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  • Birthday 08/29/1957

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    Single Female in relationship
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    Indiana/Ohio
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    less than 2 years

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  1. Mr. Femnewb has a Prince Albert. As he does not post, I get to play typist. From His side: Motivation? It was a bet I made many years ago with my ex-wife because I wanted to experience a pierced tongue with fellatio. But I was dumb enough to go first and she didn't get her tongue pierced. Still have not gotten my fantasy.. But I don't regret having it. Sensation for him? Whether the penis is stimulated orally, vaginally or manually there is a change in sensation with orgasm at the climax. To understand that sensation you can try this: as you are getting ready to cum, put your thumb over the head of the port (meatus), and don't let fluid come out, so it is restricted in the opening available for ejaculation...that is as close to the feeling as I can describe. With it in there is a difference in the type of stimulation I feel during intercourse, or fellatio, simply because the piercing is moving around against my skin externally and internally. Its like just having the head of your cock stimulated with out the shaft feeling anything. If I take extended breaks between wearing it or not there is a change in the sensitivity during intercourse. During intercourse the ball will sometimes slide up in the opening and change the amount of restriction during ejaculation. You don't know if it slid up there or not until you cum. So it becomes a surprise for the male...and an intense one. The woman's perspective? During intercourse, it depends upon the shape of the woman's vagina, the tilt of her cervix as well as the intercourse position used as to what her experience is with it. Usually she'll feel it better when up on all fours. This is because it is easier for the ring/ball to hit her g-spot. Also, the size of ring does matter for her experience. Some women have reported to me they like the hardness of the change against their cervix as well. Effect on my swing experiences? Since in swing we use condoms, I get little sensation from wearing it other than the expected restriction when I ejaculate. But the surprise increased sensation never happens since the ball cannot shift on its own down into the port and will not be down there when putting a condom on. With the ring size I wear, (12 gauge is what I am have built up to) covered with a condom most woman don't feel it. The condom experience might be different if a man wears bigger ring, or different ball type, or a large post. I don't know. I offer to every woman the option for me to not have it in, or to remove it during play time. Some don't like the look and some don't like the feel in their mouth. Others have enjoyed playing with it with their tongue. We have a picture in our profile of my ring in. We make it available to couples who have never seen one and may be curious to whether they want me to have it in at play time. We don't want anyone offended by it. The down falls for me of having one? As I said, some women are repulsed by the sight. Some men have trouble seeing it (the idea of the pain of getting pierced gets to them). In personal life you have to learn a total different way to urinate. When the piercing is in, you have to turn your penis upside down, or sit down, because it will spray out both openings. If it's removed you always have to stand to urinate and remember to put your finger over the lower hole (the pierced hole). Also with long durations of intercourse with powerful thrusting the head can get desensitized to pressure when I wear it for an extended period of time. From her side: I like to deep throat Mr. Femnewb. I can't with his Prince Albert in. It hits my gag reflex too easily. I also find the feel of the metal irritating against my teeth or against the tip of my tongue. It's like it's in the way.... But I do enjoy knowing the pleasure it gives him. Erotic for me. So we just don't do extended sessions of fellatio when he is wearing it, and there is no deep throating--forces us to change our routine between us. I like that! As to intercourse. Due to the way I am built, it is a rare occasion I even notice that it is in. But I certainly enjoy the surprised look on his face and the extended ejaculation he gets to have when the ball did move down the canal before he cums. And he now says...that is probably way more information than you wanted or needed.
  2. We'd enjoy having a house party. We divide our time between two homes in two states. One is a tiny one-bedroom condo in a tight community. The other is open at all times to children stopping by. So for now we will have to stay away from hosting.
  3. Appreciate all the replies, thoughts and information. We have a week long work related road trip coming up. Looking forward to tossing this topic around some more together. My gut has always felt uncomfortable with the party invitations that involve money and large groups. As well as any invites that site a regular location publicly posted on websites. Donations required have been everything from $20 to $80, plus byob. Maybe one day we'll be fortunate to receive a party invite that is "bring a dish to pass, BYOB, and a guest list consistent with the size of a vanilla dinner party/backyard cookout. Funny, we don't even know if we are the house party type. Yet, there's that urge to find out...
  4. My sweetie and I were discussing the legalities of house parties. There is a very good chance our questions and concerns have been discussed in the forum. But my searches have not revealed the answers we are looking for as such. This all started with a vanilla friend/employee of ours, a paramedic, telling us about this "shocking" run he recently had at a club for a potential heart attack. (BTW - the idea of swingers clubs just blew his mind...due to work relationship we stayed mute.) The query is...what are the issues surrounding illegal activities as related to house parties? I say they can be raided. He says no since on private property, unless police are called for noise ordinance. Which he feels would not jeopardize guests, only owners. I have also taken the stand that if money is charged for the party now we have a pay-for-sex issue. I am unable to explain to him what the underlying justification for police raiding may be. Any takers?
  5. If better qualified means more contacts that lead to a first meet then not...then I would say so. We have noticed it does reduce the number of emails we recieve. But those we have met with, play or not, have been fun meets! And now you remind us...we do need to get a new couples pic of us on the site. Our present one is poor quality and not a setting that tells something about us. We use the camera so much for work that we forget to get it out for social events. Guess that's one more thing to be put on the New Year's To Do List!
  6. For starting this thread. Almost every time Mr. Femnewb and I are on a site together the conversation leads to...."where are the pics of him!". Mr. Fem does most of the emailing and he too, like some of you, is quite frustrated with having to reply with..."may we see some pics of the male half?"..in some version. We have revolted against this females-only-pics (or multi pics of her and one blurry or non descript of him) by putting his face first and foremost! It is also a subtle message that even though his lady love (me) is bisexual, this is not about the women for us. It is a couples particiaption activity for us. Side note: My face is in private pics due to vanilla world restrictions. But my body is up there! Maybe some great play couples have passed us by for having his face as the primary picture and not having any "sexy" shots up front. That may be the price we pay to try and get a subtle message across to those who email us.
  7. We are a couple with a bisexual female...ME!. But would enjoy very much being with a straight woman in a threesome. No. I would not be playing with her, but instead would enjoy making him the center of attention between she and I, with the joy of watching the two of them together as he pleases her. For some reason many in swing have the mindset that the women have to play with each other. Even if she is a beautiful bi play woman, quite often I would like to exclude the bi play between us for multiple reasons. If your friend IS comfortable exploring swing there is room for her in the lifestyle with single men, married men playing separately with permission or as a third partner in a light friendship or one night stand...IMHO
  8. First off, one man's BBW is another man's twiggy. It's all in the eye of the beholder...as is what the label means...IMHO. Second, I am confused here a bit. Your profile says you are interested in couples. That would tend to lead one to think you are open to swing of some variety with a couple. If this is your reality then more pics of hubby would be nice for the female of the other couple. If you are only interested in MFM then you may want to drop the bar indicating couples.
  9. Bbarnsworth, (As a previous "unicorn" I am going to refrain from certain comments and be a good girl here by moving on to your question.) Mr. Femnewb and I have a single male gentleman we enjoy as a swing partner in MFM. We feel honored to have him as a play partner not only for who he is as a person, but as you bring up, also for the reasons he is in swing. He has a full time job, a parent who has health issues requiring his attention, and is currently starting a two-owner business in an unrelated field. He is charming, intelligent, well read, has a variety of interests indoors and outdoors, and several good friends. He was in the lifestyle previously with his ex-fiancee for 5 years. He was introduced to the lifestyle by an older couple (MFMs) years ago. He decided he did not have the time in his schedule, and the energy, in his life right now to devote to building and maintaining a dating relationship with a woman. He does not want to potentially destroy any good female friendships he has had for years by turning them into FWBs just to have sex in his world. For him, it just made sense to pop back into swing to find sexual play time and connections. While we are privey to some of his personal life we are all careful to not let his vanilla world see the foundation of his "friendship" with us. He is one of those rare single males who does not flaunt his interest to the world...a bennie for us. And now having written this, I am not sure if this qualifies for your first category or your third.
  10. Fun4Ds Possibly her therapist did not encourage her to cheat. However, if the client was set on having a secret affair or one-nighter, I could see a therapist encouraging her to go at it in a fashion that may help support what the client is trying to discover about cheating, or herself, or the relationship. A type of..."Mrs Client, cheating is not the answer, I do not endorse it, however if you are intent upon taking this road then do X,Y and Z". Kudos to you for not falling for the double standard which exists for many in the lifestyle...the "single" male is not allowed to be married, but the single female for the same couple is allowed to be. My opinion only; By putting herself in the swing world on a site not only puts herself at risk as to her health (emotional) and her marriage but also brings risk to the couples or single male she spends time with. Too much could go wrong if she is on shaky ground. Besides the usual notes you see from couples who do not play with cheating spouses...i.e. drama...the risk of physical and environmental harm to the couple by the offended spouse would be there.
  11. CoffeeBlack, just my two cents. I have known for over 30 years that I am 100% bi-sexual. I have had two relationships with women. But when it comes to playing with a woman in swing...AlilOEverything sums it up beautifully. Continue to listen and support your darling as you are, work with your feelings of being left out for now, and you will be fine.
  12. Thank you FUNDs. As new to swing (in couple's play) I have found myself in the postion of NOT stopping or signaling to my love for fear it will be seen as drama. We state over and over here that everything needs to go at the slowest persons pace, even if it means helping the newbies find their pace. We say we need to communicate clearly with our partners (in life and in the moment of swing). We say every situation is different in a swing play date no matter how skilled, experienced, educated or well at communication the parties involved are. Yet, when those moments come up...those moments that can happen to any of us....in our human-ness we can forget to look at all the possible sides of what may have happened. Then the potential exists for feelings to get hurt, anger to emerge, misunderstandings leading to murky waters all where may be they did not need to exist. Yes. We can try to avoid some pitfalls by playing only with experienced swingers. Yes. We can try to avoid some angst by being social aquaintances with our playmates before we actually move beyond flirtation. But in the end no matter how we play, or in what settings, swing is an interaction between 2 or more individuals from unique histories, experiences, mindsets, swing philosophies, sexual priorites and needs. A great formula for misunderstandings, hurting one another and bad deeds. And yes, I say bad deeds because much as I would like to wave a rainbow over all of swing, not everyone in swing is a caring and compassionate person. Some see swing as all about them with complete disregard for their playmates. I give points to those who are honest if swing is all about their needs when meeting new playpartners. Those are not the ones I am refering to. Others see it as a shared experience, mutually beneficial to all. But I would like to believe most who practice swing are good, honest, compassionate and caring people. Now that was a soap box! Feel free to fire at will.
  13. We are one of those. We started in swing as singles. Therefore separate profiles. We are a committed couple now. But have left our site names as is. We do refer to each others profile name in both sites to help ease the confusion. We have left things the way they are because (1) We each have friends and previous playmates that know us by our individual profile names (2) We each have the option of playing alone if the circumstances support it. On his site, which we designate as our couple site, and Swing Lifestyle has approved, his face is foremost. Therefore it can appear as a single site. As may mine with my picture foremost. My face is blocked on both sites for all the same reasons I did not show my face in my single site before becoming his other half. We have individual G rated pics of both of us, as well as a couple shot, both with my face blocked and without blocked, on each site. It is our hope that couples who do find us will realize we are a couple and not trying to pull a fast one. And yes, while we have met others who have done the same for various well thought justified reasons, we have encountered those that are playing games or trying to sneak something in.
  14. femnewb4u2

    Never assume

    As was said earlier....it is not always single men who exhibit the bad taste behavior. I siympathize with what TNT is saying. Only in my case, in both cases, it was married men. Just because I am at a club having a drink does not mean you (anyone) - a stranger to me- may come behind me and begin to put your hands all over me and grope. My moving away should be a signal that that is not appropriate behavior with my body. And when you do it a second and third time you do not need to cuss or berate me loudly when my fella and I get up and walk away. And yes, I need to learn to look at said gentleman or lady and explain in a polite manner that the touch is unwelcome in my case. This I chalk up to newness at clubs - on my part that is. Wow! Did not know that was in there so deep. Thank you for letting me vent. What I really wanted to say was....let's be careful not to label this a single male problem - but a human behavoir/club courtesy one.
  15. I am a bi female. I play alone and in a relationship. A woman being straight does not deter me at all from playing with a couple. Not as a single female or one half of a couple. All I ask is that she be up front with it. Another way you might look at it is this....just because two women are bi in one way or another does not mean they will have the chemistry to play with one another even when the chemistry is there to play with the male(s). Play can still be wonderful when everyone is on the same page. As Vegas said, do not let others push your wife into something that is not who she is or comfortable exploring. It does not work out well for anyone in the end. Swing is your gift to share with each other and best enjoyed when it works in a manner best for each of you....
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