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  • Birthday 05/17/1969

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    Orlando, FL
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    6 Years
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    dontstoporlando
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    DontStop
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Orlando Love Loft

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  1. Friends With Benefits. Also sounds like one of them might have a significant other that is unaware what's going on. I'd pass.
  2. It's been my personal distinction that a house party had 8-10 couples tops, all personally invited by the hosts. If same room is what you do, it doesn't have to change. Our experience says that while we usually are same room, for this type of party we're okay being separated. This stems from the personal invitation from the hosts-- we trust the hosts and we would extend a decent amount of the same to those they invited. We expect to bring something to share (other than ourselves, har-de-har), and if it wasn't explicitly stated we'd just ask what can be bring to help. It's been a while since we've been to a house party by this definition, but it's my favorite type of get-together.
  3. It's not about what he wants, it's about what everyone agrees to. I understand the excitement in watching to women together, but shouldn't come at the expense of someone else's comfort. "This is not what WE want to do" is what you tell him. And if that's a problem for him then the party's over. Selfish? Who doesn't get into the lifestyle for selfish reasons??
  4. As I posted elsewhere, I have a vanilla friend with whom I am now intimate with (with Mrs.Stop's blessing, naturally). Today she tells me she'd like to play with both of us. I'd never brought it up, other than once asking if she was interested in women. She said no and that was it. Now she wants to give it a shot. So, you never know where that unicorn may be lurking.
  5. Obviously that hasn't yet worked out for you. It takes patience more than anything else.
  6. Soft swinging is sexual contact that doesn't involve intercourse. You may find someone who is willing to do this with you. Don't be surprised if you find that others are looking for a bit more involvement. You might want to start out by visiting a club and see what goes on. Then go home and talk it over. Have fun.
  7. I'm no jackhammer, have never aspired to be. Lovemaking will be more vigorous after we've been with others or after we've been away from each other's company. Sometimes it's hair stroking, other times it's hair pulling. Whatever the level of intensity requires. Just make it fun for both.
  8. We knew a couple in the lifestyle. They divorced and she joined us for many threesomes afterward. And that was some good sh--. Otherwise, the interested single female has proven elusive. We've had another couple that we've done a MFM and a FMF with each half. We had good chemistry all the way around so it worked out quite well.
  9. Something we forget after we've been with our SO's for so long is how much experimentation we did to find out what we like and what we didn't like. I try to keep a mental note of my repeat playmates of what works right, whether it's a more firm or more gentle touch, slow or quick, and in one case, to flick her clit left-to-right versus the customary up-and-down. But the difference there is wanting to know what works, to give your playmate an experience they will enjoy. I can't speak for other guys because I'm the only guy I've even been. But my philosophy is a satisfied partner is more apt to return the favor. That, and feeling her tense up as she's just on the brink of orgasm is one incredibly erotic moment.
  10. My new friend lives three hours away. We've been friends for a while, but only recently got intimate. Thankfully, my new friend lives three hours away. Admittedly it's a NRE thing. She's a vanilla and I've been clear about my marriage. She's met Mrs.Stop and thinks the world of her. But you can tell from our conversations that there is a little something extra under the surface. I won't deny it on my end, but that's not that same as dreaming of running off with her. But we've said dozens of times over that we're just "special" friends. She's asked a few times if I had a twin brother she could get emotionally attached to. ...and that's a good thing we're so far apart so that she doesn't have to work on her impulse control. ...and anytime she thinks we have something more she pictures Mrs.Stop's face and she puts it out of her mind. ...and if she didn't like Mrs.Stop, or if I was unhappy with her then it might be different. We won't have a chance to enjoy each other's company for a few months. By that time things should cool down to a mild simmer. A little sexual frustration can be fun. But let's not overdo it. We just want to be friends. At least, that's what we keep telling ourselves.
  11. Our first step into the lifestyle was at a club. Mrs.Stop was serviced well by a few guys on a massage table. A cute young woman with black curly hair gave me oral to completion. No conversations were had. Other times we did spend time talking to people before undressing. We've played with each other and interested couples would ask to join. It can be that spontaneous. Some will want to get to know you but it's not a requirement. Certainly not for us.
  12. Nothing wrong with asking questions. That's what the forums are for! Not everyone is necessarily comfortable with going off alone in a room alone with someone they've just met. Maybe he plays too rough and with the door locked it can be trouble. We played with a couple once and the female got really clingy towards me. I wouldn't dare go separate with her after that. She eventually latched onto another guy and divorced her husband. We don't want any of that on our doorstep. When you're friends with a couple for a good amount of time you don't have the risk of anyone getting too attached. We have dozens of friends that we've known since early on in our lifestyle venture, and we could go separate with them if we chose to and no one would think twice of it. In the context of a house party where we would consider splitting up, we'd ideally know the hosts, and the hosts would have personally invited everyone. We'd be completely comfortable in that scenario. We've been to house parties where we didn't know the host other than the online invite, so we would stick together. Do what you're comfortable with. Don't go separate if it's not fun. It doesn't make you any less of a swinger nor does it lessen your relationship. Meeting people can be tough enough. Enjoy the playtime by confining to the rules you have set forth and put your energy not toward what might be going on in another room, but instead the good time you and your husband are about to have with your friends, together.
  13. I wouldn't immediately assume it's for either of the negative reasons you posit. Just as you can enjoy chocolate without denigrating vanilla, you can enjoy both separate and same room. Same room enhances the experience with more positions, the extra turn on of watching the other couple and feeding off the sounds. Separate is more intimate where you focus just on each other. Slower pace sounds par for the course. It's not about jealousy or detachment, just the experience.
  14. When we started swinging our youngest child was 17. She's 22 now. Though we suspect the older ones may know, we have no desire to discuss our sex lives with them. Some of our friends have told their adult children and that's wonderful for them. We have made it clear over the years that what consenting adults wish to do is their business. If we've left sufficient dots to connect it was not by design, but so be it. If asked we might come clean. I never wanted to know what my parents did behind closed doors.
  15. At a club we are strictly same room, unless it's with someone we already know. Mrs.Stop feels safer knowing I'm right beside her. For a house party we're okay with separate rooms. It's a very different dynamic when you're alone with your playmate and has the potential of being too intense. Emotions are definitely in check when your SO is there with you. With established friends there is little to be concerned with. In a new situation, tread carefully.
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