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Hotwallabies last won the day on January 11 2009

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  • Birthday 03/11/1975

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    Couple
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    New Mexico
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    Biking, Golfing, Triathlons, Skiing, Hiking
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  1. Nothing wrong with separate rooms for us, but we have never (and may never) done(do) separate rooms though for two reasons: 1. Swinging is about being "together" for us. Half the fun for us is seeing each other with other people or paritcipating with other people all together. 2. We have yet to swing with people we know "very" well. In our minds, there is safety in numbers. I could not live with myselfif we played in separate rooms and the guy(s) or girl(s)treated my wife badly. Same room lets me keep an eye on her in more than one way. Having said all of the above, if we got to know a couple well enoough to feel comfortable with them and knew we would be safe, we might just do the separate room stuff. It might be fun to have your spouse come back and tell you all about gettting it on while you weren't there.
  2. Our reasons for exploring swinging are as follows: 1. Sex is good and fun. We figured if sexis good and fun with us surely it could be just as fun or more with a few more people involved. 2. Swinging is a reasonably safe way to explore our fantasies toghether/ 3. Swinging was the best way we could figure for my wife to be able to explore her bi-sexuality. 4. We feel like being open and honest with our sexual needs and desires and finding out good ways to get those needs and desires met for both of us is important in our relatonship and swinging helps us to achieve this in our marriage. 5. Swinging is something for us to explore and do together which is completely and uniquely ours. Once you become parents you forfeit almost everything which is yours to do jsut toghether. Swinging gives us a time which is a "secret" just for us. This secret is so fun to share between just us and nobody else. This secret binds us in a way we never expected. 6. We grew up in a super religious setting which repressed our sexuality and swinging gives us an outlet for exploring sexuality for ourselves instead of having someone do the thinking about our sexuality for us. There are probably many other reasons I could list if we both thought about it for awhile but these are probably the biggest reasons for us.
  3. It's hard to say for me (especially since you're looking for serious answers). It so depends on the situation for me. With a condom I can go for quite awhile. If I'm excited and with my wife (no condom)-embarrassingly short (minute or 2). Depending on the situation, how relaxed I am, how excited I am, what type of condom I'm wearing could be anywhere from 1 min. to 20 min. If I go too short I feel kind of bad but if I go longer than 15 minutes I actually feel like they're probably feeling like "enough already". So there's a serious answer for you. Oh and I've never tried the viagra but I'm 33 yrs old so... Now my funny answer: "Not long enough!":D
  4. I guess it really depends on the overall context in which the statement was written ultimately. Tough to say what the author truly intended without the rest of the paragraph at least.
  5. We met in college. I was her counselor at Freshman Orientation Camp. We were married 3 months later!
  6. I would really disagree with that statement. I am not super comfortable with my SO going off with another guy simply because I worry about her safety. On top of that, part of the joy for us is doing these things together. To say that we can't handle swinging because we prefer to do it together seems a little ridiculous IMHO. Now If you wanted to say we weren't the highest level of swinger because we only did same room that would be fine. Just invent some new name for us and then people can debate what really makes somebody qualify to have that title as well. Who knows, maybe we can't handle "swinging", but we like having sex with people other than each other, and we like it a lot. Call it whatever the hell you want, we don't care.
  7. I always thought it was a myth as well. Now, I only wish it was a myth, Biloxi! Yikes!
  8. He was definitely being sarcastic. He meant it to point out how absurd it would be to actually let such a thing take place whether it be with a rattlesnake in a cave or a rattlesnake in swinging. If someone is a problem you should let people know. If I heard my friends were going to a terrible restaurant that I had just been to would I not tell them that the restaurant was crap? I know we're not dealing with rattlesnakes or restaurants here but there is still much validity to Chicups excellent parable. By the way you made some excellent points as well Fuse. Why we're sharing the information is very important to consider. If Chicup and his wife had simply not liked the cave and then sat outside it warning people away that would have been a problem.
  9. Accidentally hit enter when my 22 month old grabbed the laptop. Sorry.
  10. Excellent point and very well crafted I might add. But was there a point to your story?
  11. This is exactly how we would deal with this type of situation. You always have to consider the source. If it was people we knew very well and trusted we might give more credence to what they were saying, if it wasn't we might make a mental note but then find out for ourselves. I don't think we would reject someone solely off of what someone else told us though. We might share information if we thought that someone was particularly bad (not in bed but in hygiene, personality, or demeanor, etc.) but we would also put the "this may just be our opinion" caveat even on that. If someone was awesome though we would definitely share that, anyway we can make swinging easier for somebody we will. If your cool we will definitely advertise it so that you get more opportunites. We feel like you've earned it by being cool people. That's my hay penny's worth.
  12. I don't know if it's a stupid top ten but another thing we did was not realizing that swinging takes quite a bit of effort. You have to seek people out, chat with them, send pics, go out to meet, and after what could've been weeks of build up you may not hit it off (which I would say you don't with most people) then you have to start all over again. I thought swinging was going to be a lot easier than it is. I guess I just imagined the sex and never considered the work it took to get to the sex. Doh!
  13. Putting unattractive and sometimes downright scary pics on your Swing Lifestyle account. Another really stupid thing to do is swing when you work for an organization that is directly opposed to swinging. I did this and it was a really bad idea. Trying to swing without your partner.
  14. We've never asked anyone for pics but we've had people ask us and never felt like it was rude at all. We've actually never had to ask. If someone has been interested they either send pics or reciprocate when we do. People have a right to know whether they're interested or not, and looks are big a factor for people. So, we've never minded sending a few pics once we knew that they were people we were at least somewhat interested in. If you think not giving a pic is going to help your cause then you're kidding yourself. So sure it's polite, at least to us.
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