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BnD

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About BnD

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 01/20/1980

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    Texas
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  1. Echoing the talk, talk, talk. Imagine going in for a job interview where you have no idea of what you are doing, who you are working for or what is to be expected of you. It is a situation begging for disaster. My suggestion. Really look at the insecurities that are bothering you. Shine the biggest spotlight on them and scream them from the rooftops. Also ask your SO what his insecurities of the situation might be. Talk about what wouldn't be hot- how do you meet this girl, where do you play, do you allow her to stay the night? Are there sweet things that he and you do together that would make you feel uncomfortable to see him do to another woman? A way he kisses you or grabs your hand. Talk about all these things and process them before you procede. Trust the wisdom here. Good things will come to a determined step forward, whether it be in monogamy or not.
  2. Doris here. We thought we would until we tried it. I think with the right couple for your first time, having the ability to focus on your play partner can be a wonderful experience. That said, Boris and I love our pile of bodies. :-)
  3. Doris here. It took Boris roughly three months to recover from his vas. We made the mistake of having sex the night afterwards and I don't think that helped him. Make sure if you are in an industry where you do a lot of heavy lifting to take it easy. That can impede on your recovery. We had a friend who jacked himself up for about six months for not properly resting.
  4. Doris here. With our vanilla friends who we see/hear have a tepid sexual life with their partners, we are empathetic to them. Mainly because it wasn't that long ago we were in the same boat if going through the motions. I equate it to wanting to show a child how to ride a bike and them needing to learn it on their own. You want to help but you also just want them to know how to immediately so they can enjoy it as much as you do. (and I think that was where the OP was going with this) On the sexual liberation. I believe that it is more akin to a person's specific journey in navigating their own sexuality (or a couples for that matter) on whether or not they feel liberated from societal shackles. For me, this rings very true as I was a very sexually repressed person for the majority of the time I would consider myself a sexual being. Being able to finally own my sexuality for what it is: something that feels good and I shouldn't be ashamed if wanting it was very liberating. Having this almost coincide with Boris and I beginning our lifestyle change made it a definite mark in between, "I'm a slut if I want sex and that is bad," to " I'm a slut if I want sex and this is good.". I guess it all boils down to perspective.
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