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maniaco333 last won the day on June 1 2010

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About maniaco333

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  • Birthday 02/09/1972

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    Alabama
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  1. I don't think you shouldn't feel guilty about that....I don't know about you guys but we got into this lifestyle because we wanted each other to be happy and enjoy life and all of those wonderful things life has to offer and spontaneity is one of those beautiful things....we try to give a heads up every time but sometimes things just happen and it is a great thing and we do what you did which is just tell it immediately
  2. It has to be gut instinct... We are in the same situation and I trust my wife's instincts with some she does not want me to play solo and with others she is happy to let me play....let's be honest the women's intuition have to work better than the guys because at the time we are thinking with the wrong head...lol
  3. You gotta have some flexibility...I believe there is room for different kinds of relationships... as the male part of the couple I may be very into the female part of the other couple and my wife into the guy but that does not translate into me liking the guy as a friend....so there has to be that chemistry for a real friendship and it does happen....My wife had shared with her best friend that we were into swinging she was married at the time ...a couple of years later she divorced and started asking about our adventures she became interested and we started having threesomes with her on a regular basis for about 3 years...now she has a new relationship and is back to her vanilla life and to this day remains my wife's best friend...and a very dear friend of mine.We still go out for dinner and do vanilla stuff with her and love it . Cris
  4. My wife and I have an open relationship but the open not only applies to being able to play with others it also applies to full disclosure and complete honesty. If we felt like we could not trust each other on everything I don't think we can continue to do this.
  5. I believe the keyword here is "HONESTY" ... Can you really be happy in a relationship when you cant be honest and open about your feelings and sexual fantasies ? I believe that a lot of people go through life that way and may be content but not truly happy. I don't know of any statistics I can only speak of my personal experiences and in our case swinging did not lead us to a open relationship but the other way around....being honest and open with each other is what led us to the lifestyle. I get a great deal of pleasure not just in having sex with others but most of all in the fact that the freedom that most people loose when they go in a serious relationship I still have, and that I'm able to share that with the person I love the most. When you have the freedom to really be yourself without having any feelings repressed, any regrets and most of all somebody to share that with you just can't help being happy. We have a large circle of friends and when you see that some of those friends can be more honest with us than with their own spouses we can't help but wonder. I don't know about the rest of the nation but of all of our vanilla friends we just don't know anyone that has a more solid marriage than ours.
  6. I believe that the path to swinging is one that the couple will find if it is something that they are interested in. You shouldn't bring it up . Some couples find swinging as away to expand some others will expand their relationsip in a totally different way, each relationship is unique and no one but the couple should steer it in a different direction. thats my 2 cents.
  7. If it is an ex who she had feelings for in the past I would say a resounding NO, but I believe it would be OK if it is and ex fuck buddy or ex FWB.
  8. I have always told my sexual partners that my wife knew and that she was ok with it, and met my wife before they become sexual partners and I had one that backed away once she met my wife, I asked her what happened and she said that she couldn't do this to her after she met her and saw what a great woman my wife is. I could not believe what I was hearing, there are people out there that would rather cheat than to be with someone who has been OK'd by his wife to play, she went on to say that the whole open relationship was to weird. Some people must enjoy hiding and lying better than honesty but that is only one bad experience, I have had several great experiences in this lifestyle and while most of my partners have been shocked when they are told the truth, later they admit that is a pretty cool thing and that they wished everyone thought like us
  9. Here is what happened to me: I'm the male half of a happily married couple, we play together and also have the freedom of playing separate. I got a FWB who I've playing with on and off for over a year I was upfront with my marital arrangement and she was cool with it although a bit skeptical at first until she met my wife and saw for herself. She was fascinated by the idea that my wife was cool with it and one day she tells me about this coworker of hers that really had the hots for me and I really liked her to we flirted for some time and exchanged a few phone calls. She told me that she wanted to go out and spend a night with me. I agreed and explained that my wife was aware of what was happening, that she would always know, and she said that that was creepy and did not go through. So go figure which one works best!! I'm sticking with honesty. If it does not work out at least I don't feel bad about lying.
  10. I know that every relationship is different and lots of people are only comfortable with same room swap or only swinging together. But for us opening our relationship has really worked. I (male) had a couple of relationships with other women and when I come home and tell my wife about all the little details it gets her really turned on plus with two of those women we were able to have FFM threesomes later on. My wife has also had sex with other males and it always makes our great sex life even better and I am happy to report that we just had our first ever MMF threesome this past Saturday night and it was with a single male that she had played on one previous ocassion. I'm sure everyones path into the lifestyle has been unique and not everyone is comfortable with open relationships but you just gotta figure out what you are OK with and what might work for you.
  11. here is my little 2 cents: A couple that invites another couple for drinks and hot tub time just may not be as vanilla as you think, is it possible that they were just in the closet ? do they know that you guys swing ? if you guys have not come out to them they just might be doing the same.
  12. Ask her jokingly if she would like to borrow your husband for some wild sex and after both of you get through laughing say ...No seriously just a thought
  13. Swinging is never a solution to any problems in a marriage. Swinging is one of the many step two's a healthy marriage can take. To us swinging is kinda of a test of the foundation of our relationship, since you already know that that foundation is not solid don't be surprised when everything crumbles down.
  14. That should be a new experience and a turn on for any single guy. You got to remember that guys will spend a lot of money buying girls drinks just for the hope of getting some making out or sometimes just a phone number. Why would would any guy turn this chance down when they know that if they play cool they would be on the short list of candidates whenever you guys are ready to progress to the next step and go all the way. Mr Maniaco333
  15. What has worked for me is an introduction to my wife so they can see that she is cool with it and if I stop to "visit" a friend on my way home from work I usually make it a point to call my wife when I get there so my friend can see that I got nothing to hide. Honesty is always the best policy.
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