HisLioness

I'm glad to hear you guys came to a solid conclusion. I hope it works out for the best for everyone involved.

Congrats! Good for you!!!!

Maybe it's just us, but we aren't into games or drinking much. As Lion would say to me about this situation is, "we all know why we are here, let's get it going!" If I've got a babysitter on the clock (and really, even if I didn't...) it's time to get naked. Cut the card games and let's get to the nitty gritty!

What a great way to sum it all up! Maybe he says he's interested in exploring the LS because he knows that's what YOU want and he's trying to please you (??????) I may be off base, but it almost sounds as though your relationship is missing something, particularly if you are looking for something with other people (the cheating, not the swinging.) How would you feel if the roles were reversed? Would you be willing to give up the lifestyle if he said he just can't be comfortable doing it? I ask because I feel like these are questions I would ask myself. Best of luck to you both in your journey and relationship.

In response to your OP question, "inviting vanilla friend," I stopped dead in my tracks (or keyboard, as it may be ) Lion and I may not be the most experienced, but I'll throw in my two cents anyways: We had a MFM with a good friend. He was vanilla, but had been in MFM before and was interested in trying with us. Turned out very, very bad. We are no longer friends (long story, but mostly due to his communications skills) and losing the friendships the three of us had hurt more than anything. The MFM wasn't worth it, IMO. We also full swapped, separate rooms with a couple we were friends with when we were still vanilla. We knew they were in the LS, and they kind of introduced us. We aren't as close as we used to be because they are into us more than we are into them and she (not he) creates a little bit of drama about it when we see them. (We work REALLY hard to be drama-free!) So vanilla or not, I'd say no to hooking up with a friend. I'm sure there are many people here who have had completely different experiences, but I thought I would share ours. I hope it works out well for everyone involved no matter what you decide.

Personally, I would RUN the other direction. The fact you are seeking out advice says something positive about your maturity. Why would you waste time with someone who does not value you enough to be honest with you? Especially since you have been going bareback with her--AND she has a boyfriend in jail. I'm not judging, but I think you may want to consider some of the possible health inclinations and/or drama that may ensue. We have a motto in our house that we live by: DOUBT MEANS DON'T. You know deep down that her dishonesty is not good for you--trust your instincts!

I told our new GP (Lion was sitting next to me) and she got all interested in the LS. I don't think it was something she wrote in either of our charts, but it sure did pique her curiosity! Almost to the point where the questions were a little TOO personal (does that sound odd?)