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bendmeovernow

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About bendmeovernow

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  • Birthday 02/09/1979

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    texas
  • Interests
    chatting and baking for her and computers and games for him.
  • Occupation
    house wife
  • Swinging Experience
    1yr give or take a few months

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  • SLS Name
    winterlovin and amorell
  • Favorite Club(s)
    silver minx

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  1. we are the same way... i do get somewhat jealous when my husb will eat pussy when out.. or spend more time of forplay then he does at home with me.. it's why i don't watch him as much as others do... hehehehhe but on the same way.. i am sub and he's not dom.. so i get that time when i play. and he doesn't have to worry about my sub side and all other then when i have a bad day at work and come home asking to be beaten. hehheheh that's what swinging is about... being able to find what is missing and then you don't have to miss out on everything.. mmmmm
  2. yeah... the mom got online too and was saying how he was doing this and that to her as she was typeing... i was rather disturbed with it. heheh i'm glad they haven't tried to message me again after that.. the mom acually wanted to have me join the both of them.. ahhhh no.. heheh
  3. i love the idea of a one bd place for my playtime.... and yes.. you do have the pricier hotels. heheheh but hey... sometimes that all that's around i guess.. we don't really spend anything going out.. we go to our home club and stay the night... and just end up paying for a small bottle of alcohol to drink that night and that's about it. it's the only way we can swing for now i guess... now with the clubs... you can most of the time here ask the hosts if they need help... bartend... or do house tours... and get in for free.. it's how we even get to go to the club... cus they are friends and after the frist few months we didn't have to pay anymore. we just help out when they need it and get to play later in the night when all is settled down and all. we know others that say hey.. i'll do this till midnight.. and they don't have to pay.. cus the club doesn't have to pay someone to come in and do this or do it themselves. now if you don't have clubs near you... and that's not an option.. i'd see who's willing to go with the shareing a 'play' space that's for sure. i love that idea.
  4. well.. i think as long as you are safe about it... all will be well. i've been asked before how close a relative i'd sleep with... the guy was sleeping with his mom.. YES.. HIS MOM WAS DOING THIS..... i was like ahhhh no... not for me... and haven't talk to him in a long time. but that's his mom... i guess it's what ever your comfortable with though. i have found a few that would go for like inlaws.... or step sisters or step brothers... but personally i don't think i'd go for under like REALLY distant cousins.. heheheh that would be hard to handle for me. hehehe
  5. well lets see... i'm 30.. and most of my play mates and best friends are in there 50 or 60's .. heheheh i'm sub and my dom is 60.... i hate that some or most that see me with older give me that why are you with him look. now days i tell others that if you don't want to play with someone cus they are older then hell more fun for me... i'll go see them. it's those people that miss out on the experiance that the older ones have and how much pleasure they give. it's an older friend that got it where i'm squirting again.. after yrs of not being able to.. i tell most everyone that askes about age.. to think about what they might be missing.. true.. you might find one or two that you don't like playing with.. then just tell them hey... we don't mesh and good luck after.. but think about the ones that will please you to the extreem and have you craving more. hehehe mmmmmmmmmmmmmm i know i do.
  6. Now we have discussed this maybe happening to us when our kids are older and all that. We also have friends that have their kids in the lifestyle too. They just sit down with them and make sure that they don't share the same playmates and or go to the same club that night.. and all is fine. They don't ask or talk about who they went to go see.. or ask for details.... but they also don't tell them how to live either. Now both of our parents know what we do by our choice. I didn't want them finding out some other way and them being shocked or hurt from it so we laid it out on the table. I really wish we didn't now... but hey... when it comes to my MILl... who is close to the same as the 'ohh no.... what do I do ' mom she does things all wrong... trys to control us. My advice would be to tell her they are still her kid(s) and to love them regardless of what they do sexually. Most that are against it are always saying how it's going to kill the marriage and ruin this and that... well in my case it's her that is messing up the marriage, not the swinging. So tell her to love them either way... and just not come over for surprise visits on weekends and or ask for details on friends and all will be fine.
  7. Now take it from me. I have a 7 to 8 inch at home with my husband... and have many playmates that differ in size. I don't believe that bigger is better. I believe that if you know how to work what you have then you can be a 2 inch dick... or even can't keep it up at all. I have many guy friends that can't and I still enjoy them.... we just have a diff way of pleasure. Issues like that aside... I don't think you need to worry about size. I'm sure you know how to please your wife and that will keep her wanting you no matter what size the other guy or guys are. You do need to talk with her about all your fears though first... it's the only way to swing.
  8. Also, when we went, we agreed that I'd not get pissy and uptight and worry about anything. So I put myself in a state of mind that I was a sexy momma and that I wasn't as shy as I really was. For us, it was a surprise visit. I told him he could call the club and he made sure to tell them we'd be out there that Friday nigh, much to my shock. But I guess he knew me well. I did have fun and I soooo enjoy how I am today than back then. As he said that night, leave the worries and drama at the door. Just go to have fun and not worry about it.
  9. I was overly body shy when we started out. We started at an on premise club and have gone there as our club home for 3 yrs now. The trick is to talk to the hosts. Talk to the people there that are core (regulars). They will give you sooo much info it's crazy. Call a few clubs and ask them about your concerns. Ask them what most wear. Most are a casual but kinda dressy for the guys and something sexy or comfy for the ladies. At our club home we see people in slacks and polo shirts to shirts and ties. The ladies I've seen from the little black dresses to a skirt and sexy top. And after hours a knitted mini and bra. The best advice is to just go on a slower night. Depends on the place but Friday is usually slower and just go to have fun. Don't worry about finding someone. Just go to get out of the house and have some fun. (Fun not always being sex.) There is one cpl at our club that goes for the boobs. They like to see boobs and that's it. They go out there and look at boobs and suck a few willing ones and go home and fuck each other. Find a club that is your body type of a mix of them that way if you're body shy you know your not the biggest or smallest person there. That's a BIG help for those like me. If you have someone that is more pushy and you have tried to get rid of them, talk to the host or one of the core people there. They will help out and if it continues they throw them out. We have sooo many people that we go to a club they had issues at and I've asked them who they told this to and they say, "Ohhh, we didn't say anything We didn't want to rock the boat and all that." Do you know that many issues can be resolved and all will be happy if you just say, "Hey, this person is bugging me." Soooo PLEASE, IF YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH A PERSON AT A CLUB TELL SOMEONE THAT'S WORKING THERE OR THE HOST. Think of it this way, you do met a guy upstairs that you 'gave into' and he starts getting out of hand and you don't want to continue and someone does help you out of the issue. Now you're safe and later you find out that someone had the same problem earlier with the same guy. That could have been prevented if the first person said, "Hey, that guy's a creep and needs to be tossed out." And the last thing I guess would be make sure your on the same page as your spouse or date so that you don't go find them in bed with someone if you didn't agree to that. Make sure that you tell or ask the other if it's okay for you to go upstairs with this person or if your playing as a couple and what you can and can't do with someone else.
  10. well for the around here bit.... just find a place on your 'site of choice' and look at the pics and call around some maybe. and just go to see what's what and have a good time meeting people. i'd make sure they know your soft but other then that go and hang out and have fun.... just cus your at a party doesn't mean you have to play. find some place where your comfy at and like the people and you will meet people you will enjoy in the bedroom and out and every time you go out will be fun.
  11. well i'm with you ladies..... a friend of mine says he's just lazy when it comes to sex at home but who knows. to put it crudely last night is a good exsample for this. i asked if we could have some fun..... he turns over to get out a porn book, starts reading and petting the 'kitty' some and goes right for fucking... no as in nothing even touched my breast..... and hell i didn't even get a kiss. i've come to the conclusion that when we are out he's all into the foreplay cus he's got to impress the ladies and at home he doesn't... arge.... we have talked about it often and he's always saying well i don't want sex as much as you do.... its' like what does that have to do with it.... that's why you don't fuck more then once a week or two. arge..... sorry just had to add my husb into the mix and vent some.hehheheh
  12. Well for some that would work... for the wife that has a bi side but has no interest in other men. But for you it's not working. Sooooo, I'd say you need to either tell him it stops till your more equal with it... or if you can't give up the women then he's not aloud to fuck her and she's just for your pleasure. That will either change his mind or show him that hey... this isn't as equal as I thought it was... good luck.
  13. if your having problems with some guy then tell them your not interested and if they persist tell the host.. that's why we are there... (i help at a local club) we had one party where someone didn't want to complain and later on we had to really deal with a situation with him.. it could have been really bad and wished they would have said something.. so next time tell them no ty and if they don't get the picture then tell the host.. please.
  14. well i'd say the cpl would be better for the reasons that you like there personalities and such like that. you can't always tell what a person will look like really online and heck... i meet a single guy this last week that i though wasn't all that great, hot looking guy and when he walked into the house party i was floored at how attractive i found him. so don't judge by just pics. age .... hell i love my older playmates, i'm 29 and i have a guy or two that's almost or 20 yrs older and i love the playtime with them.. so don't go by age. the single guy.... you don't know and can't always tell if they are single or cheating on a spouse. i try my best to find out if they are doing just that and won't see them. it's just a desaster waiting to happen... so i'd stay away from that as well. singles are fun if you can trust they are single. so my vote is to meet the cpl for dinner and see if it turns into a night cap and playtime... make sure they know it can be just dinner or that if your comfortable with them it can be more. any good swinging cpl understands that and will respect that. if nothing else you might have new friends not to play with but more friends is always good.
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