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About appliancesex

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  • Birthday 08/05/1977

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  • Relationship Status
    peanut1972's husband
  • Location
    washington, DC
  • Occupation
    graphic designer
  • Swinging Experience
    a couple years

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    ricouple
  1. It's happened once to me too, in a group situation. When it happened, I was able to look cool and be like, "meh, it happens. I'm equally good with my mouth and hands." But it does suck, and not in a good way. Another equally (potentially) bad experience, and far more common (at least with me) is the reverse, where I am hard but can't come. While I know this sounds like an awesome endeavor, it actually is annoying, because she starts to think she's doing something wrong, her jaw will hurt, etc. Usually this happens after drinking a lot of alcohol. I learned however that I am more comfortable in situations where I really know the person. This could be you too. Personality goes a long way, and maybe after being non-sexually intimate with your wife you taught yourself that the key to quality sex is a certain level of intimacy.
  2. We've gotten used to seeing them all over the place. I thought it would be funny to mention instead on our profile that we don't like dressing up as cartoon characters and we frown on vorarephilia. I think that about sums up everything.
  3. I don't think its fair to tell the op that he is worried too much about labelling. He is reacting on his wife's interpretation of the situation. Personally it seems as though she has issues with the submissive aspect of eating out a freshly cummed pussy. I agree with slevin here in that it is important to read between the lines: In my opinion I would have a frank conversation with her about her feelings about gay sex. Not that you are even remotely even bisexual! I'm not saying that. It's just that you're interests in eating her out directly after or fucking her after she is worn out could be construed as acts of homosexual behavior. Plenty of people worry that bisexuality coincides with sub behavior. Your interest in this seems totally heteroflexible but I can see where she might have some issues with it. Like fun4 says, be prepared for honesty, but that's the best way to figure out where to go from here.
  4. You know, I've heard this angle before, how a male homosexual steward started the whole aids thingamajig. I did a little novice research here, and at the risk of being verifiably lambasted by our resident AIDS expert, highlander, I'm going to have to disagree with the notion that gaëtan dugas was the one that started it (though he certainly didn't help the situation). AIDS has been identified as early as the late 1950s. it's assumed that AIDS spread to the Americas from Haiti via the Republic of Congo in the late 60's, but was rather unknown until being identified in the early 80's. personally, I think that it could be safer to say that the reason AIDS spread so quickly was due to promiscuity rather than one's sexual preference. This is due to the fact that people who have had it pre-1970 were unquestionably heterosexual. In my opinion, it's fine for you to be against sharing your bed with bisexual men, but i think your reasoning is a little flat. I don't think this is bigotry at all. It's just a preference as to whom you want to spend your time swinging with. It just happens to be a broader scope in comparison to height, weight, eye color, etc. Personally, I'd rather know people's honest opinion about where they stand with having me in their bedroom. It's a huge turn-off not to be able to be myself at the risk of making someone feel uncomfortable.
  5. hmmm. I did not know that. Maybe we should only swing with people who do porn?
  6. i was under the impression that porn actors are only tested for hiv. if this is correct, i wouldn't go around saying that they are the lower risk population. instead of all this high tech statistical stuff, why don't we just ask people to wear an arm band? that would be so much easier. omg. it can be color coded too! sort of like a security level. then when, at the club we could look over at a chart and be like, 'hmm, what's pink again?'
  7. i'm just curious, but where are you looking? sometimes finding the right guy out there can be just as difficult as finding that mythical single woman. have you considered vanilla-geared dating sites? these can be quite resourceful, though they might take some time to acquire exactly what it is you are looking for.
  8. Ok, I can go with that. That's an acceptable answer to my question. I may not agree with the reason, but I can fully understand someone worrying about being ostracized. And thank you for making this point. I think that's where I was becoming a little uncomfortable. As ncmd pointed out, the fear of ostracization drives people back into the closet, and I can respect the idea that they might be more interested in speaking to me because I'm either raising a flag or too daft to figure out I'm missing out on 80% of the swinger community. That said, I will continue to be open about my sexuality, not because I'm a pride junky or anything. But I think it's important to be as honest as I can. I don't really care if a straight guy doesn't want to play with me for fear I'm looking at his package or something. I just don't want the people I play with to be uncomfortable around me. We're all there to have a good time, and if someone keeps hanging up about it, he or she won't have a good time. I don't want people to think I'm hiding anything else. Nicely put. Thanks.
  9. We have face pics only, no nudes or private galleries. For us, we're attracted to people's faces first, but also we're free members still and don't think it's fair for us to ask to see something we aren't comfortable showing ourselves. It's hard too, because we understand people wanting to know what we look like before they want to meet us. i mean, we live four hours from anyone, so it's not like we don't already have to make extensive plans about meeting people.
  10. The comparison isn't about sucking cock. The comparison is about trying new things. It's ludicrous to believe that people out there are straight just because they don't want to suck cock. I don't think that that is the missing link as to why men consider themselves straight. Secondly, you're the only one that brought up bestiality: Just so I'm on the same page here, are you just arguing for the sake of being argumentative? My original question wasn't, "why are bi men posing as people who secretly like to suck cock because society has told them it's a no-no, but they want to pin themselves against the mold." It also wasn't, "what is the real reason than men are posing as straight males." It was more like, "why are you saying you are one thing but really you are doing something entirely different?" Either way, now you are comparing oral sex to something drastic. no one else in this thread has mentioned that oral sex is this horrible act against nature. Probably because they understand my question, but whatever. Yeah... I can very much confirm that peanut is most definitely a woman. I can also confirm that she gives amazing head.
  11. First, for those of you who think I live by labels, I don't. I don't honestly care. I was feeling ornery the other day, and complaining about bi dudes posing as something else seemed to fit that hole. I was not attempting to provide a definition for bisexuality to push onto other people. I think I was pretty clear when I wrote this: If you are one of those people (majority or otherwise), who believes that bisexuality is a fondness for model train collecting, so be it. However, I hope we can all agree that straight basically means you have a preference for the opposite sex. If this is the case, I think a little honesty goes a long way. Ok. So for me (at least), if 80% of the people out there don't want to hook up with me or peanut because of our sexual orientation, then that is 80% whom I don't want to hook up with either. I'm in this lifestyle because I want to have fun, not because I'm desperate and need to get my rocks off. I like to think that peanut and I hand pick our playmates based on the quality they have to offer. edit:you know I reread this, and I'll be honest with you. This is fine if you are a bi person who only wants to have straight sex and not have any bi play going on. But if you are contacting me, looking to hook up, this is not an accurate representation of who you are. I'm not offended and I'm not looking at it as criticism. I appreciate your query. That said, honestly it would take a while to explain it and I really don't feel like boring anyone with that shit. again, I'm not out here to judge. I will hook up with all you closet cases out there. I'm down with that. But I just find it intriguing that it's acceptable to you that people lie about one thing but not about other things. it's just weird to me. that said, to each their own.
  12. ha! thanks for pointing that out. though, it would make my life easier if i was a foot shorter than her, "um, while you're down there..." It was probably a gay man who told me this. Bastards. Or just have gone through puberty. Well, butt pirate sounded soooo passé. Umm. no. That is your interpretation of my failed attempt at humor. And i'm one of them. Which brings me to my first question. if you are bi, bicurious or straight, you should say so. I've been getting messages from seemingly bi men posing as straight (I mean, look at the title of this thread), and I was curious to see if others were seeing this too. It really wasn't intended to be a debate about labels, but rather a question over the lack of them. Sure, bi can mean lots of things to lots of people. To scientists it means having to sexual organs in insect species. However, I'm sure we can all agree that the term straight is pretty cut and dry. ya just dig chicks. That's it. So if you're profile says "ya just dig chicks," why are you looking to get down and jiggy with me? I thought about changing this, but then who would I chat with in the morning? Well Idid anyway. Not because of what you said, but it didn't really match the glory of the other paragraphs.
  13. we are going to our first party in the phoenix area next week. not really a club, but since we don't know where those are yet, parties are close enough. we live 4 hours from anything remotely worth paying attention to (so far) so we have to travel. we're going to have to go with spvcouple here since apparently they know what's up in arizona:
  14. It seems like clockwork that this happens almost every morning. Sometime around 6:30-7:30 a.m. we get messages on Swing Lifestyle from straight men looking to 'explore their bi-side'. What is this bi side I keep hearing about? Why does your profile say you are straight if you are secretly a rectal ranger in training? For me (at least), bisexuality means we can have a relationship with either a male or a female. This means something to me, as I've actually had a romantic relationship with a guy. It involves more than just sex, just like you would have with a woman. Most men I've met in this lifestyle who pose as bisexuals or even closet types are usually mswm (men who have sex with men), those married types that exit the clubs and wander into the fens late at night (Boston folk here should know what I'm talking about). Are people starting to see more bi men who are posing as straight men around? I sort of miss the days that I was shunned by gays and straights alike. Oh, and if your answer to my question above is because others are aware of a male's profile as a straight male in this lifestyle, one can always open another account and set pics to private. This bugs me like 'new to this lifestyle' bugs some other people on here.
  15. I dunno, we've clicked reply on Swing Lifestyle and it still sat there as though we have new mail (not forever, but it's still not immediate). This is something I do for work, and the overall design of the site looks like something created with frontpage. That said, it is a free site, so you get what you pay for. And to be fair, what you get is actually quite a bit. When p andIi met, we used okcupid to find each other. This is another free site, and paying gives you a few extra features like getting rid of the ads that pay for the site. Unfortunately their pay scale is not very good, and this is where Swing Lifestyle really shines. Paying for it is not that expensive, and they have a lifetime member option. If you do think about making a new site, you need to do a lot of usability testing for it. On the one hand, it is a personalized system for a select group of people.But it is also still a website. Also, if you are seriously considering it, I would recommend you only do it if you can do it yourself. When things break at the last minute, paying for a developer to come in and fix it for you is like getting a plumber to come in on Christmas day to fix a broken water heater. Personally, in terms of Swing Lifestyle, I would simply redesign the site and keep the current functionality of it as it is. Sometimes dressing up a site makes it that much more functional.
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