affecting you both. My advice is to find someone you both like and have fun together. If you can find a couple that would be even better.
  3. I do believe the real issue with turning people down is the fact people confuse lack of attraction with rejection. How can anyone you have never met or only met for a brief period of time reject you? You do not have enough knowledge of them to value their opinion and little or no time invested in the relationship. The only way you can believe your not attractive or worth knowing is if you believe it yourselves. Just because someone else is not into you does not make you unattractive, it just makes you not their type. Always remember the tastes and desires of people in the lifestyle are as varied as those in the lifestyle and everyone has a different approach. As for a 4 way connection we have learned its almost impossible so when a couple makes that suggestion to us we are fine with it. As consenting adults we have found ourselves in situations where a good time was had by all. It just takes lining everyone up in the right order. Sometimes playtime gets hot enough that things work out anyway. The only requirement we have is if one of us plays with a couple the other can be there to watch if they want to.
  4. Everyone has insecurities and they will also vary depending on the situation, sometime you wont even know you were insecure about something until you're put into a situation. For me its always about fun and fantasy. If things get awkward I inject a little humor which always has a way of reliving tension. As far as your wife feeling the other guy is better, so what. I enjoy it when another guys can do something for my wife I have not done before. I may or may not try and repeat it for her but usually we make sure we don't lose the guys number. LOL Playing in the lifestyle has actually removed a lot of insecurities I had. She always come home with me!!! As for quitting. We have a no questions asked policy. If either of us say no to anything there is no discussion. Done, no looking back. We have both used this "power of veto" a few times and it has never failed.
  5. I wish I could help but it was something that evolved for us. Her curiosity about toys, g-spot orgasms, squirting... Any idea or thought she had she would google. I would get an e-mail with links that said " We should try this". I simply went along with all her if I was comfortable. There were very few things I was not willing to try. LOL She did not have an agenda hoping for the end result would be swinging. She simply wanted to try some new things and it has been a lot of fun.
  6. Your tag line says "new to this-but very interested". Your profile is from 2012. That tells me you have not updated ages or pics in a couple years. Thats' a red flag for me, especially without certs.
  7. 1) We don't advertise but if someone ask we usually respond with "Why do you ask?" and we will tell them. There have been a couple times Mrs Jiggly just blurts it out. The only person she hides it from is her mother. We used to have face pics public on SLS but we had a situation where someone figured out where we lived and suggested he would find her when she went for her morning walk to talk. Since then we have face pics private but open them when we feel comfortable. As far as who we play with its never anyone's business but ours. We may have the freedom not to hide it but we definitely respect others privacy. That's one of the things about Certs on SLS that irritates me. People automatically assume that you have played. We have played with about half the people who certed us. A nessecary evil I suppose. 2) We never felt the need to hide playing. Although I work for a conservative company the attitude is if its not causing issues in the workplace its not a problem. My direct supervisor knows. 3) It may not be an "outing" but we signed up for a party and recognized a couple who was attending. They we friends with a very vanilla couple of ours and we had all interacted socially. Well rather than dealing with the stress of trying to hide it we came out to the vanilla couple. They were cool with it but they made it clear its not something they would ever do. They sure enjoy the stories however.
  8. The wife and I started swinging because we were bored. We were friends in high school that reconnected after thirty years. We had both raised children and found our previous relationships had drifted apart. She moved 3 hours away from her family to be with me and did not know anyone in the area. Most of my friends were mutual with the x wife and it was not very comfortable for either of us to hang out with them. My sister was talking to her one day about a party she had been to and the next thing I know she is suggesting we give it a try. When we did we found that we really enjoyed the social sexual aspects of the lifestyle. She and I are both very open and expressive and we found most people we knew had no idea how to take us so we always repressed it. The friends we have made in the lifestyle have no problem with who we are and being able to be open is very freeing. The effects on our marriage have been great. Being able to comfortably discuss sexual situations, which is ingrained in us all as a child as taboo, makes everything else easy. We were fortunate to already have a comfort level from knowing each other 30 years ago but we still had to discover all the stuff that changed us as individuals during that time. I don't know that jealousy ever get conquered but not in the way I think you mean it. There have been situations where one of us was obviously having a better time than the other. You just don't know how things will be until they get started. She will hear the other woman moaning and think " I know what shes getting" or I will see her obviously in ecstasy and I'm just not getting there. We are not jealous of each other just that we are not getting it as good as the other. Some would think playing separate would fix that but we feed off each others energy during play time and neither of us have a desire to play without the other. We consider our activities a team sport. Some people Bowl or watch NASCAR, we sport fuck. Pros and Cons are different for everyone. Our Pros are we are making good friends, not sitting on our asses all the time ,doing stuff together and openly communicating about it. The Cons are dealing with different personalities can cause for some odd situations. Flakes, clingy people, making friends and they suddenly quit. Cheating, not an issue, we swing for the physical pleasure and social aspects. We have not been in a situation where any emotional attachments have ever started with individuals. We have attractions to couples, not halves of couples, and for me the individuals are not as attractive. I'm not sure why. We do play with singles but we tend not to build non lifestyle friendships with them. Of course my view of my wife changed when I saw her with another person. My wife was very sexually repressed. She never had the opportunity to see just how much pleasure her body was designed for. Now I see a woman who feels comfortable expressing herself not only sexually but in all aspects of life. For me I started sexually activity very young. I was 13 and slept with a 33 year old. There is nothing like your first sexual experience being a blowjob with a finger up your ass. It kinda skews your perception on a healthy sexual relationship. Being in the lifestyle has allowed me to very openly communicate what I want to my wife without fear of her looking at me like I'm crazy. With me being more comfortable the conversations about anything are a lot more relaxed.
  9. I was referring to "getting out when we can" tacked on the end.
  10. I am by no means a linguist and there are much better folks here who can suggest punctuation and style. I will limit my thoughts to content only "For now, we draw the line just before oral sex (let's all get naked and kiss and touch, no insertion) but one day, who knows? Sounds a little tame, we know, but hey, we're new, so we're taking it slow." Its good to let folks know your boundaries. As your boundaries change, so should your profile, you don't have to apologize for being tame. "We're a pretty normal couple with jobs, kids, and a house. We like books, movies, video games, a good bottle of wine, and getting out when we can." When I read statements like this I usually pass. I interpret it as a couple that are already making excuses why they cant meet. "Happy to have a conversation on just about any topic, including (but not limited to): music, television/movies, stupid YouTube videos, and theoretical physics. " i chucked when i read theoretical physics and see you injecting humor. but that seems to be the only place the attempt is made. You mention height and weight twice. this tells me it is something you are looking for in playmates. Saying so is not a bad thing and you should include it in the what you are looking for section. Just avoid HWP. I personally hate the term. If you would like to play with similar body types try and have a pic that shows yours and say you are looking for others with similar to yourselves. Good luck in your new adventure.
  11. When we first started playing my wife asked a lesbian friend of hers how to tell if she was bi. Her friend, without missing a beat said, " I don't know, I'm not bi" We had, and emphasize had, a couple we were friends with who e-mailed us and asked us if we knew the male half of couple that certed us is bi. I said of course and my response to them when they asked if I was worried about him wanting to play with me was simply " I'm not his type" LOL. We have another friend that loves to peg bi men. She also loves it when guys cum on her. She will tell anyone who asked that she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body. Sometimes giving people a truly honest answer to a question is just the knock on the head they need to get real with the preconceived notions they have about the lifestyle.
  12. There is no way I could not Google it. LOL That's some funny shit right there.
  13. I was browsing profiles the other day and came across this. If you the guy are wondering how to make your wife bi here's your answer... The same way she gets you to suck a dick. So if you are forcing your wife to be bi think about this a little and put yourself in her shoes. We met a couple at a party where the guy was specifically looking for a woman to "flip" his wife/girlfriend to the bi side and was asking what it took. I wish I had that line at the time.
  14. The thing I love most about this forum is the fact that everyone seems to truly be interested and honest. Maybe it's because there is no picture posting. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in my perception of things.
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