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HappyCpl

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HappyCpl last won the day on October 2 2011

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About HappyCpl

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  • Birthday 03/01/1962

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  • Relationship Status
    M. Male playing as Single
  • Location
    TN
  • Swinging Experience
    On & Off for 5 Years

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  • Favorite Club(s)
    TSC Nashville TN

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  1. Excessive alcohol use by either or both of them when meeting for the first time. If they have to be smashed to meet up, then there's usually an underlying reason that I don't want to be around.
  2. Holy shit.... That's really funny! That said, I usually feel like I need a shower after looking at the personal ads on CL. Yeeccchhh...
  3. Other than clubs or putting it in my SLS and Kasidie profiles, where do y'all meet bi males that is safe? I looked on our local CL..... and felt like I needed a shower afterwards... Ugh. I'm genuinely curious about bi play but at the same time repulsed by what I saw on CL.
  4. Always had a thing for these actresses: Jennifer Connelly, Rachel Weisz, Salma Hayek, Jami Gertz, and Julianna Moore.
  5. Take your time, it's not a race. Also, don't make those awful gagging noises that the gals do in the porn films. Other than that, mind your teeth and have fun, because I certainly will!!
  6. Possibly orally but not interested in anal, with either sex.
  7. Also lay off the booze before playtime... Jose Cuervo has ruined more than one moment for me during playtime......
  8. Mrs. H here... Every situation is different. Some good...some great...some...well...ummm... If it was good or great, we generally sit around for a minute or so after with our clothes off and bask. Then we give the appropriate (and always truthful) compliments as we are getting dressed. Oh, and a 'thank you' can go a long way. If it was...well...ummm...we usually get dressed quicker, smile and say thank you and go on with the evening. The conversations I enjoy are the ones I have with Mr. H on the way home. Sometimes reliving a sexy night together can cause the sexy night to continue once we get back home. Oh...yeah...
  9. Mrs. H Here... I agree. The truth does sometimes hurt...but it is so much more painful and longer lasting when prior deception is involved. Not telling your wife out of fear is, in my opinion, the same as lying. The truth will come out eventually...it always does. I won't say that you do not love both of these women. However, if I were your wife, I imagine that I wouldn't feel very loved. I would probably feel untrusted and rejected. (She most probably senses something...you have been with each other far too long for her not to pick on things.) I cannot know what you are actually feeling. However, from what you have written, your actions are putting the needs of the 'other woman' (and that is what she is...the other woman) above the needs of your wife. In my opinion, wives need to be trusted...and to be included emotionally. You are not doing that. Mr. H is my king...and I am his queen. He is above all other men in my heart. The worst thing he could do to me is to put another woman ahead of me in an emotional sense. I would rather take a physical beating than an emotional one. But, your wife may see it differently. However, you will never know for sure until you talk to her. You would be surprised at the things we wives can forgive. Granted, it takes time for the level of trust to build again, but what else do you have to do with the rest of your life?
  10. Mrs. H here... I like the way you put that. Mr. H and I have what we call "us" and "the other us"...but in the end...it is always about us, as well. If Mr. H wanted to call it quits, I would quit in a second, never look back, and not miss it at all. I don't need to 'swing'. I do it because it is something we do together to enhance our sexual relationship. If swinging no longer appealed to Mr. H for whatever reason, then it would hold no appeal for me. Even in everyday situations, I have found it impossible for me to really enjoy myself if I know he is not enjoying himself. I suppose,after all of these years, we are just that tightly interwoven...
  11. +100!! Another example of why Mrs. H and I don't play with friends, nor do we make friends with our playmates.
  12. Mrs. H and I prefer the casual encounter to "dating" another couple, which seems to be the norm these days. We aren't in the lifestyle to make new best friends, travel companions, shopping buddies, or anything like that. Swinging is something we do as our "other selves", not as a lifestyle. We say this in our SLS profile, as well, and it doesn't seem to have any negative effects. We have friends who are swingers and friends who are not. What we do NOT have is friends we play with. We've seen more than enough couples self-destruct in the last 2 years to learn to keep as clear of this emotional minefield as we can.
  13. Mrs. H and I have decided that either meeting up for a quick drink or coffee is a much better, and much more laid-back way of meeting other couples than a dinner date. We're not out to "date" the other couple, anyway. Also, you learned the lesson of watching out for ANYONE who has to be hammered to be able to play. Mrs. H and I keep the alcohol to a minimum before/during play time, and then have a few(or more than a few)afterward, if for no other reason than to replace fluids!! I'm so happy that everything worked itself out in the end!!
  14. Agreed... Mr. H here. Although the young(25 or younger)couples are nice to look at, we prefer to stay within our age range(30-50)due to the maturity issue.
  15. Mrs. H and I have done a pretty good job of keeping the "other us" private, but it's only a matter of time before we run into someone we know in the real world. We've been living in the same city for a long time, we both went to school here, raised our family here, we have rather distinctive names and appearances, etc. I tell you what, though. Our suburban community is a veritable hotbed(no pun intended)of swinger-ness! There are several SLS members who have or community as their location, and a trip to the local Publix and Kroger grocery stores sets off our 'radar' every time.
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