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About prairieshadows

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  • Birthday 05/13/1976

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple...He posts mostly.
  • Location
    Sioux Falls, South Dakota
  • Interests
    Camping, swimming, movies, music, grilling. Hanging out, reading, traveling when we can.
  • Occupation
    Him: Truck Driver/ Her: Fast Food and Mary Kay Consultant
  • Swinging Experience
    11 years off and on.
  • Anniversary
    Aug. 10th

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    sfsdcouple57106

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  1. With us, when we meet another couple, we go in with no expectations that anything is going to happen that night, we usually don't play on the first meet, and the reason being, we want to get to know the other couple, and feel each other out. To make sure we all click with each other, there have been times where we connected on the first meeting and we did play that night, but for us it all depends on if we all feel comfortable with each other.
  2. 1. Make sure before you start that it's something you BOTH want to do, talk about it without pushing the issue, do research about it, also discuss any feelings that you have about it. Make sure it's something you REALLY want to do. 2. If it's something you want to do, make that you both know and are comfortable with what you want to do, be it threesomes like MFM or FMF, swapping partners with another couple, or larger groups. 3. Have GREAT trust in each other and great communication with each other. Because you never know what each other will think about it if you don't talk about it with each other. 4. Have fun, the reason you get into the lifestyle should be for fun, if one of you isn't enjoying it, don't keep at it thinking the other will come around. 1 partner should never do it just to make the other happy, because all it will ever do is breed resentment. Again, just have fun.
  3. For us, we have had sex on the first "date" when we've met other couples....we haven't always had the best results with this, because with many of the couples we had swapped with on the first meeting. Many of whom we'd swapped with, and then when we tried to set up another meeting with them, they would blow us off or just didn't seem interested. Like they got sex from us and moved on. We usually try to have at least a date or 2 before we do anything else, but there have been a few couples we've met where we just clicked right away, and got a great vibe from them, and it led to some really hot fun that night. I think for us it really depends on how well we connect with the other couple if we have sex on that first date.
  4. Yes it has changed our thinking, and our relationship with each other as well as our life. We do enjoy swinging with other couples, but and it has added another dimension to our relationship with each other, in many ways it's brought us closer together, and improved the trust we have with each other and our communication we have with each other as well. As far as how it's changed our thinking, it's really changed how we think of each other and about each other and each others ideas and feelings, not only when it comes to swinging, but in other areas of our lives as well. I know for me, there had been times when I didn't always consider her feelings and wanted to do things because I wanted to, and didn't get her input and how she felt, as a result it caused issues in our marriage. We have worked past those issues and it really improved the communication we have with each other. We have an open marriage, and we meet people alone, and something we ALWAYS do, is if we want to meet someone, we ALWAYS talk about it with each other first, because say that night she is thinking about seeing this particular guy, I wanted to spend that evening with her, I let her know, and vice versa if I want to meet another woman. Also we have 3 kids, and it has changed things, because we really don't want our kids knowing about our lifestyle, so we have to keep it secret from them, also with our families. Not something I really want my family to know about, my brother is a pastor, and I really don't want the sermon about how he believes it's wrong.
  5. He's a truck driver working in construction. She works part time in fast food and getting started as a Mary Kay Consultant.
  6. We go bareback with anyone we feel comfortable with...as long as they are comfortable with it as well. We prefer not to use condoms personally, but we will if requested to.
  7. Thanks for the message in our post. It's great to be back.

  8. I know for us, Alicia does something for me now and then that I know she doesn't like, and that's giving me blow jobs. Early on in our relationship, she didn't have a problem with giving them, but I expected her to do it all the time, and it ruined it for her. She still gives them (and very well I might add), but not as frequent as she used to. Now as much as I do enjoy them, I've had no complaints really about not getting them as often. I think when it comes to sexual activities that couples engage in, it should be something that both are willing to explore. An example that I know led to a couple we know getting divorced, they swapped with another couple because he wanted to. She went along with it to make him happy, and it really tore her up. (We did not swing with this couple.) But she basically felt that she wasn't enough for him, that's why he wanted to try swinging. It's a big reason why when we talk with couples who are thinking about trying swinging, that they make sure it's something that they BOTH want to do, not just one or the other. It has to be a decision they make together, because there are so many emotions involved. Anyways, that's my take on it.
  9. To us the thing that sticks out is that your gf didn't say anything for quite a while, and the other guy and his gf knew, but they said not to say anything to you....if either of us did something like that, we would be furious with each other, because if you do that you betraying your partners trust. If we play with ANYONE alone, we have to ask each other before we do anything.
  10. For us, we had friends who were in an open relationship as well as swingers, and told us about it. It was something that had interested us, and we started talking about it, and over time discussing it, we figured we'd give it a try and see if it was something we would like...and we have very much enjoyed it.
  11. For us, people who are too rough or don't take no for an answer, also someone who gets obsessive or possesive. We also have an open marriage and we've had people who have wanted to play with both of us alone, who got really obsessive or posessive and didn't seem to get the hint, then got all bent out of shape when we said no.
  12. No way...because even if we use condoms there's still the chance of someone getting it, and we wouldn't want to risk passing it onto another couple.
  13. For us it really varies. Depending on what's going on in our lives at the time, Bryan works a lot, and with the stress from work, it can affect his sex drive, while I, Alicia am a stay at home mom, and babysit for friends, depending on how busy I am from one day to the next can determine my sex drive. When I was pregnant....I would wear his ass out. lol Also for both of us it depends on our moods as well. There's times I go through periods where I can't seem to get enough, and the same for Bryan. So guess it varies a lot for us, there's times when his sex drive is higher than mine, and times when mine is higher than his.
  14. We've been with other couples where for Bryan, the wife of the other couple was better at something than me. Case in point, we met a couple where the wife is better at blow jobs than I am, he told me, I was ok with, mainly because I don't care to give blow jobs. And I didn't feel at all jealous because I know he won't leave me for a woman who can give better blow jobs than I do. He likes mine as well;)
  15. We are not interested in 1 night stands with other couples. We would much rather prefer to have 2 or 3 couples who we can swing with, but also get together with them without there being an expectation of sex every time we're together.
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