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Guy1964

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About Guy1964

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  • Birthday 06/05/1964

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    Tennessee
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  1. Obviously i dont know details but divorce is often a permanent solution to a temporary problem
  2. i'm not an experienced swinger so i dont claim the ability to give the sage advice you need. I would like to speak as a person from a repressed background wgo has regrets. I've been in several situations where the sexual tension was high but no one knew how to pull the trigger..on the other hand, you dont want to be the creepy person. If i could go back, i think i'd say something like "i'm feeling really turned on to all/both of you right now." That could of oppened the door to talk about what we really wanted.
  3. Just out of curiosity, are you afraid she'll say "yes" or afraid she'll say "no?"
  4. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your experience, the good and the bad. I get so many perspectives from these boards.
  5. I've never spoken to my guy friends about my sexual encounters. I was once the only guy in an otherwise-all-female office, and I've been exposed to what you're describing. At first, they were careful to make sure I wasn't around, but later they were less careful. Girls give the play-by-play commentary!
  6. I want to thank everyone who responded with your excellent guidance, and I don't want anything to think I was ignoring you. Right after this posts, we had a medical emergency with my mother-in-law, and that has dominated our lives for the past few months. She is in another state, and my wife has been focused on that. That's resolving, and we've just now started talking about these things again. I like the ideas of encouraging her to share her fantasies at non-sexual times, and of me doing the same. I had a somewhat sexually repressed past, and we had a very upfront talk while we were driving. I made the comment that I had done things with her that I had never done before, and she replied, "What about the other women you were with? Did they just lay there?!?! I said "Pretty much," and that opened a dialogue about exploring new avenues and fantasies. Again, I really appreciate all your responses and I don't want anyone to feel slighted because I didn't reply. I'm sure you understand the situation. Thank you all very much.
  7. I have come to see that I am a babe in the woods when it comes to sexuality. One thing I love on the boards is how open couples can be in sharing shat they want. My wife had me read the Fifty Shades trilogy, which I loved. I thought she just wanted me to enjoy the literature and I did. The other day I playfully slapped her bottom and she wanted me to do it again as she lay over my lap. The morning, out of nowhere, she said I want sex! She wanted to play a game where forced her. She had me hold her wrists and during intercourse she seemed to be pretending I was forcing myself on her. She let me hold her wrists and she would say "I don't want this" but then responded more sexually. It was obvious she was gently acting out a rape scene. I enjoyed it and went along, even telling her to put her chin down when I wanted her from the back. As I was obviously nearing climax she wanted to pretend to fight when I held her wrists down. I then pushed her legs apart, held her arms and applied the vibrator until she came. She then wanted me on top holding her wrists and being aggressive while she would say "I don't want this" she would speak in a playful-enough voice that she wanted to continue. She obviously wants this role play, but I'm inexperienced at giving it to her. I don't want her to feel coerced in any way. This is obviously important to her. Suggestions on how I can help while broadening my own sexual boundaries?
  8. This would make a great full-length story. It is great to read about how real-life situations begin and progress. Just a suggestion.
  9. I'm going to say it's not either/or, but an interaction between the newness and the sleep deprivation. Like fundamental law, I tend to get overly reactive when I'm fatigued; negative emotions get magnified. I think the take-away from this is not to try for fun experiences in a state of sleep deprivation.
  10. I'm wondering if you aren't gunshy because of the bad experience. What would you think about a little prescription help to minimize the possibilities of nerves preventing an erection. I suspect that if you get over the nerves and have a successful experience, things might start looking brighter.
  11. I've been away for a while, and I found this thread very interesting. I hope boyfriend realizes how fortunate he is to have a girl who is in touch with her sexuality and open to new things. In reading your posts, it's obvious that you're very comfortable with this new facet of yourself. He may realize that he shares a lot of those feelings once he's exposed and then he may decide it's just not for him. When you begin sharing yourself, sometimes it pulls couples closer; sometimes it creates distance. Sharing "This is who I am" and just laying it out there can be very empowering. I remember how great it was when my wife started sharing her fantasies about bondage and games with me. I was initially taken back, and a little freaked out, but when I tried it I realized I liked it too. In all fairness, I suspect you just moved a little faster than boyfriend was comfortable with. You and him seem good together, and I'm going to bet that if you keep the conversation going that he'll become more open and free in sharing with you. That's the way it happened for us. Because of the way our society works, I think it's easier if the woman is the one leading the way. It sounds like you and him are on a great path. I hope you'll post and let us know about your future adventures.
  12. Lioness: I don't have any feedback on who was right or wrong, or what you should do. I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you. Your pain is evident in your writing, and I sincerely hope things work out for the best for you, whatever they may be. When I've been through breakups, the hardest thing to remember was that I wasn't always going to feel the way I did then. One way or the other, we do heal, even though is seems like it'll never end. The good days come more often and the bad days become less often, until one day we can look back on it without the pain. It won't always hurt this bad, no matter what he does.
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