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MN Tom last won the day on November 14 2011

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  1. Hi Tom, Interested in reconnecting in Mankato if your still interested? Wife enjoyed you very much!

  2. Hmm. I'd be with most of the other posters here. If she wants to continue doing this, fine. If she feels safe, go for it. I wouldn't want to support it though, mainly because I would feel really bad if something did go wrong. That can be said about anything in life though, although this is a bit riskier than "regular life" so to speak. Maybe she will never have violence happen, maybe not. I sure hope not. But again, my viewpoint is probably slanted because I've never seen one of these types of locations, I'm not interested in sex of that sort, and I don't know many people who are. So it's not my crowd, and thus I'm unfamiliar with how the scene works.
  3. Another thing to pay attention to is be very prepared (especially if you invite people you don't know all that well) to have some things in your house get dirty, be broken, etc. Most everyone I know that has hosted a party of 10+ people (not counting long term friends) has found something wrong the next day. Usually a used condom not in the garbage, spilled drinks on the floor, extra clothing forgotten behind, and so on. Expect it to happen. And be ready, so you can find and clean it up before kids or whatever return and find it for you.
  4. Well, it sounds like you had a nice learning experience. Personally what we did is never pre commit to something (especially expensive plans) when you haven't really met and tested the chemistry yet. With that said, my view was like Alura's. What I always said was "I'm here to find the fun in people, everyone has some". And with that said, I did. I can look back and say I don't regret any of the playtimes I had. Keep in mind though that I turned down more playtimes than I accepted. My view was to socialize and see how it went. And if I wasn't feeling it, I didn't do what I didn't want to do. Sometimes I stopped at kissing, sometimes not. Heck I had a few times where I just gave oral to a gal and got her happy and ended it there, with no reciprocation happening at all. Was that what I planned? No. Was it fun? Yes Now, I have to say my wife didn't have the same success rate with her experiences. She had a few that she regretted. And she learned that it was because she wasn't being honest with herself, and pushed herself to do something that she didn't feel like doing. Just do what you want to do, and be honest with the others involved.
  5. Too much is all in the eye of the beholder. But I would say that if it starts to interfere with the rest of your life, it's too much. We have stopped all playing now (and probably indefinitely), but over the last 2 years we played on the average of every week. Probably a bit more than that actually, maybe 1.5x/wk even. We were a bit odd though, we played almost entirely separate (1v1 mostly), so scheduling was much easier to handle. Some weeks we played a lot, 3+ times, and there were a few weeks we didn't play at all (on vacation, too many kid activities, people are sick, time of month..). Looking back, it seems kind of crazy actually. And at times, it was. Personally I hit the "too much" limit when I was trying to juggle time between 5 or so gals, some who wanted weekly play, some bi weekly play. That was cool for a few weeks, but it was too much beyond that.
  6. I'd have far less trouble with this scenario if you were both being open and honest with your spouses about it. Without that, I don't like it. The thing is, many of us have seen this scenario before. And many of us have seen it end badly. It doesn't always end badly, but it's nearly always a lot more involved than either of you are willing to admit or see.
  7. This whole disease thing can really suck some time up if you delve deeply into it. Our view is that you get tested every so often (twice yearly for hiv, every 3 months for most everything else is what our local clinic suggests). And if you want to use protection, use it. If not, don't. Having the trust that others are telling you the truth about what they do is a big part, and sometimes you can, sometimes you can't. In our personal experience over the last few years, the usage of condoms is like a bell curve. On one end you have the ~10% of people who always use, on the other 10% who never do. And then rest vary. We've encountered a much larger (than we had thought) number of people who are willing to not use a condom after meeting someone more than once. Especially when it comes to separate play or 1v1. Personally, if we felt confident that a couple was being truthful with us, we would probably go bareback. We've never gotten to that point, but we have discussed it with couples before.
  8. Yes, in terms of your friend, it sounds like you have answered your own question already. As far as others, if you are up for it, sure, go enjoy yourselves.
  9. Hmm.. Do you think he has some issue such as giving oral to his sig other degrades how he sees you? Kinda like when guys get mistresses because there are things that their "proper" wife shouldnt do?
  10. Hi Tom, YES, Please contact us asap. We are both very interested in you or the two of you. I enjoy my wife meeting married guys for sexual sharing & coming home with his cum inside of her. I enjoy the idea & reality knowing another man's cock has been inside my wife making her feel good & had numerous orgasms before coming home with his cum inside her for me to eat from her pussy. Hope your interested?? Gary

  11. Hi Tom, Sorry but we haven't been on this site for awhile. I would be interested in "sharing" my wife sexually with you or "sharing" as a couple IF your wife is also interested??? We are real, from the mpls area & my wife has a special friend w/benefits she meets on occassion that has totally enhanced our love & marriage. HOPE your interested??? We are the real deal and on sls as longtermcouple. Thanks!!

  12. Like in many areas, the ones who are the best at it are fairly well practiced and are very good listeners. Some gals just have the knack, and some it seems are unable to learn, much like oral for guys. Everyone else is in the bell curve in the middle. For me its a combination of pressure, motion and how the gal controls her body. Ive had a gal that was doing pretty well but was inept at body control and ended up digging her knees into the sides of my thighs. One gal lost her balance a few times (and thus interrupted the pleasure). It's also a matter of desire, just like anything else, some people really enjoy it, some just do it as a matter of course.
  13. Hmm.. Hard to say. We haven't had any trouble finding either for that matter. Mrs Tom doesnt have a preference for larger men per se, but still has encountered some. Even did an MFM with one, and he was definitely 8+, guessing more like 10. He never made any mention of his size beforehand either. Too bad his skills stopped with his size, he really seemed to rest on the laurels of it and didnt have much else to offer. I see it like this. Unicorns are around, in our experience they tend to want to find you, not you find them. Or maybe have the females contact them. And 8+" guys are around too, but you need to sort through some fakes to find them. All it takes is time, and some word of mouth really helps too.
  14. Ask him. Ive had ingrown hairs, and a razor burn once when I snagged on some skin. Ingrown hairs for me look like a red pimple, and then when you finally pop the hair out of there, they do scab many times. Fairly small scab though unless someone really makes a mess digging out the hair. A mole removal is a possibility, that will be a big scab since it's a chunk cut out from the skin.
  15. Sorry for what you are dealing with blury. I agree with many others, I would put a stop to the things you find distasteful, and if he cant handle that or doesn't want to work on finding a way to make you both happy, then that's it. He does sound like an abuser, and it's not going to get better unless you change what you are doing about it.
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