Texasmilcpl

Definitely a tough pill to swallow~ Sharing your partner with another is a very difficult first step to take, indeed. Regardless of looks, dick size, physique and all that other material stuff...even if your hubby had the other guy beat hands down in those departments...the VERY FIRST TIME he was to hear the sounds of passion coming from his life partner...and it's NOT HIM making you make those sounds...that's where the old two dimensional outlook on sex is finished and a third dimension opens up. Lucky for some very few, there are individuals that can accept it right off the bat like that and never feel jealous, suffer anxiety or have jealousy issues. However, I can guarantee the vast majority of us do at the beginning. Insecurities for men and women are very real and something to be treated with as they were a glass ball...go SLOW! Too fast and lack of communication will for sure shatter it! When we first started, the first two couples and 6 weeks of doing this was Hell for me. My wife loved it...I personally had serious issues that I just couldn't get into it and she was always rearing to go. Huge arguments, insecurities from myself (for no real reason either...been a Soldier for 18 yrs, strikingly good looking, great physique and well endowed) all led to the fact that the other male partners of the couples were nowhere NEAR as 'full package' hot as I was...but it didn't matter...she is going to REALLY ENJOY IT because it's a nice break for once in many years...NOT ME ALL THE TIME!...LOL!......Remember? Variety and spicing up? The excitement is because its the acting on the fantasy finally...think about it...who WOULDN'T get excited fucking some 'strange'? Countrygal...he's going to need some time to sift through his own feelings. He has emotions from jealousy, resentment, inadequacy, envy, distrust and anxiety over the whole ordeal...it takes some guys weeks...others months...but I would CERTAINLY NOT play with MFM for a while...stick to MFMF for a while, guys...this way NO ONE is going to be left out...and ENSURE until comfort levels are there, you all stick to SAME ROOM ONLY for a while...rules change with comfort levels over time. Good thing about MFMF is that no one in that room is going to run off at some crazy pace and leave anyone behind. When there is an issue with MFMF...it's EVERYONE'S issue because if hubby is affected...it will be reciprocated by the other female...the other female WILL back her hubby off of your wife with code words or a little break for a bit...MFMF if your safest bet...this way your hubby will discover that OTHER WOMEN find him hot in his own way and sexually needed also! It's a WIN/WIN for everyone! I hope this helps, and the very best to both of you finding your way together!

OMG! Similar to our "almost" 3rd experience! Met a CPL that the guy only gave his cell number, his entire profile was written by him on SDC website, he buys all the clothes and dresses his wife right down to the coat of toenail polish, perfume and jewelry and makes all the calls on who she will fuck and won't! SCREW ALL THAT! Last time I checked, this is a women led pastime/lifestyle. The women call a lot of the shots and I am SURE they are quite capable of dressing themselves! Total control freak! We ran like hell! Had that gut feeling he just wanted to fuck my wife and this poor girl would just play along with ANYTHING to let "Daddy" get his way without any interest in myself or my wife as a couple. They were big showoffs also " do you like our swing room? Our wet bar inside and out? Our jacuzzi? Our motorcyclesand sportscars? Our swimming pool? Our 60ft x 30ft partydeck? We like to swing, yes...but holy shit! Were not a slave to this lifestyle! Yes...we ran like HELL! LOL!

Sweet Candy has hit the nail on the head! Very true...the reality is a LOT DIFFERENT to the fantasy! It doesn't matter that you are better looking, nicer body, bigger dick, thicker dick, more stamina and a sexual machine! The moment you hear and see your very own wife writhe and squirm in deep pleasure with the vocals to back it up...the self worry and self worth hits you like a freight train! I am a well hung guy that is strikingly handsome and served as a Soldier for 18 years. I have the body, stamina and equipment to go way past the distance of many other men...but it is true, guys...the moment you hear and see your wife LOVING it with another man, chances are your cock WILL call it a night! LOL! your mind runs away with " Wait a damn minute! I completely blow this other guy away! What in the HELL does she find so appealing about him and I haven't seen her act that involved in years!" yes...it fucks with our heads guys...the logic is that your wife is so used to you, loves you, knows you and trusts you in all entirety to even be doing something like this in the first place...to her, it's super exciting to have DIFFERENT!...not better. She is getting blown away by having something strange and different that is blowing her gaskets, so to speak...but in a Man's Neanderthal mind...it's always a competition guys, ain't it? We see it as she likes him better. It takes a little time to get over that way of thinking. What really helped was hooking up with a couple whose wife screamed like crazy and gushed/squirted when she came...looked like I had been in a rainstorm! LOL. My wife soon learned that the shoe can be worn on the other foot too, eventually! It ain't a competition and there is no better...only different!